Do u think i should go back2 a guy who make me have an abortion4 him when i didn't want2?but this guy i have been involved with him sexually4 2 years! he tell me cares but i know i love him.dont u think i should ask him4a better relalationship or giveup?
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If he really made you have an abortion (which is impossible, btw -- you're the one who has to request it and consent to it, but that's another matter), you should avoid him like the plague. Whatever feelings you have for him are not your friends.
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Are there any rarity (if this is right word) of guys in your country?
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I think you should let the relationship go, and focus on education so that when you decide to have children you will be mentally prepared to raise them. I also think that you need to be in a mature relationship before you have children. When you learn to exchange 2 for to, you will be heading in the right direction.
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People only treat you as badly as you let them.
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I had 2 abortions because I was foolish. The guy cheated on me after that and I dumped him. Should have dumped him after the 1st abortion but I was blind. Every relationship is different but this sounded so much like mine, I have to say- you should give up - you deserve more and something better. Drop the guy!
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I think before sorting out any kind of relationship, you might want to take some time to become a stronger, fuller person. No one "makes" you do anything you don't want to. Until you understand that, you will never be able to stand up for yourself and play an equal role in a healthy relationship. As for the guy, if he manipulated you into having an abortion when it was seemingly against your wishes, then he certainly doesn't have your best interests in mind and he doesn't respect you. As another ABer said, people only treat you as badly as you allow them to treat you. I think if you step away from this relationship you'll find it's not true love you feel but the desire to be with someone. When you can stand fully and happily on your own, then you're ready for a relationship. Good luck.
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Stop and think about your situation! This guy made you have an abortion - to destroy a part of yourself - strictly for his own selfish reasons, the first of which appears to be a determination to shirk any responsibilities. Are you sure you really love him, even when he won't take responsibility for creating and then destroying an innocent life? He is never going to be any different. Get away from him as soon as possible, don't go places where you are likely to see/encounter him ... and don't let him sweet talk you into coming back. He just is not going to ever be the person you deserve. Make a new life for yourself. I wish you the best.
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