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by Brand Y on April 7th, 2008
Sit quietly and let it hurt.
There's just no substitute for taking your pain "like a man", even if you're a woman :) Breathing, relaxing as much as possible, crying if you have to cry, letting the natural process take it's course without resistance or "trying to overcome it".
Most of us have at least heard of the "process" of grieving, which progresses through well-studied stages to resolution and healing, if all goes well. Something like that happens in any other kind of loss as well, such as a breakup. Trying to rush it or resist it or pretend it doesn't hurt, etc. are all bad ideas.
Life is SUPPOSED to be painful sometimes. That is not a mistake, and it's not the universe being unfair. That's part of how we become ourselves.
by SAGE2 on April 25th, 2008
"This too shall pass."
First you take a few deep breaths, acknowledge the hurt, accept it & surrender & then your pain becomes a sacred place between two souls. I'm always reminded of this quote. It works here: "This too shall pass."
by prisoner on August 25th, 2008
Smoke pot... it helps...
by Anonymous on August 5th, 2009
I cry. I cry and cry, but I HAVE to distract myself in order to not get TOO sad - running heavily helps a LOT. Good luck!
by MOB on July 8th, 2009
Feel sorry for the next person.
by Treval on April 8th, 2009
Just stay busy, and try not to think about it. It'll fade over time.
by Galeanda on September 2nd, 2008
I try to get outside of myself. I can't just sit there, I think I would just feel like dying then. So I'd go do things for others. I'd help a friend, or do volunteer work. I'd help out at a local charity, run errands for others, assist someone with their next big project. Activity and thinking and doing for others takes the emphasis on ourselves so some of the healing can take place already before we have to be quiet with ourselves.
by kyracenter on August 18th, 2008
accept the hurt and keep moving on
by Nibble nibble bite nibble on July 17th, 2008
I listen to sad music and cry.
by Anonymous on June 19th, 2008
Find someone who is hurting more than U... Misery Loves Company...
You'll feel better when ur doing for others.
by Vannie prays for babycakes . on May 27th, 2008
Watch a movie and then AB :-) !
by Blacknail on April 29th, 2008
My previous habit was to drink lots of beer, but it only makes you feel rubbish in the morning and nothing's changed. Probably good that I realised that at a young age :) Cry, watch a few good movies, chocolate. It's not just for girls, as a guy, i found that those things helped really well :)
by 100 percent pure... BEEF CHUCK on April 25th, 2008
Tums or rollaids.
by close account on April 25th, 2008
let it hurt but surround myself with friends....and just try and have a good time....i try and tell myself that they should be more hurt than i since they will not see me anymore.
by ilovemykids2 on April 24th, 2008
I cry and talk to my best friend about it, and why it hurts. cry and talk about it its the best thing to do.
by markoldml on April 23rd, 2008
That's not me at all!! I'm totally comfortable in my own skin. I'm very self suficent, motivated, a people person with a great personality. It's only when I fall deeply in love that I feel this way. I got some good advice from my ex wife" Have confidence in the relationship and know that you can't controll it. Let it go and be yourself. But myself, being divorced for 9 years, dated alot of women, hasn't been in love for a long time. We are completly right for each other and love each other dearly it's just when the slightest change takes in the relationship that I think it's the beginning of the end. Because I have seen it two times before
by amy on April 23rd, 2008
Clean the house really good.
by teddybear on April 6th, 2008
stay focused and give it time to heal..
by Jeztyr - whispering in the ears of kings on April 6th, 2008
Close my eyes and hold my head and say "Oooowwww."
by loveurself on August 18th, 2008
cry cry cry ... let it out! ahhhh
by hollywoodlisa on August 25th, 2008
Remember the words "this to shall pass" and "time heals all wounds " because they are true, also that you are not alone.
by Anonymous on April 24th, 2008
usually i cry and eat icecream.be lazy and watch a love movie and cry some more
by kirababe on May 27th, 2008
I cry. Usually I cant help it either!
by aloha08 on August 25th, 2008
drinks lot of water and watch porn lol
by Gabstar on April 24th, 2008
bang your head a few times...then you'll forget about your heart for a while...
by LeeLee Chickybabe Avenger SLAB on July 16th, 2008
I cry. Crying is a good stress relief.
