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wow, same situation, kind of. its really hard, but if you are able to prove to him that you wont abandon him, it will be worth it. just make sure he always knows how much he means to you.
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Quit trying to make people happy. You are responsible for your feelings, and he for his. He probably needs counseling, and you might want to wait until he gets some, before you get too involved.
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Just say: I Love you every single day.
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I don't know how old you and your boyfriend are, but that can make a BIG difference. With age comes wisdom and experience. If you are still a teenager, I would suggest that starting out in a dysfunctional relationship is not the best way to begin your adult life. Things are difficult enough when everything is going OK, and it does not sound from what you've said that your boyfriend is OK. He may never be OK. Can you just be friends? Even that can cause you a lot of pain and grief. I would think about this very hard and realize just what it is YOU need from this relationship. If it isn't there, it probably never will be and you would be wise to let him go....gently, of course, but once and for all. If you both are grown adults, this could possibly be made easier for the both of you with counseling. It has been known to happen, in particular if he is willing. Otherwise, I would go back to plan A.
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He kept going in and out of the relationship. I never broke up with him. I approached him in a positive manner and was very supportive but it didn't change. He was non compliant with his therapy and medications which I had no control over. It got to be that he was undermining my self esteem so that he could feel good. I just waited for him to break it off and called it a life lesson. It is hard because you still care for him as a human being but he needs professional help. Being friends with someone who has this type of issue is not a good idea especially if you where in a relationship with him. His brain pattern is different from someone who had love and affection from his parents. sorry.
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