How does a person deal with past rapes. I was raped as a child then young adult by ex boyfriends now I can't think about having sex without hating myself help !
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I think that therapy will help you big time. I have the same problem. Only I was molested by my dad, my brother, and my brothers friend. I have been in therapy for the last 4 years. It is helping me. But to me I think that talking about the abuse it harder than the actually incident. I wish you luck.
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You have survived horrible experiences. Please get help in the form of therapy it will take a long time to heal and will be difficult but you are worth it and you can do it!
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Sorry to say none of us can change the past; there are things I would change if I could. So we have to do the next best thing, consciously and speaking the words outloud forgive the ones who raped you. It is hard to do but if you can call out each one by name and say you forgive them for what they did. With that done, praise yourself all the time and tell yourself you are a good person. Tell yourself and believe it you have done nothing wrong because you have not done anything wrong. Remember good consensual sex is to be fun and enjoyable, don't hate yourself! It is not easy but build yourself up and don't degrade yourself. You can go get theropy but they will basically tell you the same thing in different words. You have made the big step by asking here. I have lots of faith in you.
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therapy is the right answer, maybe see if theres a group in ur area where there are other ppl u can talk to just keep reminding urself that it was not ur fault and not all men are gonna hurt u
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