Money cannot buy you true love or true friendship. Yet the 'lack' of money can be a source of great distress. Poverty usually does not win friends or love, either. What are your thoughts on this paradox?
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ANSWERS: 37
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I think bringing a financial aspect to love and happiness may be the problem..many people who have money also have love and true friendship..some who have money don't...many people who are poor have love and friends in their lives...some who are poor do not. I think mayb what is missing is the consideration of "luck", "good fortune", "serendipity", coupled with the intrinsic character of the person(s)..someone who is kind, polite, accepting and thoughtful will attract others while someone who is a sourpuss and a whiner will not..you have to attract others in order to have love and friends in your life! :)
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its exactly correct. Money doesnt actually cause your problems, its what you do with it that will either create happiness or distress, and like wise, a lack of money brings its owns stresses and anxieties. The universe is a rich place, in all areas, there is an abundance of wealth ( not necessarily monetary wealth) out there for everyone, seek and ye shall find !! :)
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Honestly, it seems to me that people who have less money have better friends, and that people with a lot of money may have a couple good friends, but the rest hang around just because it might look good for them to be around that person.
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is there a paradox? why connect money with frienship? these are two seperate concepts... is the 'money dependent' frienship ever sincere?
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My thoughts are that too many people put too much importance in money rather then themselves. Too many people look at things that they want, rather then being appreciative of the things they have.
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I don't think that's the paradox. The paradox may be that Too much money can bring great distress in the form of freeloaders, security, making sure you don't lose it, etc. Not enough money (poverty) can bring great distress in the form of malnutrition, housing problems, quality of life, etc. It's all a matter of balance. Some people feel if they can't hit it big, its not worth the effort at all. There are many more low to middle income people than wealthy people, and there's nothing wrong with being content with what you have. Friends is a whole different ballgame, as your income shouldn't effect your friendship. It may affect your social circle of friends if you let it, but your real friends won't care what your annual salary or net worth is.
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You can't buy love but you can rent it.
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That money (or the lack of it) has little to do with true happiness. Maybe it's what we do with what we have that gives us the personality to attract true friendship and love. btw, great question!
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The paradox is explained in the book "The Science of Getting Rich" authored by Wallace D. Wattles. Therein lies the answer to your question. I simply am humbled by the opportunity to direct you towards the book. Best wishes!
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Maybe it's not a paradox but a lie or at least a misconception .. ~Nemo~
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Money is more important than we think, the only people that say it's not everything are the people that have what they want already.
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If neither money, nor poverty can win a person friends, love or happiness, then there can't really be a paradox here. Because with money having no influence on how much friendship and love one enjoys in life, neither riches nor poverty needs to be cause for distress or happiness. In other words, there's only really a paradox if someone chooses to put one there by making the faulty assumption that Poverty = Unhappiness.
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having money is better than not having much of it! so i think it would make you kinda happy b/c you can still pay your bills. friends always come and go but true friends are always in the picture.
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money can provide the means to the end. it can't get you the love, but it can make the ride towards attaining it a bit easier, at times.
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Nobody Loves You When You’re Down & Out Lyrics Once I lived the life of a millionaire Spent all my money, didn't have a care Taking all my friends out for a mighty good ride Bootleg liquors, champagne and wine Then I began to fall so low Didn't have a penny and no place to go If I ever lay my hand on a dollar again I'm gonna hold on to it till the eagle grins Nobody loves you when you are down and out In your pocket you ain't got one penny And your friends, you don't have any Well just as soon as you've get back on your feet again Here they all come the same old year long lost friends I thought that its mighty strange but without a doubt For nobody wants you, I got to tell ya Nobody needs you Nobody loves you when youre down and out. (I got to tell you one more time)
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Your assumption is that true love and friendship will remove distress. In my experience true love is a great source of distress. What money can buy is shelter, food, heat. Life can be pretty flippin distressful without those things.
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Money cannot buy you fufillment, but being comfortably secured gives you the time and opporunities to seek said fufillment.
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The Irish say that Money cannot buy happiness, but it does quiet the nerves. - And that bit of whimsy goes right to the heart of the matter.
