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  • no way! He does not need to sleep over just cause and if there was a situation where he had to spend the night then he would need to sleep on the couch and the parents need to make sure they both know the rules of the house before going to sleep.
  • as long as my children live under my roof, in their childhood bedroom there is no way they would have the privilege of sleeping in the same bed with someone of the opposite gender. if they want to be an adult and play house then they better get a job and a house and be an adult.
  • Unless they are married, not under my roof.
  • No. I would not let either my son or daughter to sleep in the same bed with someone else, at any age. Not in my house. Only if they were married to each other I would allow that. What they do outside my house is their business, unless they're of legal age. If my child was sleeping with someone else under another roof, and she/he was not of legal age, it IS my business and I would not like it.
  • No. She is underage. My adult daughter has her boyfriend sleep over, but the door is open and nothing goes on. She has a sister in the next room who would tell me if it did.
  • Reality is my daughter is 21 and she and her boyfriend came to the house for the weekend. They do not get to sleep in the same bed. They are not married.
  • It would depend on 1. How much I trust her boyfriend to not do anything against her wishes, and 2. If they have a sex life, how responsible they are about protection.
  • My parent lets my bf stay over, but he understands that if we were doing anything, we'd do it sensibly, and that not staying over together doesn't mean we won't do it. He trusts us not to do anything stupid, basically. x
  • No I would never let this happen unless it was an emergency(bad weather) then it would be one on one end of the house and my hubby would probably sleep in the chair next to the guy. There is no reason to let him stay that is reasonable, besides an emergency. I don't understand this in the least, it isn't like well at least they aren't doing it in an alley somewhere. You teach your children morals and respect and I would never disrespect my parents this way ever. My house, my roof, my rules.
  • I don't think I'd allow them to sleep in the same bed if its a boy or a girl. I don't have any kids but I don't think I could allow that. I know what I got up to at 17 HAHA
  • Forget either sex sleeping together in my home. It would be okay if they were married. If not than he can just find his own place and move out.
  • No for a daughter or a son. Appropriate is depends on how mature they are.
  • In New Zealand the legal age of consent is 16 so at 17 they wouldn't be doing anything illegal. I have a son but the same would apply to a daughter. I taught him about sex, responsibility and protection. I also taught him about respect for oneself and ones partner. If he came to me and said he wanted his girlfriend to stay the night and that they were in a sexual relationship then I would say she better not use all the hot water in the morning and please make sure you shut your door.
  • hehe im not even a parent but i can understand that would turn out badly
  • My parents wouldn't allow such a thing. Period.
  • My son is 17, his g/f is the same age,. they have been seeing each other for over a year, he sleeps over at her house and she sleeps over here. They both know the rights and wrongs and they insist they have never had sex as none of them want to be saddled with a child at this moment. I believe my son, and her parents believe her. I also know what i got up to at that age, but i do trust them. (Also his bed is right above mine and his floor is very creaky, i can honestly say i would know if anything was going on... and ive heard nothing! lol)
  • It would NOT depend on maturity whether or not it is appropriate. Whoever said that, if they have children, is ASKING for a teenage pregnancy. And I hope they get it so they'll disregard all the crap they believe. It is NEVER appropriate and TEENAGERS CANNOT PREDICT THE CONSEQUENCES OF THEIR ACTIONS. PERIOD! The part of the brain responsible for that ISN'T DEVELOPED FULLY YET. Therefore it is NEVER APPROPRIATE for teenagers to be together in the same bed. It isn't even appropriate for teenagers to DATE.
  • There is absolutely no way that you should allow your daughter's boyfriend to sleep with her in the same bed. My opinion has nothing to do with religious feelings, but pure common sense. Do you want your daughter to have a baby at 17? Do you want your daughter to have to give up her entire life to raise a child at 17? Because these two things are even possible, then there is no way, as a good parent, that you should ever consider allowing this to happen until your daughter is living on her own and is no longer under your rules and roof.
  • Regardless of the childs sex, age, or order in the family (they could be the 'last one still at home')you never stop being a parent. That said, it is our job as parents to steer (notice I didnt say push) our kids in the right direction. If they arent married it shouldn't be allowed. I trust my teenagers, (and I have four of the buggers) but I also 'see my teeagers'. Meaning they are teens and dont always use the right parts of their anatomy to think. Through this knowlege it's best to steer them away from that type of intimate contact. With or without sexual contact it is still intimate and can only progress to the other at some time. This is tour chance to "steer". :)
  • No I mostly likely wont. My only child, my daugher, is only 5 so shes not yet 17 and I wont be worrying about it for a while.
  • Depends if the boyfriend is nice or not and their general level of maturity. I'd want to be sure it was a relationship that was going to last, not just a quick fling. At least if they sleep in the same bed in my house, I know they are safe and not out somewhere where they could get mugged or robbed.
  • When they have their own place and support themselves. I'm old fashioned.
  • #1 Ground your daughter. #2 Show boyfriend your local statutes concerning statutory rape of minors. #3 Show boyfriend your shotgun. #4 Show boyfriend the door.
  • There is absolutely NO WAY that a teen age boy , my son or not , is going to have a "Sleepover" with his g/f at my home .... The SAME goes for a teen age daughter ... NO "Sleepovers" ... PERIOD. Pregnacy CAN happen and if it does ; then YOU are legally responsible since YOu were the "Adult" allowing such behavior in YOUR home .... ONLY ; when they are MARRIED , will they sleep under MY roof ... PERIOD !
  • I probably wouldn’t let the boyfriend sleep over, in the first place. I suppose if there were a really good reason for it (e.g. his house burned down; his home was 800 miles away; etc.), I might allow it but would *definitely* not let them sleep in the same room, let alone the same bed. And no, it wouldn’t be any different for my son’s girlfriend. Of course, I’m not sorry that I won’t have to deal with any of this for another dozen years or so, anyway. ;-)
  • OMG - no way would I allow that. There is too much temptation. Kids will be kids and at 17 by golly they are still just kids. You are crazy for even considering this - WHAT ON EARTH ARE YOU THINKING WOMAN!!!
  • Unless my daughters were 18 I wouldn't agree with them sleeping in any bed with any guy. It would be no different if they were sons instead.
  • Letting them sleep in the same bed is okaying them to act as adults. Are you ready to be a grandmother, your daughter a mother? Not saying this will happen, but this is the reality of the consequences that can happen. Your daughter is 17, though she thinks she is an adult, dont enable her by allowing her to sleep with a guy in your house that might not be around in a month.
  • If you don't allow it at 17,what age is suitable?18?She doesn't need your permission at 18!
  • There may be a genuine legal concern here; namely, that sexual intercourse with a "minor" is illegal. Adults, parents included, might be charged with "child endangerment", "child abuse", "contributing to the delinquency of a minor" or some other criminal act. Having said that, I have no personal or moral issues with this...but there are some legitimate other issues that should be recognized. This is not a legal opinion, merely an acknowledgment of a potential legal problem.

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