my ex had sex with a drug dealer while he was drunk, at a party that he didnt invite me to. afterwards i requested that they didnt have any contact for a while because i was really hurt, and a week later they were hanging out.

Jessie Wallace made out with another guy and possibly did more but I'm not sure. Her husband James Wallace has no clue. My wife would divorce me if I gave her up to him but I promised myself if he asked me I wouldn't lie.

My mother split with my dad for about a year to go out with a guy who was 5 years older than me. When she got back with my dad, the other guy kept insisted she sleep with him again. Because, for some reason, she kept going to visit him, ruining any chance he had of a relationship with his new woman. Anyway, after much insistence on his part, she slept with him, then, I'm guessing because of guilt, slept with my dad in the same day. She says it wasn't cheating, but I'm not stupid. She said she told me because she knew I wouldn't judge her. I lost my respect for her that day. Still love her, but I don't respect her.

Errold P.

WOW, For every point I get some one out there takes it away. I must have really scared a lot of low-life cheaters out there who don't want to end up getting outed.

This is not a question.

A guy I used to date off and on years ago married one of my good friends but won't touch her sexually. They've been together 3 years and never have had sex. And yet on my husband's birthday a while back, he made a pass at me. And to add more fuel to this fire, he gives rides to women on a daily basis and doesn't allow his wife to go along. He's gone for long enough for them to have had sex several times and it's always late at night. When he and I dated, we never did anything either but he acted like he wanted to do things with me the whole time. And now it's like he's punishing her because he and I never did anything. And he controls her every move like he wished he could do to me but I never let him. She's trying to take her marriage vows seriously but he's not. He doesn't make passes at me anymore because I turned the cops loose on him after I caught him spying on me while driving past my house three times in less than an hour. And she lets him treat her like crap even though she knows what I know. He cheated on me when we were together too, but then I also had someone on the side. So I let it go. But this is hurting my friend and since he stays away from me now, he makes her stay away too. He's punishing her for his own stupid mistakes. And here's the ultimate kicker. He's his mother's robot. And his mother has practically made her a slave.

It's none of my business and less of yours'. / What happened? Did someone cheat on you? / If someone cheated on you it was probably because you're putting your nose into other people's business. This is the 21st century, old Victorian rules are over, honey, and if you want to wear suits and ties and go to church every Sunday--go right ahead-- but don't demand that everyone else do so too. / This is what we call "gossip." It's one of the most serious of vices. Usually old women indulge in it. What's your excuse?

The cheater is Brian Dargis of Elk River MN soon to be married 8/8/08. He cheated on his fiancee after only 2 months of being engaged with his ex-girlfriend who he has continually been in contact/spent time with off and on over the past 3 years. He used the ex-girlfriend for help on a college project and would share every detail of what was going on in his life except for the getting married part. The fiancee has no idea that he did this I am sure. The ex-girlfriend didn't even know he was engaged till she found out from a friend this spring. Ex-girlfriend has since sent a letter to the fiancee and the bastards mother letting them know what he has been up to. It may not make a difference but at least the truth has been set free. What else can she do in seeking revenge?

It sounds like the ex is still in love with him and is angry (rightfully so). Otherwise she wouldn't be spending so much time on seeking revenge. She's hurt and damn well should be, but she needs to understand she's an "ex" for a reason and it sounds like that reason still exists and hasn't been resolved, (be it from her decision or from his). Trust is not easy to obtain and once you do and it's broken, it's even harder to get back. I hope that the Fiance and the ex girlfriend both abandon the idiot. He's not worthy of either one of them and they should move on and try to learn from the experience and seek someone worthy of their love and devotion. Don't let the man have that much credit as to take up that much room in your life. He's not worth it. And although hurting him may be sweet, you don't want to lower yourself to his level. Rise above and hurt him with "you don't matter, and I'm worth better than the likes of you". Losing both of you will do it all by itself.

Unless they read this site, the accountability for thier actions is futile. Hurt only begets hurt. I hope you get past yours, he's not worth it.