There is now way that you cannot allow yourself to be happy, just see a doctor and they should perscribe you some pills to help.

If I can't see myself as being happy or even feeling happy, then I don't find satisfaction in trying to make others happy. I don't think that making someone else feel happy will solve your problems; I think that the person needs to seek happiness by solving whatever problem he/she is battling with.

You can try, and it may seem natural and fitting to try. But I assure you that it won't work.

Getting outside myself and helping another person is actually one of the best ways I know to feel happy.

I have it both ways so I can't honestly answer your question, but it's a right good question you've asked Jack!

i think you just described every artist, ever.

I don't think so. If you are a negative, unhappy person, what could you possibly bring to others to cause them to be happy? It would be phony and I'm pretty sure others would know that...joy begets joy..happiness begets happiness..I don't think pessimism/unhappiness can beget its opposite. Just my opinion! Happy Monday! :)

When someone asks me what to do to get out of a depression one of the first things I say is go volunteer and help others. My getting out of yourself you see there is more to the world than your own dark corner. However the person has to be willing to do that and it is true that you are less willing to help others when you yourself are in pain. But for some people it does work.

I'm know I'm a wee bit dense at times but why exactly couldn't someone allow them self to be happy? This is one of those things that convolutes my head. True happiness is what we feel when we have done something to make someone feel happy but they can't feel too happy if you don't reflect that happiness back to them. Say you have 2 choclate covered donuts. You really love them and are dying to eat them. It will make you feel good to eat them but it won't give you true happiness. But say I come along and admire your chocolate donuts and I'm all cute and smiling at you and winking and it starts to piss you off because you really don't want to share your chocolate donuts. You start to walk off, really mad, with your donuts. But then you think the least I could do is make her happy if I can't allow myself to be happy. So you come back and insist I have one of your yummy chocolate donuts. I'm so grateful and happy and smiling and you give me the donut and walk off without smiling or chatting or "allowing yourself to be happy for what you've done". I have a chocolat donut now but I feel like an ass because you didn't reflect my happiness back to me. Now if you had smiled and thought she is a lovely person and look how happy she is and we had shared stories about ourselves and left reflecting each other's happiness we would both be happy. Third scenario, I grab your donuts and run cramming them in my mouth only to wind up with a terrible stomach ache and diarrhea and neither of us happy. Won't a chocolate donut?

I enjoy making other people happy and commit random and incognito acts of kindness which brings me great joy.

I once heard that when you dig another person out of trouble/pain, you then have a place to bury your own trouble/pain.

Sure, I try to make people happy everyday. I would like to be happy everyday too, but Im not. I love to see my family happy, it's very satisfying.

Yes you could :)

Well, if you got satisfaction from making others happy, wouldn't that cause you to be happy?

I think that a whole lot of people who work with others, making them happy, in order to be happy. When a person is really meant to be a teacher or a nurse or a homeless shelter volunteer, it does really take them outside of their own world and makes them happy. I think that if I could and had a chance, I would love to be able to do something like that. Does this make sense?

Trying, and it's trying.

nop, its quit difficult but everything is possible depend upon the sitution