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  • It all...depends. Assume for a moment that you and he go the distance. Are you going to feel good supressing every single question you have forever? This is the stuff that bad relationships/ marriages are built on in my opinion....Then one day, after your building anger has turned your stomache to a tight ball of bile and your heart to ashes...you BLOW HIM AWAY WITH A SHOT GUN. On the other hand, if you are the kind of person who has been supressing everything for years and it doesn't seem to effect you emotionally or physically...I don't know. Perhaps this will work for you.
  • You should tell him how these things make you feel and now he is aware and ignorance is not an excuse anymore. Let him know when your feelings are hurt when he does any of these actions, and if he loves you more than himself he will stop these actions or at least you will see him putting forth the efforts to stop them. If after knowing they hurt you, he continues doing them, then you have to decide if you want to stay with him. I really don't think that at this point in your relationship you should be living together. If he is angry when you ask him about them, it is a sign that he knows where you stand on it and doesn't want to be told. That is a bad sign for you, because he is not willing to communicate about it. If you dont' stick to your guns on what hurts you emotionally, he won't see the value in them since you were willing to compromise them.
  • In all fairness, most blokes look at porn at some point in their lives, & most would get upset, or lie if confronted about it. Especially by someone that looks like you do. He's a young bloke, & you've already said that this is his first serious relationship. That probably means he's been using porn for some time... to relieve the pressure so to speak. You really need to have a sit down talk about this, not a confrontation. Perhaps take him to neutral ground, in public (so he cant spaz out without looking like a nut), but not a crowd, perhaps a park. Explain rationally how it makes you feel & why. If he continues it shows you that he cares about himself more than he does you. Then its up to you.
  • The big problem is that he gets mad and refuses to discuss it with you. Eventually there will be other problems that won't get discussed. Imagine how much worse it would get if you married him. I say, move out while it's still easy to do.  

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