If your daughter gets pregnant why is it automatically the boy's fault? Wasn't she present, legs wide apart, while he had an orgasm inside her?
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i hate it when people do that, its a 50/50 deal, its both their faults and both should take responsibility.
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LMAO!! What a point to bring up!! Lets see some defensive parents scream at you!! Same with giving birth (by that I mainly mean seeing it in movies) when a woman is screaming in pain, and blames the husband!!
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its both of their fault and the parents responsibilities in the kids are minors
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People refuse to believe their precious baby angel girls could DO such a thing. It's both faults. Yes, boys are hornier at that age (don't say Im wrong.), but that's no excuse. It takes 2 to make a baby!
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Who says it's automatically his fault? Unless she is way under age and he is an adult..in which case it is his fault because he should not have been with her in the first place.
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It takes two to make a baby they both are responsible for the baby and back in the day it was expected for the boy to sow his wild oats and now women are more liberated and can do what they want also.If a man has intimate relations with a women it's "wow way to go "with a pat on the back but if a women does watch out shes will be called every name in the book. double standard if you ask me.
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It takes two people to make a baby!!! They are both responsable; although girls are programed by society to be submissive!?!?
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Its a 50/50 thing. It takes two to tango. I think its just uterlly stupid to blame only one party when they evenly took part in being so unresponsible
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Unless it was rape, they're both responsible. The only thing is though is that teenage guys often abandon thier responsibility after it happens and the girl is stuck with it. There is where the guys are at fault alone. Having said that, young ladies are equally at fault when it happens.
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Yes. If my daughter gets pregnant (god forbid!) I would probally still get upset at the guy, but being a teen when she was born I would be more understanding.
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Hmmmmmm... didn't know it was supposed to be his fault. Thanks for letting me know... ;-)
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Usually they blame the girl.
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Who says we only blame one and not the other? I see it as six people's fault. Two kids and four adults. The only thing is it's usally the girl and her parents who get left cleaning up the mess after Romeo abandons Juliette.
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I don't remember it being only his fault. But it is certainly 50% his fault, no more-no less.
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Who said it was automatically the boys fault?
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Okay he uses a condom and everyone okay w the banging?
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It is condom's fault! Because it was not there for kids when they needed it.
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i agree with u 100% and i dont think that it NEEDS to be the boys nor the girls job to provide portection girls and boys need to be carrying condoms. girls should be on some kind of contraceptive when they are thinking of having sex. i hate parents that wont put their daughters n birth control becaue they think that will make them have sex. if they want to have sex they WIll have sex. at least this way the stuck up parents have a better chance of not having to be stuck up grandparents as well
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i dont know why some parents think that but my grandpa(guardian) has said if i ever get preg he'll kill my guy whom i've been with for over a year and a half....some people just forget to use their brains at times i guess
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I think blaming one more than the other is just the parents inability to cope with the situation. They both made the child, now they must both be responsible for it.
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No one wants to visualize their precious daughter with her legs spread to Egypt moaning and groaning. So it's easier to "think" that the boy conned her into when the truth of the matter is... She most likely sweet talked him into "experimenting" a little.
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I have heard it both ways, The girl is at fault, because "she is easy", and the boy is at fault, because, "boys will be boys".
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Yep! That's generally how it works outside of artificial insemination. It's automatically BOTH thier falt though. She's the one with the bigger problem when all is said and done.
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you know, i'm only 13 years old, but i never really understood why they always blame the boy. i've never had sex before, and i won't unless i'm married, but really, it's both of their fault. unless she was raped, then it's his fault. or in an irregular circumstance, she raped him and made him get her pregnant. which is VERY UNLIKELY. but if that ever happened, it would be her fault.
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Why does someone have to be at fault?? The focus should be on where they go from here. My hope is that the entire focus will be on what is best for the baby . . . not what anyone else wants. A baby deserves a mother and a father in a stable home.
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OK! Here is my opinion for me its all about the age, what age is the boyfriend and if the girl is mentally ready for it, when i was 12 i had girlfriends asking me about if they should or not to have sex, 'cause their boyfriends were kind of Pushing it" and after my first child i realized why its so important, woman do not care, fall in love (the innocent), and sometimes for pleasure (the easy ones), it all depends with what intention its being done from both sides, but being a tabu on woman we don't talk about it that simple and its embarrasing for us to buy condoms or it was for me when i was younger and before i had my first child( but now i'll go and look for a person to help me out to get some, i don't care! but back to the issue.. if the guy its getting advantage of a naive girl use to satisfy his needs and after she gets pregnant leaves her alone, it all depends on the intention of both and what happens after that.
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If girls want to be treated as the equal of boys then they must accept half of the responsibility for the pregnancy.
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It's not just the boy's fault, it's both their fault. Unless it was a rape.
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Well it would be if he didnt wear protection other wise its bothe their faults.
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mmmmmmm will i dnt think its hes foult only but why do teens get pregnet is it that hard to use a condom
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Men are persuasive they can take any innocent girl and turn her into a whore. they have a way of manipulating and convincing a girl into having sex with them.
