Would you teach your child to "hit back" at school if somebody hits them?
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DillaDolla26
ANSWERS: 19
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Defend with vigor don't hit.
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If the person hits them first, the game on! I'll never punish my child for defending themselves and I'll sue the school system if they punish her.
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Defense is the best offence; after you hit back once or twice, you probably won't be hassled again. So, yes, if someone hits my child I hope she lays them out.
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yes I would and I did. Kids who allow themselves to be hit with no consequence soon become targets for more of the same. If they report it they become "tattlers" which is a stigma most kids do not want. I know things are different these days but when my kids were growing up, they had their little schoolyard scuffles and when it was done, it was done. No guns, no knives, no 10 or 12 on one, no lawsuits. If they were caught by the teacher they both got a paddling, detention or suspended and that was usually the end of it.
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yes and do!!!
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NEVER. teach them defense. But NOT REVENGE. If they don't need to hit back, then don't. Karate would be good for them - it teaches defense, but also discipline, the knowledge of WHEN to use force. NEVER teach a kid to hit another under any circumstances. There is enough abuse and agression in this world. Teach your child lessons that will keep them from being hit in the first place. That is the job of a parent.
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my dad said to beat the #@$@ out of them but im pacifist so i didn't
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Course. I mean obviously they would get in trouble with the school but that is inconsequential. If someone would want to strike at them, then first of all, you don't want them to look like a wimp and ruin any reputation they have by not fighting back. Secondly, fighitng back wards off future attacks towards them. Thirdly, they'll get the worse end of it if they don't fight back.
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Yes i did. Same as i was taught. Don't start fights,walk away if you can,but if you have to,nail him good.
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no, i wouldn't. violence generates violence. doesn't matter who started it, if your child hits back, they're bringing themselves down to the other kid's level of ignorance.
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No. In many public schools now -- you hit back you get suspended too.
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Yes and do. It is ok to finish what someone else starts!
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i dont but my husband sure does +5
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Most parents wouldn't encourage their kid to be violent but the world can be violent sometimes and if a child is taught to walk away IF possible all good. However, that kid will not become a fully rounded person if they get hit and never learn to hit back if the conflict is inescapable. Teaching moderation is good but teaching kids about all outcomes and how best to handle each scenario is better. Sometimes you have to hit back for the greater good; it may be a tough lesson but it's a vital one and could serve them well in later life. A bullied kid who never hits back or always has to run to authority may one day snap (Columbine style) or get snapped for real as an adult. Confidence and maturity are about knowing when it's necessary to fight back and you can make way better judgements if you know you have the choice.
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I would encourage them only to stick up for themselves. If they are called a name, they should call a name back. If another Child hits them.. its not always plausable to 'find a teacher' when your face is being pounded on, I don't see any problem with them defending themselves, and i wouldn't punish them for it! Infact I think i'd say well done.
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Never, never, never. I do not believe in eye for an eye. It teaches people to be just as hurtful as those hurting you. And it teaches people to hurt people on the grounds of spurious justice. As adults we have a judicial system to deal with those that hurt us. What children learn they will tend to bring to their adult lives, unless they realise that perhaps such lessons were not correct in their view. I have taught my children never to hurt anyone if they are hurt. Not even if they are verbally antagonised. We are quite a meek and mild family. I'd like to keep it like that.
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I would tell them to defend themselves.
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I was taught that, so yes..but only in self defense, of course!
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If I had small kids they'd know how to block an attacker & take them down if necessary! :-/
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