Afterwards...I treat myself.
I do something for me because I'm worth it :)
by BabyCharms on September 2nd, 2008
I really do not like when my heart hurts because in most cases i develop hatred...so if it does happen i would go somewhere alone to CRY. Having heart ache makes you do and say things you did not know you were capable of so sometimes it is best to be by yourself for a little while.
by Alias xsicajess on December 26th, 2008
Cry in the shower so nobody can see
by SAGE2 on April 24th, 2008
see a cardiologist
by Rahbar on December 26th, 2008
Kill the time...
by nanapak on December 26th, 2008
Every pain makes you grow (psychologically). So you just have to be thankful about the pain because it will make you stronger. A hobby could help to ease the process..
by lippy1 on September 2nd, 2008
I'm not sure there's an answer for this one as we all have different ways of dealing with pain,a ll i know is sometimes it just can't be avoided and we have to go through it.
by BeautifulStranger on August 25th, 2008
Aloha08, you're the only one LOL, so sad
Is too much love a bad thing?
by theman-thelegend on November 2nd, 2011
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Do you get emotionally attached too easily?
by Shelly_R on November 20th, 2011
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When are lost loves better staying lost? Why?
by AnonymousGirl on December 3rd, 2011
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double standard???
by queen23 on November 8th, 2011
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Girls - Would you date a guy with a missing pec (pectoral chest muscle) if he was born that way? It's called pectoral aplasia
by leely on October 26th, 2011
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that is very good advice. still very difficult : /
by liveyourlife on April 7th, 2008
Yeah, sorry about that :(
by Brand Y on April 7th, 2008
Agreed. I think that more of us would be living non-psychotropically controlled lives if we'd admit that feelings sometimes have to be bad: that is part of the whole shebang.
by zazzy_one on April 7th, 2008
Ayuh. No up without down.
by Brand Y on April 7th, 2008
What about when your heart hurts so bad because you miss the one you love. She is all you think about.You know you can't call or text all the time because you will drive her away because you look needy or clingy
by markoldml on April 18th, 2008
Here's the thing.... Going to be cautious in saying this....And PLEASE BELIEVE that I am coming from a good place here. You need to figure out what that is all about, and perhaps a wee bit of professional, spiritual, or pastoral counseling might help you with this. It is my firm belief that if you aren't happy in your OWN skin you are bound to keep ruining romantic relationship.
by zazzy_one on April 23rd, 2008
Please trust that I have background with this kind of stuff. I am a divorce lawyer, and have been a lawyer for 17 years. I am not...making this up. Many people who have kind of raggedy social backgrounds themselves (grew up in foster care, or physically or emotionally abusive background) have this kind of needy profile. And it usually dooms a series of romantic relationships unitl the person figures out: I NEED TO GET SOME HELP WITH THIS. Why wait until then? Why not start now?
by zazzy_one on April 23rd, 2008
Yes, I agree with zazzy. There's really nothing more important than coming to terms with yourself so that you can be generally satisfied just EXISTING. That one "small" thing affects everything else in your life. If you don't have a sense of basic wholeness, every area of life gets colored with the drama of hoping that you can get something that will scratch that itch... every pain is magnified, every fear dramatized, every craving irresistible. "Being whole is job #1" should be a popular T-shirt! :)
by Brand Y on April 23rd, 2008
Although I really appreciate the ending, it would have been beautiful if you left it at the first line.
That's brilliant advice.
by Soliloquy on April 24th, 2008
LOL. Thanks. I never have known when to shut up! :)
by Brand Y on April 24th, 2008
But I'm glad you don't.
You and words mix well, words and I... not so much
by Soliloquy on April 24th, 2008
Which first line. I assume you mean "yes, I agree with zazzy"! (SNORT!)
by zazzy_one on April 25th, 2008
Lol. There's one in every crowd, I guess.
by Brand Y on April 25th, 2008
And you think I am that one?
by zazzy_one on April 25th, 2008
Well, one of the ones, maybe not THE One. :)
by Brand Y on April 25th, 2008
Of course not! I'm THE one. :P
by Soliloquy on April 25th, 2008
No.Me.
by CaRbOnPrOdUcK is Baccuss on December 26th, 2008