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BECAUSE HE SHOULD HAVE PULL IT OUT. YES
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I agree with you but lets just say its a small price for the boys to pay...mainly because (in most cases,but not all)the girl is left holding the baby anyway.Its her life that is put on hold and its her that has to sacrifice her social life,her schooling etc,etc...
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thats is the case but not always SOMEtimes the girl is drugged
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as a teenage girl i can personally tell you when my mom found out i had sex she freaked really bad on MY BOYFRIEND never said anything out of the way to me tho and i think thats wrong it was my decision too and i noticed someone said teen guys are hornier.....umm not always true im usually just as ready as he is
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Damn what parents are you talking about? my parents didn't say shit about my BF it was ALL me.
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I didn't know it is always said to be the boy's fault...Most people agree it's both people's fault.
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What you're trying to say is true. I couldn't agree more. Unless if there's a solid reason that the guy had forced her into having sex with him , i dont see why else should a guy be blamed 'automatically'. It does take 2 to make a baby.
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Lmao. I got pregnant at 14, 15 now, and I wish my parent's had the same opinions. lol it was "all my fault" to them. even the dad's mother says it isn't his fault, it's mine, and now he doesn't want a baby so hes a virgin lol. I guess they think the guy made her. it's just whatever though... <3 x
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I think that a parent who has any child become a parent is more likely to pass blame on the boyfriend/girlfriend. It's hard to believe your own child could make such a huge error. Of course, in the end, it's both of their fault and they need to step up and take responsibility for their actions.
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No. She was there but in their eyes she was on the recieving end and has to carry the kid and he doesn't have to be present in the kids life.
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You assume I agree with what you say is the automatic belief of others - I don't. It was / is a joint responsability, so to speak.
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I do believe its both of their faults in the end. But the reason why people blame the boy is because he provided the sperm and society believes that the boy usually pressures the girl into sex. Eh I think it's 50/50 though. In the end they both had fun. In most cases that is...
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It's foremost the girl's fault. She has the say whether or not the sex will happen. She has to spread her legs open.
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It isn't automatically the boy's fault, stop making generalizations. It was mutual. get over it! It's like making the generalization that when a guy get's a girl pregnant, it's the girl's fault and it's her responsibility to take care of the kid while he's off the hook and impregnates another girl. See what I mean? Immature generalizations that don't get you anywhere.
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I don't think I've ever heard that actually. I'm smart enough to know it takes two to tango.
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Its 50/50. But some parents refuse to belive their little angels could do anything like that. So they blame the boy. Then there are boy's who love the sex but wont take responsibility for they mistakes. Then the girls are left with the child.
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yes, but no parent wants to realise that it's their child that messed up. they always want to blame the other person first, its a parent thing but we all know it takes two, we just want to be in denial for a while
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Fault? Well I suppose the fault should be equally divided but not just in 50/50 portions. Who is responsible for teen pregnancy? I'd say there are plenty of players in this. The children themselves, parents, schools and health authorities. We don't put a kid in a car and assume they know how to drive without some education...why do we seem so scared to educate about sex? I have to say I disagree with the posters statement "why is it automatically the boy's fault" I honestly have never encountered that. Boys can walk away with no outward sign of their actions. Not so much for girls.
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Parents don't want to believe that their innocent little girl would do such a thing. If she had sex, it's obviously because some devilish boy talked her into it. Of course she wouldn't decide to have sex of her own free will! With that said, there are a few instances when it is the man's fault, such as rape.
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Its hard to see your child end up pregannt at a young age but the unfortunate truth is that is was both of there faults for not using protection or taking a morning after pill
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So, what if her legs weren't wide apart then is it less her fault?lol Sorry couldn't resist. Really, it is just as much her fault as it is his, and both should take care of the child equally.
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I totally agree! it is both their faults, not just hers OR his. It takes 2 to tango.
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it's not always the teens parents fault. did they go out and have that pregnacy, no. it's a 50-50 shot. he might have been in her , but she let him. she had her legs open, trying to have an adult experience, even though she's not.
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He should have been more careful.
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Yes this is a very common occurence during sex. It almost never works if the girl isnt there when a guy has an orgasm, even if her legs are wide apart. To understand this maybe look up pregnancy online.
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Who said it's "automatically the boy's fault?"
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I have never heard the boy being blamed completely....In fact I usually hear the girl getting blamed and being called the whore while the guy is usually viewed in an indifferent manner.
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I didn't know it was viewed as the boys fault. In fact, my dad pretty much blamed me when I got pregnant (out of wed-lock, with my fiance) last june. However, we lost the baby 8/31. Sore subject. Still mourning :(
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It's easier to blame someone else. It's the same with cheating spouses. Let's say Joe cheats on Mary with Susie... Mary will blame Susie - as will many other people - ignoring the fact that it was Joe who promised to love, honour and protect and so on, not Susie. PS: The idea that a man - any man - is "unable to control himself" is untrue. Convenient, but untrue.
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