This really depends on your values and religious beliefs. For me, it is not a big deal to have sex first.

There is no one "right" answer to this question in my opinion. Some cultures forbid it so there would be extreme guilt..it would depend upon the age of the participants..it would depend upon the way one looks at intimacy..some people are very casual about sex and some are not. If you are definitely a "grownup" and have no particular sexual hangups, and your religion doesn't make you feel like a sinner, I don't see a problem..expecially if you have had other serious relationships in the past. Again, this is a very delicate issue and each situation needs to be handled in a way that is appropriate to the people involved. :)

Hello honey! So I don't think you are weird, by any means. I actually stand up and applaud you for being able to stick to your morals and values that is very important and I think it's wonderful that you have the will power to do so. I love the idea of waiting, and let me tell you, I wish I had. I treated it like it wasn't something special and did it because I felt like I had to, I felt so dirty and ashamed it was horrible. They only positive thing about doing it before hand is that you know if you and your partner are compatible in the bedroom and there are some ppl that just aren't, no matter how much they love each other, it just doesn't work for them, and sometimes that can lead to them wondering and trying new things, and that is bad. There are so many positives of waiting and I don't think I need to tell you most of them, but take this from someone who has been there, My hubby was married before and there is nothing worse them imagining your SO making passionate love to anyone else. It is just creepy and really sadening to think he did that with someone else, at least for me. Some ppl don't care, and I don't dwell on it,but it's always still there. He wouldn't want to think of me with anyone else either. Also, you would always wonder if you are up to par with other ppl your SO has been with. This one can be a major pain in the butt too, because they would never tell you if you weren't the best they ever had, so you never really believe it. Again, I don't dwell on this, I know my hubby is happy with our sex life and that is all that matters, but these were the things I did worry about at first and they are real emotions just let yourself realize that this stuff doesn't just go away you just have to let it go and think of you and him now. Good luck and stick with your morals and values. You only control yourself and you are doing a great job. Don't let anyone bully or pressure you into something you don't want to do or that you don't feel comfortable with, it isn't worth the way you will feel in the morning. Take care and good luck!;~}

In my honest opinion I think it is best to wait for marriage. However that doesn't mean that I believe those who don't are bad people. If you're just doing it cause it feels good and for no other reason then by all means go right ahead and don't let my opinion stop you. However if you are looking for a special experience that will help bond you even closer to that one you have chosen to give your heart to then I think that waiting til you are married to that person makes it even more special. I can't really explain why I feel that way as it is hard to put into words.

It sounds all well and good but if you feel strongly about a person and the feeling is mutual, why wait. Of course this is if you are capible to taking care of your self, financially and mentally you and your partner are able to handle any of the other outcomes that come along with being sexually responsible.

If you're gonna get married quite early, like late teens/early twenties, and you're religious you might a swell, but for example I wont finish university till i'm 23, then I have years of being a junior doctor, working stupid hours struggling to pay of debt, and don't see any point in waiting till i'm married, which could be in 10 years time! (I'm 17). So anyways, i've been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months now, I love him and he's not pressuring me into anything, and although i don't thinkI'll marry him in the end 'cos life doesn't work out like that, I think in a few months prehaps...

In my opinion, you should have sexual relations when you are in love with the person and can trust them. Not everyone believes in marriage, so for some people no its not best to wait. But if your belief system says to wait and you believe its best, then wait. Its diffrent for every person. Myself, I didnt wait until marriage and I have no real regrets.