How forgiving are you, generally speaking? is there a difference in how forgiving you are and how forgiving you would like to be?
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MiMI
ANSWERS: 19
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I am very forgiving and I wouldn't change a thing.
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David Weber, in one of his Honor Harrington books, described how forgiving I am perfectly, when he described how forgiving Queen Elizabeth III (of the Star Kingdom of Manticore) is: "She holds a grudge until it dies of old age, then calls a taxidermist."
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Life is way too short to hold grudges. I try to let it go quickly (one or two days). It takes too much energy to keep it going more than that.
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Depends on the "violation". There are a few lines I have NO tolerance on being crossed....others I have no problem forgiving regardless....yet others that I'll forgive ONCE....IF I believe the sincerity of the intent not to repeat the transgression. Cheat on me? Goodbye. Go blow $15k on a credit card I didn't know about and now it's max'd out and you can't make the payments without me knowing? Yeah....we can work with that...once. Be late for dinner? I could forgive that more than once lol. Kinda depends. <edit>No...no difference on how forgiving I'd like to be compared to how forgiving I am.</edit>
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I tend to operate on a partial-forgiveness mode: I forgive, but don't forget. I feel that this is generally appropriate, as forgiving is necessary in all personal relationships, but forgetting borders on stupidity and occasionally crosses the line into outright idiocy. However, this only applies to wrongs someone does to me. If you hurt my little sister or my closest friends, I don't forgive you, even if they do.
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I am very forgiving. I have forgiven many a wrong done to me. It depends on how soon I forget it though. I try to forget it immediately, but I still remember some things that happened year ago. It was that painful. All of the things I've had to forgive my bf about I can't even remember what it was about!
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For me I'd love to just forgive and forget, but even if I am able to do that, there is still the memory of the event that I can't seem to forget. If I could somehow loose memory of those bad times, I'd be more of a positive person instead of a closet downer.
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Yes, due to the nature of my profession I would LOVE to be more forgiving than I am allowed to be. I hear some horrible sob stories and wish I could help. In my personal life I find myself being more forgiving than I should be to compensate for the times that I cannot be at work...unbalanced lifestyle much.. lol at least I forgie myself....most of the time although that french poodle perm fifteen years ago... ugh that should not be forgiven! *lmao!*
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Although I get angry too quickly, I also forgive quickly
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There is no difference between how forgiving I am and how forgiving I would like to be.
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BIG DIFFERENCE. I'd love to be able to forgive but I don't have it in me
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Since I'm no longer hormone-driven, it's easier for me to overlook many things. My best friend did something that I felt was totally out of line, but since we've been friends since high school, I decided to overlook it due to the length of our friendship. That's just an example. I used to cut people off at the knees!
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Difficult question. Technically, we cannot really forgive anyone except those who offend or injure us personally. I cannot forgive anyone for what they do to others. And though I may try to forget and "blow off" a wrong done to me, I can't really "forgive" unless the person asks for forgiveness. Then, I am obligated, according to my religion.
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I am very forgiving. I would like to be even more forgiving.
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Very forgiving. I'm just not a grudge holder. But just because I forgive doesn't mean I don't hold someone accountable for what they've done. I'm happy with how forgiving I am.
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I think sometimes I am too forgiving. I tend to forgive almost immediately. But, if you hurt someone i love, I will hold a lifelong grudge against you.
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Ridiculously forgiving. I think I am just about as forgiving as I am going to get.
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I'm very forgiving with everyone except myself. Honestly, I'd like to be a little less forgiving with others and more forgiving with myself.
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I would like to be more forgiving but I'm just forgetting. Too bad.
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