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  • I am ver much against hitting children to discipline them, but I would be highly tempted. I suppose the right thing to do would be to talk to him, and tell him why it's not right to use violence to achieve a goal. Then I would offer to take him to see an anger management counselor.
  • Tie him to a chair and force him to watch a whole bunch of Lifetime movies. It will serve a double purpose: Psychological torture, and also it will make him feel like a dick because he'll feel like all those jerks in Lifetime movies that beat their wives and girlfriends. Also, you may want to consider taking him to a counselor or therapist.
  • Oh, that's a toughie...my first instinct would be to hit him, but upon some thought it doesn't make much sense to hit someone to teach them not to hit someone, now does it? I think I would sit him down and have a serious conversation about respect and anger managment. Perhaps figure out where this came from (was this a poor lapse in judgement, or the beginning of a pattern).
  • show him how to hit so it wont leave a bruise. just kidding i would get into depth of how that is no way to get the point across, ask him if he wants me to hit him when i am angry. and most likely anger management classes
  • I would contact a counselor immediatly!!! Do not ignore this, or he will only keep doing it. Don't let him be a statistic. Help him while you still have control of him, he will only get worse and more abusive the older he gets, than you will not be able to do anything about it, and he will end up in prison or maybe even kill them unintentionally. This is unexceptable! Good luck!!!
  • take himfor anger management before it got any worse but if i hit my g/f being a tennager myself i would go straight to the police station and tell them what i had done
  • i would ask him where he thought that kind of behaviour was acceptable - and why he thinks he can get away with it
  • As his father, I'd take him out back and show him how it feels. I'd then march him straight to the girl's house (assuming she lives with her parents) and sit him down with her and her parents and have him apologize. If the parents aren't in the picture, I would have a cop (a friend) with me. Then, I'd ask if she wanted to press charges. After that, who knows... I hate to get all testosterone, but when a guy crosses that line he needs another guy to put him in his place. I would want to scare the ever living crap out of him.
  • Sit him down and have a father and son chat about the emotional and legal implications as well at the unmanlynes of striking a female. We would talk about morality, chemistry between males and females, and how to work on NEVER doing this again. In the end, if this doesn't work, refer him to counseling (use any lever necessary) and see that he goes.
  • I couldn't hit my own, but I can tell them to get out, hitting each other tore my fmailiy apart whenI was young, over my dead body would I allow it in my home. Real men DO NOT hit girls for any reason.
  • i would get him into extensive anger management counseling and I wouldn't let him see his girlfriend again. I'd also find a place where I could show him the effects of battered women
  • I would sit him down and ask him to explain his actions and why he thought this was the only way to solve the problem. I would also take him to his g/f house and insist he apologise and also ask her if she wants to press charges. Having been in an abusive relationship myself I wish that my ex in-laws had done this the first time, maybe then there wouldn't have been umpteen more.
  • I would have a very stern conversation with him, get him some counseling, and make him apologize to the girlfriend. If he's doing this now, he'll keep doing it later!
  • DON'T YOU EVER HIT HER AGAIN!
  • I would be shocked since my son respects women, in general. Once I find out that it's true, I would talk with my son and get him some help. Now that's how "I" would handle it, his father may whoop his ass.
  • "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Obviously I'd give him what he appears to want. Now this may sound sexist, but I doubt his girlfriend would be able to hit him with he amount of force he uses on her, so I'd step up using the appropriate proportion of force.
  • to be really honest, i think my first reaction would be to feel ashamed, for him, but also for me. i think respect for women (and everything else too of course) is really really really important, and if my child would have hit his girlfriend then that would have seriously undermined one of the core values i would have tried to bring him up with. i think i would feel like i failed in my parenting. i think i would first have a good long talk with him. ask him what he was thinking, and why he did what he did. i would also let him know how disappointed i am in his actions. then i think i would try to let him see somehow what being abused does to a girl/woman. i realise this is really hard, and i dont know how i would do that to be honest. i am really glad i am not in this situation, and i hope you are not in it either. i dont have children yet, so this is also all hypothetical for me. i know that i could react totally different when i really get in to this situation some day (lets hope i never do), but this is just my opinion . right now its the best i can offer.
