This is what is happening to me right now. i am 18 and about to leave for college and its just one more thing to stress about. It's really quite weird, because my parents have had problems for a long time now, but only just decided to get divorced last month. It's like, okay, but why didn't you do it 5 years ago when it actually would have meant something? now it just seems kind of obsolete, because they have never tried to really work through anything anyways. The divorce is as clean as it could be i guess. My father will be moving out soon, and my mom and little sister are staying in the house. My father has always been a very angry person, and it has built up over the years. I haven't talked to him for about a year now, even though we live in the same house. He has done many things which are hard to forgive and when i used to try and move past it, it would only be a matter of time before he would do something again. It just seemed easier to cut myself off from him, rather than continue the cycle, because he has never shown any real change beyond the empty promises. I know the divorce is for the best BUT i can't help thinking these horrible thoughts. If you only have less than half of your life left, is it better to stay with a person? Why won't my dad ever just get the help dealing with his anger that he so desperately needs? Above all, i find myself getting very upset when i think about what his apartment will look llke. My mom has always done all of the decorating and clean up. He hardly knows how to put a dirty dish in the sink. I just want him to be happy, and I get so mad at myself for worrying about the guy who is behind every traumatic memory i have. I guess it is just weird to look at both of your parents as separate human beings. If we are lucky, we grow up as the center of their world, and part of becoming an adult is realizing that they are not just parents, but people. Something breaks inside, with this realization, because it moves us one step closer to facing our own mortality, without these parent figures as shields. And it is true that your mom will always be your mom and your dad will be your dad, but these labels become more just labels as we get older. So try not to look at divorce and death as a part of you lost, but a part of you that has grown past a phase, and that phase could be good or bad. I hope that you will be able to remember your childhood as more than just a lie, thats what it feels like sometimes, and I am sorry to be rambling on about my own problems, but i am not in the best mood lately. hope things are good on your end.

Not much. They have their lives to live. My parents are divorced and I understood why. I wouldn't want them to stay with each other if they were unhappy. I didn't blame myself or anything like that. It's not like they are dying, I still get to see both of them.