How long can you love someone who doesn't love you back?
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ANSWERS: 62
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I gave up after a few years, if that helps, I suppose its all up to your will power, or magic potions...
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You have to be willing to stop loving the person. When you're able to accept that you will be able to stop loving the person then time will only tell. There is no set time for when you'll stop. Its mostly up to you.
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You can love them until you die but usually its until you fall in love with someone else.
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this guy loved me for over a year till i finally dated him,you can love someone forever and wait for them to get the hint,i hated my bf b4 we dated
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A lifetime.
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until you can't take it anymore, or someone else takes your attention off them!!
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untill you realise that another special person deserves everything you are not recieving from thge one who doesnt love you
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I can't. What's the point in wasting your life?
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Indefinitely. Love is not defined so much by what you receive... ...it's what you unconditionally give.
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I will..I will love him for the rest of my life. You will never forget them, you'll just learn to live without them! :( and I love him with all my heart and wish he'd see Iam telling the truth and Iam not lying.
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Well, true love is unconditional. It's something *you* do regardless of whether or not the person you love is worthy of it. Most of us are not capable of that kind of love. The only way to do it, is to transcend your ego or carnal nature.
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You just....do. The hurt comes because they don't love you back.
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You can't control love. You love who you love. And not everyone is going to love you back, just like how you aren't going to love everyone. You can't make someone love you.
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True love should be reciprocated and if it is not then it borders on idolization and not love. If the person does not return the affection then you have to pick yourself up and look for someone who is ready willing and able to give you the love you deserve. :)
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I think if you truly love someone, you are happy whenever your loved one is happy, regardless, one loves you back or not.
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You love them objectively, from a distance, and work on finding someone worthy of your love and affection.
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VERY easily & painfully
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on your own, normally.
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'Why' do you love someone who does not love you back??
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if it is met to be they will when no one love them back.
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If someone doesn't love you back then you implicitly already love that person so you don't really need to know how to love them. I guess the way to grow out of the pain that accompanies unrequited love is to distance yourself from that person, give it time, and be open to others who might return your love.
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you can't choose who to love, but you have to be sure that if this one who you fall in love with is love you back, before you tell them that you love them ....
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it's hard. expect nothing back. that's how.
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I did for a couple years... No matter what I did ...it wasn't good enough. You give 100% of your love..you deserve 100% of it back.
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forever..
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That is up to the individual. Some people never get over loving someone who is incapable of returning that love. I loved someone for 6 long years who treated me like dirt before I gave up and moved on.
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You can love them forever, IMHO. I just think there comes a time when one needs to realize that they are pining needlessly and could better spend their time looking for someone to love them back.
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forever unfortunately....
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it's up o2 you..that love can last forever but you have to be willing o2 change and get over it...just take it slowly step by step..meet someone new because yu can never change the person who don't love you mind..they have o2 feel it for themselves...you can only try and that help sometimes o'so much
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until your heart cannot handle that pain of unreliqued love
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I once loved someone for 6 long years and cried many a nights longing for them to feel the same for me.Then one day it hit me like a ton of bricks that no matter how much you want that person to love you back nothing you say or do can make them. If those feelings aren't already in their heart you can't force them to be there. One day you'll wake up and realize this and also realize that your time would be better spent looking for someone who will love you in return.
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Sounds like lust, not love. Been there... ;)
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Forever... Love is not something that just goes away!! 5 years with no contact and I am still madly in love with my ex.... We just started talking again in May and well he is better than I remembered!!!
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As long as you can. But i suggest putting it aside and looking for someone else. You'll still love them but you'll get over them eventually.
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Forever and a day, because my love knows no end.
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I love someone who doesn't love me. I'll keep loving him regardless because he is the one for me. It's very very hard sometimes but you have to keep asking yourself the same question, could you be without him?? If the answer is no, then stay with him and just hope that one day he'll say those beautiful life changing 3 words. I do.
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For me, I think it is possible to love someone even if that person doesn't return your love. Loving someone doesn't require any sacrifices. And, when someone you loved once dies, you'd still love them until the day "you" die, wouldn't you? And, because they are dead, they can no longer "love" you back. Also, it depends on the quality of the love. If the love is the real, soul kind of love, then it will always remain in your heart.
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You may still always love them, but you can move on from that romantic type of love. The length of time depends on how long it takes you to just move on. Good luck.
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oh truly ~ for a long time :)
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Until you decide you deserve better, and move on.
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Read "Love in the Time of Cholera"
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A long time - i mean, look at dogs.
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You can actually love them your entire life and be totally miserable. Or, until you wake up to the fact that you need and deserve to find someone who will love you back.
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ever since I can remember.......19-20 yrs!
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Until you get bored of being alone. I think you can love someone until you die but that stays a part of the secert self.The next person your with won't want to hear about you loving another.
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well 3 years for me
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It has been almost 14 years for me and I still love him. I tried dating other people and still loved him. Then one day I decided I guess it's just not gonna happen and slowly started to move past him. Then my phone rang and it was him, he pleaded to see me for weeks and I always said I already have plans and then he would call again until finally I gave in. He told me he loved me and we are taking things slowly for now but heck look how freaking long I waited !
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That's a question no one can answer for anybody else. I guess it all depends on the individual in question.
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True love must go both ways. It's like a garden that has lovely flowers that are nurtured and encouraged to bloom. If there is no one around to tend our heart, to nurture our feelings, it is just a sad one sided feeling, it's just there, nothing added, no shared intimacies, no comfort, no blessings. That's so different from when you lose someone in death and your left with what was once a real love, but every that loses it's vibrancy. A love that isn't reciprocated is just starving itself and withers on the plant.
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years !!!
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Step down, look over the entire situation. Ask yourself "Is this person really worthy of the emotional level I have put into loving them, with giving me nothing in return?" You will find the correct answer you are searching for once you eveluate the entire situation. Good luck to you........it is a pretty crappy feeling loving someone and getting nothing back!!!!
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How long is a piece of string? I managed to love someone for 3 years who didnt love me back.
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from here to the moon.
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Until you learn to love yourself. It's hard not to love someone, but you can choose what to do with those feeling in a healthy way, for that you need to have high self-esteem and some pride. It's a very destructive force and it takes away a lot of your self love, trust me, I have been there!
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Women have this horrible thing called hope that binds us. The truth is you can probably find new relationships and secretly still love that person under your breath forever. Hopeful one day you'll find someone who is so wonderful that you just don't feel the pain as much any more.
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I'd say it isn't love if it is one-sided. Love is right treatment and goes both ways. Attraction, lust,well those are things that can go on forever if they become obsessions.
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If someone doesn't love me back. I pull out my emotional investment. That doesn't mean I stop loving the person but I start the work of letting go and grieving. Actually, it leaves me cold when a man says "I don't love you". I am out of there. The main thing is getting unentangled and uninvested to make room for someone who does love me back.
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i waited for 2yrs...
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until your heart bursts with the feeling that he is never going to be yours and mind bursts with the truth that he loves someone else .
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I've loved someone who used to love me when I was 19 to 21 for the last 18 years. I've had relationships, got married, separated, thought I fell in love with others, but he's the only one my heart aches for and I will never see him again because he doesn't feel that way about me. I slept with his best friend 18 years ago. If it was unconditional love, he would still be a friend. I won't see him in this life and that makes me sad.
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it really hurts. for me..three years. but eventually, over time , you'll pick yourself up again...and find someone else...because who says you can only love once?
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For the rest of my life. If I love someone, I do. It is in no way dependent upon how they feel about me. Live full out and love full out.
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