Can we find another, less pejorative word than "cheater" to define men and women who have relationships outside their marriages?
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If they are married, I think the word "adulterer" would work. adulterer Main Entry: adul·ter·er Pronunciation: É™-ˈdÉ™l-tÉ™r-É™r Function: noun Date: 15th century : a person who commits adultery; especially : a man who commits adultery This would define a sexual relationship outside of marriage. June 2008- I tried to add an image of Elliot Spitzer but it won't let me.
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Unfaithful spouse
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A "cheater" by any other name will still be a cheater.
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have about faithfully weak
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How about "lover" and "mistress?"
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Why? "Cheater" isn't even pejorative *enough* to fit the crime, in my opinion. Why try to sugar-coat an inexcusable, cowardly and hurtful act?
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I'd like to make it more pejorative, if anything. Don't try to sugar coat it!
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"Cheater" does not get close enough. How about "disease-infested piece of sh*t bastard"
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Swingers if both partners choose to be married but persue other lovers. Cheaters pretty much fits the bill if its unknown to one of the partners and is meant to be decietful.
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I prefer pathological liar myself. And the lie often is that hubby and wife fail to acknowledge their relationship died long ago.
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George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, Alexander Hamilton, Andrew Jackson, Zachary Taylor,Warren G. Harding, Franklyn Delano Roosevelt, Dwight D. Eisenhower, John F. Kennedy, Lydon B Johnson, Ronald Reagan, Bill Clinton, (Who did I leave out?) . This country was founded by men who were called the Founding Fathers with good reason. The men who followed them have continued that tradition. . The amount of self-righteousness filling this page amazes me. Taking "lovers" or having "mistresses" is part of life. It happens in all classes. It is a natural part of being human. The puritan element tries to cover that fact with religious stricture, or fear mongering. The chance of getting STDs or becoming pregnant from a serious relationship are minimal or non-existent.
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Certainly every man or woman who has "outside relationships" does not deserve the ugly names that have been suggested by Answerers of the question. This is the only country where such relationships are frowned up with such vituperation. It must be something in the water.
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If the shoe fits.
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"User" they want the best of both worlds a girlfriend / boyfriend & there bit on the side.
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Read your Bible. They are going to Burn in Hell! Read your Bible.
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liar. however i'm not against polygamy exactly, i just think that people better be honest w the s.o "look you're not going to be my one and only and i'm seein jim at 5 tonight" "oh really have fun cuz jane's coming over next weekend" not my cup of tea but as long as nobody gets lied to i don't really care
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I think that any man or woman who can live with the same person for twenty, thirty, forty years or more, and not desire to expand his or her horizons by having "serious" relationships with people other than their spouses must be partially brain dead. - Someone else said, in answer to another question, if I may paraphrase, "do you go through life eating only one food, do you read the same book every day, see the same movie again and again? Do you have only one friend? --Then why should you have a relationship with only one man or woman?"
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I think the difference between a "cheater" and a person who has extramarital sexual relations is whether or not the spouse knows about it and what the understood expectations and boundaries are in the marriage. I think that if you are sneaking around, hiding it from your spouse, you are cheating - and it is not just about the sex. It is about cheating the bond of trust. But if you have an open marriage or if your spouse understands what you are doing, then it is not really cheating, just adultery or extramartital sex. Just coming up with a different word does not make it any less or any more right or wrong.
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How about "low-down filthy lying snake?" That is more to the point - sorry that it didn't make indiscretions and violations of trust seem "better."
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We could just go 'Taliban' on their ass and call them Infidels :p You know from the blasphemous roots of "Infidelity", lol
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Nope, cheater is the best word I can think of. If it looks like a snake and crawls like a snake.............oh well
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How about Hell-bound-Sinner
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I prefer scumbag.
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Cake eaters?
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Sure..dishonorable lout/loutess.
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Mental terrorist Betrayer Destroyer Traitor Imitator Double crosser Two-timer Deciever Beguiler Con artist Swindler defrauder Scammer
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Desparate and isolated
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swingers? Hovis...best of both?
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well cheater is what they are ..what would u suggest we call them?
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Why? To lessen our feelings of guilt? It is what it is.
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Son of bitches. Which they are, but that's used for too many other things also.