  • So help me i would beat the hell outta him. It would never happen as he isnt like that at all, but hypothetically.. i would be so dissapointed and angry with him, i dont think i could forgive him. I cannot stand men being violent towards women (or vice versa)
  • Tie him to a chair and force him to watch 24hrs of lambchop http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y3WDdzuwW3M
  • (Unless the gf did something very bad) I would be outraged but more so worried about his future pattern. I may want him in Anger Management.
  • Well, since I'm not a dad yet I don't know. But it would go something like this. I would pick him up by the shirt scare the shit out of him and tell him to sit his ass down. Tell him I will be back in 5 minutes and if he moved one muscle his ass would be MINE when I found him. Come back later cool, calm, and collected and tell him how his grandfather (my "dad") used to hit his grandma (my mom) and how he even hit me a number of times. Inform him that he should be the MAN of the house and not a total asshole. Tell him that women derserve better treatment than that. You are supposed to treat women as if you would yourself. Because if you can't respect a woman enough not to hit her you can't respect yourself.
  • We'd have a serious discussion on respect and treatment of everyone, including women. I'd also get him into therapy to evaluate the best method of dealing with this problem.
  • I'd recognize my total and absolute failure as a parent and kill myself.
  • beat his ass...that somthing he shud have been learned not to put his hands on a gurl!
  • I would go off on his ass, I do not want him to think its ok to hit girls, because its not.
  • I wouldn't hit him.....I'd choke the s*** out of him though! =P
  • call the police and send him to juve hall. I know that sounds rough but a good scare like that and knowing that if he were an adult he could spend a minimum of 1 yr in jail would possibly stop that kind of garbage. No man should hit a woman and hitting him would only perpetuate violence and possibly get you in trouble. I think this is more sever than grounding material, you really need to send a message to him that this is a major issue.
  • I would take off maybe a week of work and vacation with him somewhere, just him and i and we would do a lottttt of talking to figure out why and where it came from. People don't just decide one day its okay to hit girls or anyone for that matter. I would hope the influence causing this wouldn't be the home life then I would find out what needed to be done to fix the situation.
  • i would take him to some sort of couseller and get him some help before it gets worse
  • I'd be stunned, then probably cry, then talk to him and get him into counseling immediately. Anger management classes are okay, I guess..but you need to get behind the anger and find the root and yank it out..it is absolutely unacceptable to hit people. I don't believe in parents hitting their children, each other or anyone else..I don't believe in girls hitting their boyfriends, or vice-versa. Hitting represents loss of control..loss of control is not good because it can lead to terrible things, tragic things, deadly things.
  • I would take him and the rest of my family to a counselor right away and try to solve whatever issue caused him to become violent.
  • My husband and I would sit down and have a serious discussion with both of them. We would then take him to counseling to try and determine the root of the problem. I would make sure he spent more time observing the proper way to treat a woman.
  • Well after I got my foot out of his ass;) I would gather up all partys involved and resolve the issues at hand;)
  • Join in with him.
  • Insist that he got counseling.
  • That's a beat down. I have taught my kids for years about respect for themselves and for others. My daughter I teach about self respect and how NOT to let guys do her wrong or call her "bitch" or "ho" (whore). It's one of the things I hate most about modern rap music, and I am a fan of rap, but most of today's stuff teaches our kids to accept things that serve to lower their self esteem. If my son(s) hit his girlfriend, there is no way that I would stand by and say things like "oh he's just being a man..." because I believe we MUST respect our women, no matter age, race, preference or attitude. Argue all you want, but keep your hands to your side. Protect yourself, defend yourself, but never act aggressivly towards a woman.
  • put him on a bread and water diet for a week and cancel his pocket money for 3 months. Then start talking to him and see what happened.
  • 1-I'd find out the context. A knee-jerk reaction with no idea what happened to culminate in physical violence does absolutely nothing. 2-I'd react after I knew the facts. Depending on what happened it could be anything from taking him outback, to whatever else.
  • I'd advise his girlfriend to dump him.
  • have a serious talk with him
  • I would knock him around a little and see how he liked being hit.
  • I would talk to my son about it, tlel him i didnt raise him that way. if i found out about it again i would send him to counceling or something.
  • Testify against him at trial.
