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by altgirl84 on April 16th, 2008
I had this problem in the beginning too. The #1 answer is 'practice'. I remember when taking a very small butt plug (like the width of a finger) was uncomfortable. Now I can take my man in there and he's bigger than average. Try buying either a plug or a dildo and practice with that; the anus is a muscle and when it's exercised it can become more flexible. You can try the numbing lotion (I have and it does help) but you still have to be careful with it. Just because it takes away the pain (aka numbs your anus) doesn't mean your man can pound away at your ass without caution. He can still do damage, the only difference is that you won't feel it. I find the lotion numbs me but I can still feel him good back there which can make me enjoy it a lot more. Also try experimenting with different positions; some are more painful than others. And lube lube lube; being dry back there causes a lot of pain and like I've said many times, there's no such thing as too much lube with anal sex. The wetter the better. I hope that helped :)
by keithold is a prodigal bagger on April 16th, 2008
G'day Shy Girl,
Thank you for your question.
You could try that and some lube. However, perhaps your guy ought to consider that anal sex is likely to be uncomfortable for you and stick with oral and vaginal.
Regards
by hornyalex on July 7th, 2008
Forget the numbers. If it's human, it will fit. Just use more and more fingers to strech until it's big enough. You don't need to strech your ass to make it bigger, you just have to relax it and lube it.
Try doing him cowgirl so you're in control.
by lara27 on May 10th, 2008
Oh my gosh. He's 3 INCHES across? You know how large that is? Go get a medium width shampoo bottle and a ruler and measure its width....
If I had a man that was 3" I dont know if I could take him... gosh, Im getting wet just THINKING about trying that though. I'd feel so open and empty after he was done if he could get it in me *swoon*. Would probably want him to put it back in to fill the void!
Yes, use lube lube lube, and stretch. Learn to play back there by yourself so you're comfortable with the sensations and your body's reactions, and you'll learn how to control your opening a bit more, even the inner (involuntary) ring to some extent. I can do this with my man but he's only 2 1/4" (which is pretty big, I had to practice for like 3-4 months before I could take him... I came the first time he was all the way in me it was so (ful)filling!) without even touching my pussy!!
You can also try a butt plug, an inflateable one works well as it doesnt require in-out friction to become larger (or an inflateable dildo), works well. Measure how wide you can take it every day or so, and hold it for 5 or 10 minutes while you masturbate (thats what I did), eventually just the thought of taking my boy back there encouraged me to get to 2 1/4" so I could have him!)
But wow, 3", you have quite a job ahead of you, but its possible! (I've had my boy and 3 of his fingers in me at once actually.. not quite 3" but getting there!) Good luck, let us know how it goes so others can make use of your hard-won knowledge!!
by spoiledforchoice on July 7th, 2008
Lube and time and relax, you'll get there!
by denidowi on June 14th, 2008
I'm speaking as a guy here:
But you must be so lucky to have a guy over 3" thick like that. That must really spread you, Girl.
I would count that as rather fortunate to have a guy make that sort of impact upon your body.
Obviously, I cannot help you in the least in this problem because I Never try anal. I wouldn't do it, personally; but that is my choice.
I'm just very happy to open my girl as wide as I can.
I also love doggie, of course; but if your guy is not satisfied with that and wants anal, then you'll just have to take care as you learn 'physical education' in your rear.
But you know, All exercise is very helpful to the human body, and can make it supple and strengthen your entire muscular system and frame; so in addition to the girls' advice here, I would suggest you generally did quite vigorous workouts, including much stretching, etc.
by tntitans21399 on April 25th, 2008
Don't ever use a numbing lotion, because if he was hurting you or tearing something in you, you wouldn't know and and stop in before it happened. Your best way of tackling this issue is first get yourself very turned on. Making sure to rub your clit and the more turned on you are the more relaxed you are. Use a lot of lube, K-Y Jello and other lubrications. Lube really makes a big difference. I have heard the best position is to have him lay down and then you lower yourself down on to him. That way you can control how much of him is going in you vs him just trying to shove it in you.
by Anonymous on April 22nd, 2009
Don't do it respect yourself dont let him pressure u your to good for that
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You're reading Help!! My guy wants to have anal sex; we have tried but I can't take him. (he is very thick 3"+) I have been practicing on my own; I really want to please him, but the most I can handle is 1 1/2" What can I do????? Should I try a mild numbing lotion?
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by shy-girl on April 16th, 2008
altgirl - you can take a 3" guy? :) just curious... i dont think i could... 2 1/4" is hard enough (and a finger or two one time hehe)
by lara27 on June 7th, 2008
Lol I've actually taken up to 4" I think, that's a rough estimation. But I also remember back when a finger hurt, so believe me, all it takes is time and practice.
by altgirl84 on June 7th, 2008
Good to know.
Thanx again!
by shy-girl on June 7th, 2008
4" ACROSS? that seems crazy! i guess its possible since babies come through the pelvis, but how do you stretch 4" across back there? (That's like (highschool math here.. uh...) over 12" around! you could take two guys at the same time back there easily (uh, have you? thats a kinda fantasy of mine, but it scares me a bit heheh)... really hot.
what was 4" across that you took? (not a guy, i really dont believe they come that big - even 3" is hard to imagine.) horse? dogknot? :)
by lara27 on June 12th, 2008
Oh no lol sorry for the confusion, I meant like 4" circumference! Not 4" straight across wow eek now I think THAT would hurt lol. Like I said, that was a guess.
by altgirl84 on June 12th, 2008
4" circumference is like just over an inch across. thats probably smaller than most guys, I think... measure again, im curious :) and sure you can take more hehe
does 2 1/4" sound like fun yet? cuz it is!! (math again, i guess thats, um, just over 7" around (circumference))...
thats why i keep asking our friend sky-girl if he's really 3" across (he's certainly not 3" AROUND, thats < 1 inch thick! hardly worth worrying about, thats like 2 guy's fingers! heh).
3" really makes me shiver to think about tho... i'd be afraid, but... also so wet.. heehee
by lara27 on June 13th, 2008
I can ask him how he came up with these numbers.
But he is VERY thick; no problems with normal intercourse, oral causes some difficulties.
I have never done anal before, so lets start with the thickest man I can find?!!
LOL!!!
by shy-girl on June 13th, 2008
Lol ok sorry I guess I'm bad at measuring and guessing lol. He's more than 4" around I believe ;)
by altgirl84 on June 13th, 2008
Part of me never wanted to know how big he is!
I used to get really worked up about that and it would make things very uncomfortable for me.
Thank God I'm over that!
LOL!!!
by shy-girl on June 13th, 2008
first guy i had anal with was fairly big, but i didnt know it cuz it was the first time i was penetrated... we just worked up to it, he knew what he was doing i guess, to me it all just felt really really good, so i went with it, next thing i knew he was in me, and i came from it all ;) i was hooked. (I had been playing with my bum for years before that, so i was anally oriented ;)
whatever size he is, hopefully just for your satisfaction he's not 3" across, or you'll never be able to have him that way without serious work! also, hopefully he's not 3" around, under 1" across, cuz that doesnt sound like much fun (im sure he's not, most guys are at least 1")
same with you altgirl, tho... i am curious as to the real sizes lol
by lara27 on June 14th, 2008