If you just lost a loved one, what are some of the most comforting things your significant other can say to you?
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I dont think its something he could say to me,i think its the way he would be around me.All he would have to do is hold my hand,cuddle me,and let me cry if i want without telling me it'll be all right.
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You know that is one of the hardest things I can think of. When I lost my dad know one could say anything to me to make it better, then I lost my 21 year old son in law. I had to see his mother die inside herself, and then I had another dear friend loose her child 24 to an overdose of methodone (prescribed by a doctor) and then my other good friend's nephew accidently shot himself just 2 weeks ago. What can you say, not much, just be there if they need you. God Bless
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There really isn't anything to say. Just be there to listen if they want to talk about it. Let them know you are there. Help them out.. If you are going to the store, call them up and ask them if they need anything. Just them knowing that you are there for them is comfort in itself.
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Nothing. Just be there. Maybe I'm just not good with words but I figure words aren't going to do any good so all the words are worthless. But just being there, even if you don't say anything, can be a comfort. "I'm sorry, I don't know what to say." (if you're worried they'll misinterpret your silence.)
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We can get through this together....
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Nothing she could say would comfort me as much as just being there for me and letting me cry on her shoulder, figuratively and/or literally.
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Learned from experience and bereavement counseling: * Be there to give even silent support - do not abandon the person. * "It's hard." is safe - death isn't easy, and it opens the door for them to cry or talk if they need to. You take no chance of being misunderstood as 'assuming' to know what they feel. * "Everyone is different - there's no one right way to grieve." Gives permission for them to feel. * (my favorite) "Don't let anyone 'should' on you." Gives permission to do what you feel like, without others judging you as right, wrong, or otherwise messed up.
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I have to agree with most of the answers here, just having somebody there was the most important thing to me. That alone provided more comfort than any words could ever do.
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JUST LISTEN. GIVE ME YOUR SHOULDER.
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There would be nothing that anyone could say to console me. When I lost my best friend in 2005, I really just needed to mourn with my friends and his family and also have time to myself to grieve.
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