  • #1 make sure of the facts, is this here say as in someone told you that it happen or you saw it happen? #2 get his side of the story as there is always two sides to ever story #3 if in deed he did hit her and don't take this wrong if wasn't in self defense, as I have seen some pretty violent girls these days, there as bad as the boys. then he must step up and take the punishment, either from you, the law what ever everybody must take responsibility for their actions good/bad or in between Because if he starts beating women now and doesn't get help, it could turn into some thing worse some day....
  • Call the police and report it. Even though he's your son and a minor, you have a responsibility to protect others from his behavior. If this is the first time: make sure he understands that violence is not acceptable, that it isn't right to try to control others, force them to your own will, or take out your own frustrations on them. Explain that love is how you act, not just how you feel at a given moment. Suggest other ways of expressing anger that don't hurt others physically or emotionally. Get him into therapy and anger management and continue to talk with him - and listen to him - about his anger problems. I'd also check with the girlfriend (separately), make sure she understands that this isn't acceptable even if she thinks she may have provoked him and that if it happens again she MUST call 911. Let your son know that he has committed a felony and could be incarcerated for his actions, and that he will be if it ever happens again. Keep an eye out for certain behavior in the girlfriend that will indicate she's still being abused - bruises, won't make eye contact, change in personality, silence.
  • "Son, if you can't control yourself around women, then you don't need to be around them. No women or dating for a year."
  • Hopefully, his father would kick his butt. I would scold him and tell im how disappointed I am. Let him know that I would never stay with a man that hit me. I would also touch on the point that us girls are weaker and need to be protected by you, not abused.
  • I'd send him to counseling and anger managment classes. Reacting with anger or violence will just teach him to take out his anger in all the wrong ways...
  • I would ask him one simple question, "Would you hit me?" I would think respect for his mother would lead to respect for his girlfriend... I'm not a mother, only 23, but if I ever had a son that hit his girlfriend, that's what I would do.
  • I would probably try to get to the bottom of the issue, even if that includes forbidding him to see her for the time being. There might be a lot more to the story that you just don't know about. It doesn't excuse his behaviour, sure, but there still might be more to the story.
  • whoop his ass,
  • im not even close to being a father but i cant stand when any guy hits a girl. it doesn't matter the reason its wrong!!!i like the get the parents involved and have him apologize. probly the best one i read.. no offense to anyone below him
  • Advise him that its not right to hit a girl.
  • I would be horrified. He would be stopped seeing the girl, and be sent to our senior pastor or (if he won't go),I would call in an ex-detective friend of mine to read him the riot act. Then I would have him write a written apology to the girl.
  • I think for sure he needs to be taught a lesson, from his father, & I don't mean a talking to! Anger Management might not be a bad Idea either! If there is no father in the picture then for sure have an uncle or grandfather have a "talk" with him! Be sure to nip this in the bud now, if he thinks this is o.k., he will then grow up to beat on his wife & teach his children that hitting women is o.k.! & the cycle will go on & on!
  • i would show him how it feels then have him apologize face to face then advise HER to brack up with him in front of his friends, emberss him and i garentee he wont dare hit another girl agin im so sorry for the sicuaction you are in...:( and im sry about the girl even more its some times hard to get though somthing like that... even if its only happened one time... but watch him and watch to see his char. to see if he is controlling and ect. ...
  • I would kick his ass and send him to jail. disown him to. my stepsons know not to ever hit a woman there is NO REASON for a man to hit a woman EVER PERIOD. I am raising my boys to treat women with respect. God knows there are too many parents who aren't and that is why there are "woman beaters"
  • give that violence right back to him or get another male to.
  • He would be put thru a wall! I'll give on most things but violence against women is unacceptable!!!
  • I don't have a teenage son, but of course I would call the police.
  • I would hit him back, violence is never acceptable when used against wemon. Where are we the 20th century? lol, your foot+his a#$= the door. ;)
  • It sounds like you handled it well (from comments on other answers). If you have any cop friends, or KNOW any cops (friends or not), you MIGHT ask THEM to talk to your son, and maybe take him down the jail to show him what it's like there. They may ALSO know some former wife beaters who can talk to him about what they learned, from jail, from divorce/separation, and how they turned it around.
