Is it worse to be a highly talented, creative woman that is not good at running a household than to be a highly efficient, organized, emotionally dry mother type? I feel awful that I cannot be the latter. I would give anything to be a good homemaker type.
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UneFille
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People are good at different things, if you're not one thing, than be another. That said, a bigger problem would be modesty ;).
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Never apologize for your talents. Use the gifts you have to help people.
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I'm not the homemaker type either. You can hire someone to clean your house, etc. This way you can do what you love and be happy doing it--no guilt. A happy wife/mother is better than an unhappy or guilt-ridden one. My Mother and Sister find tremendous joy in full-time homemaking... ...I find it brain-numbingly dull. Do what makes YOU happy and your happiness will be contagious! :D
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Are you serious? I'm not great at running the house (it's always a huge mess) but I'd WAY rather be the creative and loving mother I am. You should try FLYing with the flylady. It sounds like it's totally built exactly for you! It'll make you feel better about yourself, get your house in order a way you CAN do, and still let you be talented and creative! How about that!
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oooh you're in a pickle. It doesnt matter to a child if you run the largest corporation this side of the Mississippi if you can't be the kind of mommy a kid needs.
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I think that the words you chose demonstrate that you want answers that support the first description - to which you gave a positive connotation, rather than the second description, to which you gave a very negative connotation. Emotionally dry is not a good way to go, but it isn't exclusive to your description of efficient and organised.
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I would absolutely rather be the first and was (when my kids were still at home). I wanted to spend time with my children, not my house, when they were growing up. I'm not sorry about having done so!
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Here's what helped me. First, I lowered my expectations of myself as a housewife. My mother, who was my idol, always kept her house spotless, and looking like the cover of Home Beautiful, a place for everything and everything in it's place. I gave up expecting that out of me, and hire a housekeeper to deal with the worst of it. I also take care of many little things as they occur. Rinse the dishes as soon as they are used, make sure the mail gets read and disposed of as soon as it comes into the house. Keep a small vacuum cleaner handy, and use it everytime some crumbs fall on the floor. Ignore the dust, and don't let anyone write the date in it. Throw sheets or tablecloths over everything you don't want to look at. I shove all the stuff on the table into boxes and push the boxes under the table, then pull the table cloth down over it. There are so many tips on the internet about how to cut corners, I'm sure you will enjoy the challenge.
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