G'day Shy Girl, Thank you for your question. You could try that and some lube. However, perhaps your guy ought to consider that anal sex is likely to be uncomfortable for you and stick with oral and vaginal. Regards

I had this problem in the beginning too. The #1 answer is 'practice'. I remember when taking a very small butt plug (like the width of a finger) was uncomfortable. Now I can take my man in there and he's bigger than average. Try buying either a plug or a dildo and practice with that; the anus is a muscle and when it's exercised it can become more flexible. You can try the numbing lotion (I have and it does help) but you still have to be careful with it. Just because it takes away the pain (aka numbs your anus) doesn't mean your man can pound away at your ass without caution. He can still do damage, the only difference is that you won't feel it. I find the lotion numbs me but I can still feel him good back there which can make me enjoy it a lot more. Also try experimenting with different positions; some are more painful than others. And lube lube lube; being dry back there causes a lot of pain and like I've said many times, there's no such thing as too much lube with anal sex. The wetter the better. I hope that helped :)

Don't ever use a numbing lotion, because if he was hurting you or tearing something in you, you wouldn't know and and stop in before it happened. Your best way of tackling this issue is first get yourself very turned on. Making sure to rub your clit and the more turned on you are the more relaxed you are. Use a lot of lube, K-Y Jello and other lubrications. Lube really makes a big difference. I have heard the best position is to have him lay down and then you lower yourself down on to him. That way you can control how much of him is going in you vs him just trying to shove it in you.

Oh my gosh. He's 3 INCHES across? You know how large that is? Go get a medium width shampoo bottle and a ruler and measure its width.... If I had a man that was 3" I dont know if I could take him... gosh, Im getting wet just THINKING about trying that though. I'd feel so open and empty after he was done if he could get it in me *swoon*. Would probably want him to put it back in to fill the void! Yes, use lube lube lube, and stretch. Learn to play back there by yourself so you're comfortable with the sensations and your body's reactions, and you'll learn how to control your opening a bit more, even the inner (involuntary) ring to some extent. I can do this with my man but he's only 2 1/4" (which is pretty big, I had to practice for like 3-4 months before I could take him... I came the first time he was all the way in me it was so (ful)filling!) without even touching my pussy!! You can also try a butt plug, an inflateable one works well as it doesnt require in-out friction to become larger (or an inflateable dildo), works well. Measure how wide you can take it every day or so, and hold it for 5 or 10 minutes while you masturbate (thats what I did), eventually just the thought of taking my boy back there encouraged me to get to 2 1/4" so I could have him!) But wow, 3", you have quite a job ahead of you, but its possible! (I've had my boy and 3 of his fingers in me at once actually.. not quite 3" but getting there!) Good luck, let us know how it goes so others can make use of your hard-won knowledge!!

I'm speaking as a guy here: But you must be so lucky to have a guy over 3" thick like that. That must really spread you, Girl. I would count that as rather fortunate to have a guy make that sort of impact upon your body. Obviously, I cannot help you in the least in this problem because I Never try anal. I wouldn't do it, personally; but that is my choice. I'm just very happy to open my girl as wide as I can. I also love doggie, of course; but if your guy is not satisfied with that and wants anal, then you'll just have to take care as you learn 'physical education' in your rear. But you know, All exercise is very helpful to the human body, and can make it supple and strengthen your entire muscular system and frame; so in addition to the girls' advice here, I would suggest you generally did quite vigorous workouts, including much stretching, etc.

Forget the numbers. If it's human, it will fit. Just use more and more fingers to strech until it's big enough. You don't need to strech your ass to make it bigger, you just have to relax it and lube it. Try doing him cowgirl so you're in control.

Lube and time and relax, you'll get there!

Don't do it respect yourself dont let him pressure u your to good for that