  • I have a 16 year old son who hit his sister once! I took him for a drive, we parked in front of the police department and let him know that it was absolutely unacceptabe. I'm raising gentlemen and either he was going to allow me to be a guide in his life or we could go inside. I remided him of what it was like to see his father hit me and asked him if that's what he wanted for his own son or daughter. I also let him know that next time we would be talking it over with an officer. I don't care if it's a sister, girlfriend, wife, or complete stranger - i will not just passively allow it. ~ :) The next day he thanked me.
  • First of all, I would sit him down and talk to him. I would be furious and he would definitely know it, but communication is sooo very important. If the girl was hurting him and agging it on.... there are some (VERY FEW!) instances where I would leave well enough alone. Afterall, I know that my children would already have it ingrained into their minds that abusing your significant other... or anyone, for that matter, is simply not acceptable. If it indeed was a matter of uncontrollable rage, I would definitely have him go to counseling and we would work on the issue until a definite resolve has been met.
  • id tell him that hes got to call it off with that girl cause ive taught my sons not to put there hands on anybody give them room and if someone puts there hands on them they know what to do. so a girl that cant behave anybetter than that he dosent need.
  • OMG I would freak out. and I would send him to counseling.
  • if i saw it happen: i'd hit him back - or if he was bigger than me, take him to his dad. i wouldn't hesitate to kick him out, even if temporarily (i was kicked out of my dad's and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. totally changed me for the better) . if i found out by her, i'd call her parents and talk it out, saying that if this happens again i'd want what was best for the girl and until my son got his @$$ back in gear i'd feel it best for the to separate and keep her safe. she deserves better
  • It would be difficult for me to not smack him upside his fool head. I would sit him down for a very long talk and ask his girlfriend to join us. I would make it clear that his behaviour is not acceptable to anyone and he could be in big trouble if he does this again. I would want to find out why he hit her. I would help him understand his feelings and how to handle anger in an acceptable manner.
  • I would slap him then take him and force him to apoligise to the girl and then he would be seriously punished.
  • If my son was to do this, I would be shocked because he is such a sensitive kid so I would definitely get a counsellor b/c something must really be bugging him for him to respond that way. If he did it for the second time, I would call the police to scare the "crap" out of him!
  • I'd tell him if he wants to be considered a REAL man, he would NEVER hit a girl unless in a life threatening situation.... and let him know how disgusted and dissappointed in him I am!
  • I would smack the shit out of him.
  • Sit him down and talk to him, tell him how disappointed you are in him, tell him that only cowards hit women, and it's true! No man should ever treat a woman they love that way, it's not right and not acceptable.
  • Hit her with what? Teenage like a 5' tall 13 year old stamp collector or teanage like a 6'3" takk 19 year old Marine?
  • I'd kick his ass.
  • I would have a difficult time being objective, but I would not mask my anger or disappointment.
  • well honestly the thing not to do would be to yell and shout and kick his ass, that violent temperment is what may have drove him to beatiing her anyways, it may have been his frustrations with his parents yelling at hime at home that caused him to take it out on his girlfriend. You need to sit and have a moral conversation, let him know whats right and whats wrong, you cant just come down on him for his mistakes but never show him alternate route to take, you have to show him new ways and give him time and chance to change it wont happen over night. Show him that its wrong, tell him what he should do and let him know the consequences of doing that, both legal and parental, treat him like the adult he's trying to be.
  • I would jerk a damn knot in that kids ass!! I would literally do whatever it took to get him some professional help for ever how long he needed it. He can hate me for it later or he can thank me for it later. Either way is fine with me. It is my job as a parent to do the right thing by my kid. Period.
  • Take him out back and show him how it feels, take him to anger managment... ask her if there is anything I could do for her.
  • Kick his ass.
  • The shit would hit the fan! Luckily my son would never do that because he's been taught for an early age, never, never, hit a woman. Men who hit woman make me sick!
  • have him arrested - he wont do it again
  • according to the 24 ammendment to the constitution: NOTHING THERE IS NO LEGAL DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMEN IF A MAN STRIKES A MAN OR A WOMAN STRIKES A WOMEN THERE IS RARELY ANYTHING DONE ABOUT IT WHY WOULD IT LEGALLY BE ANY DIFFERENT WHEN THER IS STRIKING ACCROSS GENDER? AS A FATHER YOU SHOULD HAVE TAUGHT HIM TO RESPECT GIRLS AND THEREFORE YOU SHOULD GO TO HER AND LET HER KNOCK THE LIVING DAYLIGHTS OUT OF YOU AND WHEN DONE KNOCK THE LIVING DAYLIGHTS OUT OF THE LAD.
