How should we seat our parents for the wedding and reception? Both fathers and one mothered are remarried. Bride's mother is single. Bride's parents do not get along, neither do groom's parents. Help!
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Very good question. +2 Although the parents do not get along, you'd be surprised at how people can make nice when all eyes are on them. Should you choose to seat the parents at the head table, if you have room after all the attendants, put the parents on the appropriate side (bride/groom) with the new spouses between them. Thus they will be separated enough to not fight, hopefully. The other way to do this is to seat each set of parents at a different table near the head table, avoiding any possibility of problems. If they cannot be even in the same room together, I'm afraid they have CHOSEN not to attend then, haven't they? Don't play the "I won't come if THEY are coming" games, express your sorrow that they can't come. Congratulations and good luck!
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give them each a table to host rather than having a top table, and you both 'circulate' round each table, i.e. 1st course father1 and new wife 2nd course father2 new wife , course3 mother and new husband and cofee with ex wife, problem solved, when it comes to the first dance, your dad after that good luck, hope your honeymoon is family free
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You could always tell them "it's my wedding day, you can hold back your personal feelings towards (other party) for one day so that you don't ruin my wedding". If they can't agree to it threaten to leave them out. No loving parent would ever go out of their way to spoil their child's wedding. As for seating, during the wedding put them at separate ends of the row with other family between the (grandparents), and during the reception do the same thing if you are tight on room. Another option would be to have a mixture during the reception having one set from each side at the same table, that hopefully get along with each other at least.
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