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Money was created by man and love is an emotion created from above and money should not come between you and another human being who truely loves you. In the world we live in today it is very hard not to look at the money you make, but life is nothing more than a grace period and once its gone it is forever lost. "There's no such thing in the world as absolute reality. Most of what they call real is actually fiction. What you think you see is only as real as your brain tells you it is. Listen, don't obsess over words so much. Find the meaning behind the words, then decide. You can find your own name. And your own future"... -Solid Snake (Metal Gear Solid 2: Sons Of Liberty)
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the paradox is incomplete, if your broke you can work to make the most of it, and beleive it or not live quite satisfied, I think this points at trying to stay centered, and not put too much stress on purchases of friends or love because anything payed for is temporary even if you die with it, but to live and react to what is, and the rest will eventualy come to you. I feel that money and friendship and love act the same though here today gone tomorrow, why I am rethinking marriage as a bonding of two and more of dragging out relationships out of cultural habits and selfish ownership of another.
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money = power - for its good and its bad. it necessary for life but yet you just want more till you get drunk. don't sell your soul for it, and don't buy your soul with it.
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money cannot buy you friends but money gives you choices. If you have no money you have no choices.
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True love, and true friendship are a crap shoot. Everything is better with money, even tragedy.
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money certainly cant buy love, but it certainly could destroy your relationship. so in order to have a life time love you need to have MONEY and have it ALOT.
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The answer seems to lie in the premise that states money is a requirement for love. There is the belief that true love or true friendship is gained through personal experience with a person. Money doesn't buy love or friendship, it simply rents it. Money is only required as a requirement for love and friendship for shallow people.
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Money is what we call a "dissatisfier." It will motivate people only to the point where the accumulation of more money will be seen as not worth the effort. As an example, people will work only so much overtime for the extra money. There comes a point where time away from work becomes more important than the extra money. Most people have an exaggerated idea of money's power to motivate. They think that if they had a million dollars they would be happy, but the data on lottery winners ( for example ) indicates that the money only serves to make them LESS UNHAPPY. Happiness is defined in the mind of the individual seeking it, and most people seem to be happiest when they have sufficient money to pay their bills, with a bit left over for things they like to do, and who have goals toward which they work. Money and no goals is almost as dissatisfying as goals but no money.
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I don't think it is a paradox. Money causes stress in all income brackets. Lack of money doesn't mean lack of friends. IF you are setting your sights on becoming friends with people by hanging out outside a country club, that probably won't happen, but being friends with people in your social circle or in our natural lifes is completely reasonable.
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I can say this much..If someone pulls themselves up out of poverty, then that earns them great respect. Think about the people in the world that work hard to make a living. They may be educated, they may work hard, but not make the money they should. It is he fact that they work hard and try to do their best that most appreciate. Being poor has nothing to do with the amount of people that truly love you. If you have friends when you have nothing, then you know it is the love you give that they cherish most.
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Money can't buy you happiness but it does make unhappiness sort of comfortable.
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I don't think it's a paradox at all. It's just life. People either accept you for who you are or they don't.
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Well said..
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The point is crystal clear! It doesn't states that a rich man can't have love! It says that if a rich person (due to an reason) doesn't get love of others, he can never get it by his money power! On the other hand, poor people too have true love! Have you never heard the famous love stories in which one was rich and his partner poor!
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Water - Costs Money. Food - Costs Money. Electricity / Fuel (Warmth/light/TV etc.) - Costs Money. Etc., etc., etc. Ergo, Lack of money = 100% chance of Discomfort & Misery. Love - Free, BUT you may never find it, rich or poor. Ergo, Lack of Love - 50:50 chance rich or poor. Take the money and hope for the best!!
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True love has nothing to do with money or the lack of it. It has to do with the people.
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A sad state of affairs but probably a very true one.
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Fact from fiction, truth from diction. I think this is one of those logical examples that people try hard to ignore. They try to up the value of their poverty or lack of wealth by saying or believing the wealthy have no friends, less friends, or fake friends. the rich has friends, they are just other rich people. Can you blame them? If they had friends who were not rich, those friends would not respect boundaries and start to as for large loans, gifts, and such because "they are rich, they can afford it". Just as the less wealthy and the poor can have good friends because they have s common thread, so can the rich. If Ihad the chance to have a few friends and be filthy rich where I can say I never see my cable, utility bill etc. whatever it is the butler takes care of it and I never feel it, or be poor and have to wonder if buying that chicken will push into a bill or two, give me the money and the 4 or less friends.
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Poverty may not win you friends or love, but you can certainly find both when you are poor.
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