If someone did something HORRIBLE to you and you REALLY loved them, would you forgive them, just simply because you are so attached to them and don't want to lose them in your life, or would you let them go?
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ive been there and done that. i was in a relationship for 10 yrs and basically put up with everything because i didnt want to lose him. now i finally got rid of him im happier than i ever was with him. so no i wouldnt ever do it again. well not like before obviously sometimes things are going to happen but i wont let anyone do what my ex did again
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It really depends what it is..But i would forgive them just for a couple things because if you did every single time they would eventually catch on and then they would take advantage of you and believe me YOU DONT WANT THAT!!!!!
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I find it easier and easier to say bye bye as I age.
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Forgiveness is very powerful. And, mind you, you may still forgive yet detach from a person who is "toxic." The question to ask yourself is this: Does my interaction with this person lead to unhappiness, negativity and/or hurt? Many abused spouses, for example, allow and enable the abuser to continue his/her pattern because they are afraid of losing them. Have trust and love yourself enough to know that you will happy alone as well as with the new and more appropriate people who will most likely come into your life once you have moved on from those who hurt you.
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If someone did something horrible to me I may forgive, so that I stop hurting. I would never forget and hopefully I would stop loving them if they are adult. With children I love them unconditionally although I would do what I needed to to protect myself. As far as adults go, it is conditional, so therefore, see you later alligator.
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My husband did something very horrible to me. I have not let him go for a combination of reasons. I do love him, but I think the most important part is that it all works together. We work together. And more importantly than love, in my humble opinion, is our good friendship. If we weren't good friends and we had love plus his horrible lie, I would let him go. Love is easier to find than a good friend.
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If you want an honest and useful answer you will have to your kind of horrible, as there are horribles that can be forgiven and even forgotten, and then there are horribles that go beyond the threshold of forgiveness.
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It sounds as if you are very young, and not married to this person as of yet.You have to remember the old saying,"once a cheater, always a cheater." It is now going to be in the back of your mind each and everytime that he looks at a woman, and i mean just looking at one. Maybe you can sit down with him and talk to him, telling him, how you are feeling, and be honest with him, tell him just what you said above, about loosing your friendship with him. In all honesty darlin, you need to let him go, because he is not sounding real serious in your relationship, and with you talking to him, maybe you guys can still , somehow stay friends. It is entirely possible you know. Id find me a guy that loved you for you, and not have any want, nor need to be looking elsewhere.
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you should forgive and forget
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Been thru that.When i first got together with my former g/f she told me that her ex had molested her 7yr old daughter.She cried and told me the whole horrible story.I wanted to go kill the guy.Shortly after we moved in together the phone rings at 1:00 am,it's her ex.She talks to this guy like nothing ever happened.So i did alittle detective work.She had been lying to me all along.Her father informed me that she had accused him of the molestation and then helped him get out of it.Wether or not it really happened i dont know.Funny part is just 2 weeks ago her picture was in the paper for stealing and forging check from where she worked and now shes on the run.According to the paper her ex is with her.So i guess i get the last laugh.Moral of the story.....let them go.
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yes if your a Christian. then whats the right thing to do is forgive. its a sin to not forgive someone. but it all jus depends if you want to put up with it or not. thatz kind of where me and my man are at right now. i dont want to lose him. maybe its just a phase.
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I'd listen to what my heart and God tells me to do.
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