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Jen-Jen
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Try to suspend disbelief and view each kept promise or positive comment made as evidence towards that person being trustworthy. Try not to question their motives all the time. It may work - it's helping me a bit, anyway :)
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Have the mind set that she can be trusted until she does something untrustworthy. Who knows, she may never do anything that will cause you not to trust her.
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The only way I know is trial and error..you have to put yourself out there and be willing to be vulnerable..if you choose well, you won't be betrayed..if you don't, you simply learn from that and move on. I don't know of any shortcut or easy way to do this! :)
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I think it's in our nature not to trust other women! I have 1 great friend whom I trust with my life....Anyother women I truly can't trust whole heartedly, it takes time!
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Trust is earned not given, time is the answer.
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I used to be the same when I was younger, then I got into therapy and realized it wan't other women I didn't trust but my own mother - things had happened (not her fault) to me as a child that had created this belief that she wasn't there for me. (I could weep remembering my feelings of hostility and rejection towards her for years! Sadly she died last year, but by then we were very close, thank god!) After therapy and resolving these old childhood issues I found I was free to love and trust my mother and found myself feeling good about other women too. I ADORE women now and have some great, trustworthy friends.
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Someone already alluded to the main issue here....not so much how can you learn to trust...but what is the cause of the mistrust. In my experience, most people with long term trust issues learned NOT to trust when they were infants...their needs were not adequately met at that time. In childhood development there is an excellent theory which explains it very well. Google Erikson's Theory of Psychosocial development. As an adult, understanding the cause will help you make the necessary adjustments inside yourself to overcome this chronic issue. A good counsellor would expedite this process. Good luck!!
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