You and your ex need to discuss the visiting times and for how long. Mostly they should stay where they are from but durng holidays you should get them. like you get them for thanksgiving and she gets them for xmas. But than the next year, you switch off. And during summer you should get them.

If you are the parent moving out of state, you will have to pay 100% for the transportation for visitation. Read your court order to see if it states that you can not transport your child out of state or a more local location. If not, you can. The issues that will need to be addressed will be how and when visitation will be happening. If you are unable to mediate this with your ex-wife and draw up a new court order mandating this, you will have to go to court to have it changed. Usually when a parent lives out of state and there are not any other issues involved, ie, abuse, drunkenness, etc., visitation will include a larger portion of the summer vacation, but that is something you will have to talk to your ex and/or attorney about.

I am in the same situation. I am looking to relocate to another state. My divorce order says "Neither party shall remove the child from the state without advance written warning which shall not be unreasonably withheld" If my ex does not agree to change visitation, can I just leave the state without changing it? My son is 14 and old enough to ask his mom to come visit me, but can I get in legal trouble for leaving the state without changing visitation? I paid a lawyer 2K to handle this for me, but now that I paid him, he is saying that if my ex doesn't agree, it will cost me more money. I make $14.00 an hour in NJ (peanuts) and I had to beg and borrow to get the money to pay the lawyer. I can't afford to pay more. I am sure that once she calms down, I can work something out with my ex, but can she get me in trouble if I am not seeing him everyother week, like it says in the court order. I will continue to pay child support, or course.

I am considering moving out of state for college but plan to return, how would that effect my current custody battle. It is just begining so there is nothing saying i can't, however i'm afraid if i leave my ex won't allow her to come visit. the college i am looking into is 5 hours away.. could be worse.. but not great. I couldn't stand to not see my daughter, but i need an education to support her. what should i do?

Though moving away from your child is a dumb idea, here's what you needed. Long Distance Visitation You should know that the highest rates of denial of court ordered visitation takes place when it involves long distance visitation. You should file an Injunction to prevent the move pending a full court hearing. If you want to learn how to do all this go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. Upon joining, you will receive a link for downloading a 200 page educational manual that can teach you what you need to know. Take the time to learn what you can and should do. Dads House http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/DadsHouse/ If the court decides to allow the move, here's what needs to be considered: Parents Who Reside Over 100 Miles Apart. Except as otherwise explicitly provided, if the non-custodial parent resides more than 100 miles from the residence of the child, the non-custodial parent shall have the right to possession of the child as follows: (1) every Spring school vacation from 6 p.m. on the day school recesses until 6 p.m. on the day before school resumes after that vacation; (2) if the non-custodial parent: (A) gives the Custodial parent written notice by May 1, of each year specifying an extended period or periods of summer possession, the non-custodial parent shall have possession of the child for 42 days between June 1 and August 31, to be extended in no more than two separate periods of at least seven consecutive days each; or (B) does not give the custodial parent written notice by May 1 of each year specifying an extended period or periods of summer possession, the non-custodial parent shall have possession of the child for 42 consecutive days beginning at 6 p.m. on June 15 and ending at 6 p.m. on July 27; (5) if the custodial parent gives the non-custodial parent written notice by May 15 of each year or gives the non-custodial parent 14 days notice on or after May 16 of each year, the custodial parent shall have possession of the child on any one weekend from Friday at 6 p.m. to 6 p.m. on the following Sunday during any one period of possession by the non-custodial parent under subdivision (4) of this subsection, provided that if a period of possession by the non-custodial parent exceeds 30 days, the custodial parent may have possession of the child under the terms of this subdivision on any two nonconsecutive weekends during that time period, and further provided that the custodial parent picks up the child from the non-custodial parent and returns the child to the same place; and (6) if the custodial parent gives the non-custodial parent written notice by May 15 of each year or gives the non-custodial parent 30 days' written notice on or after May 16 of each year, the custodial parent may designate 21 days between June 1 and August 31, to be exercised in no more than two separate periods of at least seven consecutive days each, during which the non-custodial parent shall not have possession of the child, provided that the period or periods so designated do not interfere with the non-custodial parent's period or periods of extended summer possession or with Father's Day if the non-custodial parent is the father of the child. General Terms and Conditions. (1) Where parents under this decree reside in different areas and the child(ren) must travel between parents by public transportation, the custodial parent is ordered to deliver the child(ren) at the beginning of each period of possession herein awarded to the non-custodial parent, to the appropriate transportation terminal in the custodial parent's city of residence. Further, the custodial parent is ordered to pick up the child(ren) at the termination of each period of possession herein granted to the non-custodial parent, at the appropriate transportation terminal in the custodial parent's city of residence. The non-custodial parent is hereby ordered to pick up the child(ren) at the appropriate transportation terminal in the non-custodial parent's city of residence. Further, the non-custodial parent is ordered to deliver the child(ren) at the end of each period of possession herein awarded to the non-custodial parent, to the appropriate transportation terminal in the non-custodial parent's city of residence. (2) The custodial parent shall provide a $5000 cash or secured bond to the court, forfeitable to the other parent upon violation of the terms of the visitation orders. (3) The state of residency of the non-custodial parent shall retain all jurisdiction over the case, unless the non-custodial parent moves from the state. (4) Both parents shall provide the children: (a) Computer, (b) High speed internet service, (c) A Firewire web cam, and (d) An electronic tablet, which will be used for frequent contact between the child(ren) parent not in residence, with the ability to help with any homework.