  • have his father beat the hell out of him.
  • The person who said "As a father I'd take him out back"...is just adding to the problem. A real man would never do that, just like a real man does not hit. This guy that would beat his son to teach him a lesson is more likely to have a son that will use inappropriate physical force also. The answer is to search the area to find a battered women's group. Show the son the effects of beating a woman, and how it damages not only the woman's psyche and self esteem, but ultimately affects his abilities to negotiate and love in the real world. You will need to put quite the spine on to ensure that your son does not enter adulthood without knowing how unacceptible this is. This behavior is learned - perhaps he witnessed a man abusing a woman growing up either physical or otherwise. Eitherway, the respect for women is greatly lacking. If you have any legacy to leave on earth, it is to leave a legacy where your children take care of others and this world better than you did. So take him to a battered women's shelter, show him how destructive the path of violence is.
  • i will talk with him and lat him know that its a rong thing to do and if he dont stop she can leave him!!
  • As a mother I would put my foot so far in his ass.
  • beat his fucking ass and show him what a beating is
  • I'm not one for abuse especially when abuse begets abuse but I think in that instance I'd show a boy what happens to boys that think that it's manly to hit a woman.
  • call 411 and ask them why i have a teenage son when i'm not even married
  • I wouldn't hit him back but Id definatly yell at him and made sure his life would be hell if he ever did it again.
  • beat his ........
  • im a girl . so if i waz the mother i would ask for an explnation. because if she had hit him then yes i would be cross at him but not as cross as otherwise.
  • Take him to a certified gym and let him spar with a professional, if he thinks he is "bad" let him see how bad he is NOT! Maybe he takes up boxing and now has an outlet for his physical agression. Also tell her parents to look for signs of depression from her, it could be worse than you think you don't want anything really bad to happen to her. Also I'd seperate them. Take responsibility for your childs actions and punish him take away his human "punching bag"
  • Analise my own life & wonder why my son thinks its ok to disrespect & hit a woman. Also I'd find out if the girl hit him first or if it was a control issue because I'm sorry but if a girl hits a boy or slaps him in the face most guys do have the same reaction a girl has & hits them back. I know if I hit a guy I better be ready to duke it out with him because I don't think just because I'm a woman that any man should take being smacked or slapped or punched no more then I'd take it from another woman. But if I found out it was because he was trying to control her or because of jealousy issues then as his mother I'd straighten him out. But most kids repeat what they've seen while growing up & I didn't take it from other guys & I won't have my son do it to another girl. But thats me.
  • My son did do this as a teenager, an open handed smack. okay, I halfway wanted to hit her myself with her constant whining, but I do not agree with hitting on either side. I chewed him a new ass and told him I had better NEVER even suspect that he had hit a girl again. When they broke up, finally and thankfully, as she was leaving my driveway, she couldn't resist one parting, smartass comment. My son was drinking a coke in one of those plastic to go cups. He threw it at her car, it hit the windshield and put a large hole completely through it. A FLIMSY PLASTIC CUP!! I told him then to imagine what would have happened had he hit her instead. I think that did the trick as I have never known him to hit another female...or another car, as he had to pay for the windshield.
  • As a woman who has been beaten by her husband, I would say that you need to do something immediately! If as a teenager he is already resorting to this behavior, it is only going to get worse. First, you need to calm down and not touch him. If you beat him, he will think that is what you do when you are angry, which is probably what caused him to hit his girlfriend. Second, after you calm down, sit down with him and talk to him to find out what made him do that. If that all doesn't work, get them to press charges on him. He needs to learn one way or another, but you getting physical with him is only going to add fuel to the fire.
  • I would take him for help, fast as i would know its arisen from what hes seen his own father do, as in my case the cycle needs to be broken
  • well I would send him to anger management classes and take him on a tour of Both a battered woman's shelter and The local Jail. Showing him that if you hit her again this is where you will be and he can hear stories of the woman and see how it effects there whole lives.
  • Take him to a battered women's shelter so he could see how it affected others or even to the police dept so he could witness other people being detained for the same reason. All the while reminding him that his girlfriend is someone's sister and daughter, so how would he feel if someone did that to one of his sisters.

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