My boyfriend and I are currently in two separate rooms not talking due to a minor argument. If I were wrong, I would definitely say so... But he was the immature one and should apologize. Should I go talk to him or let him come talk to me?
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Shay37
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Oh please. Relationships are about compromise. Once you make up, it will not matter one whit who apologized first. Start with describing how you are feeling right now, and perhaps neither one of you will need to apologize. That would show a lot of maturity.
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Does it matter who apologizes. If you continue to ignore him then you are being wrong because it's immature. So get up and go talk to him...NOW!!!;)
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it depends, sometimes when you think you're right, you're being irrational... if you truly believe it was himself doing the error, tell him that politely, and that you are upset... see what comes next
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Let it ride...he'll wait three days and then break the silence. It's an unspoken rule. That was a joke. Someone here needs to be the adult, right? I agree with the others. Life is about yielding and compromise. Talk through it and have great make-up 'stuff'.
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u should talk to him and settle it . but just warning you, dont make it a habit that u always apologize first. dont be prideful just dont let him get the hint that he doesnt have to do his part too, good luck :)
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Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. Go talk.
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Do you want to be right? Or do you want to have peace? If there is a problem between you and someone else, always be the one to go and make that peace, no matter if you are right or wrong or both. It just doesn't matter. If each person always tries to meet with the other person, disagreements will be over in no time. So show him how it is done, and go speak with him.
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You know, it's not that I'm doubting you, but are you sure it's his fault, and you aren't wrong? Women seem to have this impression that they're always right, and they refuse to admit to being wrong. Anywho, if it IS his fault, let him come to you, BUT, remember this, relationships take two to tango, and if you want him to give in, sometimes you'll have to give in as well. Sometimes it takes one person showing they don't have to win, for the other to be inspired to do the same. Good luck.
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Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, 5 does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. 6 It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 Think about these principles above and then come to your own conclusion.
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What would love do? Do you want to "win" or do you want to have a loving, caring relaltionship?
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You need a new boyfriend. Break up with him, and go out with me.
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When has the silent treatment ever helped anyone? It's one thing to give someone the silent treatment, but it's another thing to have your space without the intent of giving someone the silent treatment.
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Sometimes guys tend to be a little bull headed and think that they are always right no matter what, even when they a very wrong. But, yes you should go talk to him. Settle it but make sure to tell him why you think that he should apologize and what you think he did wrong and maybe he will see that really he was wrong.
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He probably feels exactly the same way..that you were the immature one and should apologize..maybe you were, maybe he was, maybe you both were..but wouldn't it be nice to be back on good terms? So how hard would it be to go in and say "that was silly, wasn't it?" That would break the ice, you wouldn't have to admit it was your fault but you wouldn't force him to admit it was his fault either! Happy Saturday! :)
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Maybe you should go talk to him. Not exactly apologise but see how he feels about the situation. I don't know how long ago this arguement took place but he has probably calmed down by now
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After 42 years of marriage to the same woman, i can tell you this...... The longer an arguement goes unresolved, the hotter the fire becomes. Whatever and whomever was at fault, should not matter. Work out the problem the way you believe will have the best ending. You are there and we are here. only you know what course to take.
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I would have to know more about the situation, what was going on before the "minor argument" did he have a rough day at work? Did you? You're pregnant, right? Is he feeling the crunch time? Are you? Who is usually the one to compromise in your relationship? If it's you, do you want it to always be you? Was he immature or was he mean and spiteful? Was he just stupid or intentional cruel and hurtful? Is he likely to come to you and apologize? I think once you answer these questions, you'll know better whether you, not only what to go to him, or even want to continue the relationship if this is a pattern of behavior. Better alone than have your self-esteem tortured for years in front of your chilrden. And if you think they don't know because you don't think you fight in front of them - you would be very worng.You would be dooming your daughters to the same relationships and your sons would treat other women the same way.
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Does it really matter who's right and who's wrong? By you being the first to make a move doesn't mean you're admitting defeat, it just means you'd rather be talking than not talking :)
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Well I think you need to elaborate on the minor disagreement so we can better understand the extent of the immaturity and whether you're owed an apology or owe one.
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You're acting like children. Seriously.
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