Why is it that when someone cheats on you they are surprised and broken hearted when you do it to them?
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colorado kid
ANSWERS: 6
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hypocrites...
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I'm not really in favor of anyone cheating for any reason at all, but one perspective on the matter could be this: Maybe they figured that you had forgiven them, since you were still with them and all. People typically leave someone if they don't want to (or simply can't) forgive them for cheating. It's not usually expected that you are going to stick around, but then go cheat. Also, they could have assumed that after feeling the pain of being cheated on, you wouldn't want to inflict it on someone else. And if someone stays in a relationship even though they have some pent up revenge thing going on, I would say that in itself is pretty inexcusable and a waste of everyone's time and emotions.
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Maybe they are shocked that you would stoop as low as they did.
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i've been cheated on however "they" were surpised when i didn't have the heart to do to them. i can honestly say that i have never cheated when i was in a relationship. i just don't think it's fair....and i wouldn't want to put the other person through all that hurt and tormoil. it's just about the lowest blow you can do to a person.
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It's a double standard. It's like how brothers who have sisters get pissed off when boys use their sisters, but then THEY will go and use other people's sisters! It's the same thing. Well, on a double standard level anyway.
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Because if the person who cheated was genuinly ashamed and disgusted with there own behavior and you turn around and do it in spite of what they did I would say that would be even lower in standards. It's like revenge and really shows you for the person you are. Then agin if they weren't sorry then sure I'd ask why their so suprised. ' How does it feel' time of thing.
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