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Trash
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If a partnership decides AT THE BEGINNING that the relationship is open, that's one thing. That's not cheating because both parties are privy to that information, and don't feel like anyone is lying if someone finds another lover. That is completely different than if two people PROMISE to each other that there is no one else. Then it's lying and it is cheating, and it's disgusting. Some people are completely cut and dry and lump it all together, but I think as long as it's not about going behind someone's back and doing them dirty and breaking their heart- all is fair.
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why? I think the word "cheater" works just fine.
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Adulterer?
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How about "LIAR"... or "Back-Stabber"?
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Unfaithful, double crosser, back stabber, two face, unloyal, untrustworthy, untrue, snake, creeper,
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No. I won't play games with something that serious. In fact I wish there were worse names that were pg rated to call people who do that!
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Nope, sorry! If you have a relationship outside of your marriage without your spouse's knowledge or permission, whether it's physical, emotional or both, you are a dirty CHEATER!!!! The CHEATER doesn't deserve to be referred to with a kinder, gentler term.
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How about: Betrayer of someone who married them in good faith?
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it is what it is. you cheat yourself, you cheat your spouse, you cheat your children, you cheat God, you cheat you finances. you compromise your integrity, you rob your children of precious time, you spend excess, money, you throw the great gift of marriage that God gives you. what word would you rather sugar coat it with?
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nope "Cheater" sounds good to me maybe add SORRY S.O.B on the end of it though.
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Adulterer!
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Considering how serious of a betrayal that can be, I think that's a relatively kind term.
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I think 'cheater' is a fitting word to describe the unfaithful partners in a marriage. If their spouse isn't aware of their extra-marital affairs, then liar and deciever would work. If the spouse is aware and okay with the affair, then swinger would be an appropriate title.
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cheater implies that u did something to get ahead <~~lol no pun intended. asshole or bitch works just the same
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Swingers!!!!
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Lifestylers!!!
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Open married!!!
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Sex surrogate!!!
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Marital aid!!!
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Free lover!!!
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I have thought about this problem for many years. I see that many people are committed to the "ideal" of lifetime commitment, but as a woman who has known many men, and women too, who feel differently about marriage, I just couldn't bring myself to join those who want to live with one person for forty or fifty years without involving themselves with any other member of the opposite sex. - People are too interesting. Confining one's self to one person within a box barely justifies living the one life we are given to live. - This is not to say that marriage cannot be fulfilling. I would want to be married to a lifelong partner (as I am, although in my second marriage) but I would not want to know only him. Friendships and deeper relationships are necessary. - And, my husband agrees.
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How about heartbreaker? (Although I know that this word would not apply as an accurate description to someone who doesn't mind unfaithfulness as much as I do)
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Why would we want a less "pejorative" word for scummy people like that?
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what do you want the actualy act to not sound so bad?? fat chance!!! how bout fu%£ing wanker instead???
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Married and having an affair, whats a good descriptive word? Selfish Self-centered or for a colorful word Asshat's
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arsehole? thats a good one and pretty accurate if you ask me?
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Selfish, self-centered, immature, dishonest, commitment challenged, jerk, disloyal...but I think "cheater" is still the best term, the other words simply describe some of the traits of the average cheater.
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Fillanderer
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We could find lots of other words but it wouldn't alter the fact that they are cheaters....
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erm... not that i agree one bit with what they've done - the punishment should fit the crime - but - roamer??
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sumb bags
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No. You are not "locked in" to your marriage, and cheating is never acceptable. If your spouse is not meeting your needs in your marriage, then you go to your priest, to a marriage councilor, or any other person who can help you FIRST. You do what you can can to save your marriage and you fight like hell to make it right. You didn't fall in love and get married in like 15 minutes did you? NO. You went before GOD AND COUNTRY and you said....I love this person, I will live the rest of my life with them. Good Luck.
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why get married if you even have an inclination that you might have relationships with other people? marriage isnt just for fun its for life? ugh
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JERK
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Here's another word. Betrayer. There is no way and no reason to sugar-coat cheating on your spouse. It's wrong, and people who do it deserve to be called what they are. Cheaters.
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Slimeball or sleazebag.
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to make it sound more innocent i would say wanderer
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I anwswered a similar question several weeks ago by saying: If it looks like a snake, slithers like a snake, hisses like a snake and bites like one, changing its name isn't going to make it anything but a snake. So, I think cheater works fine.
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Oh I think Cheater works pretty good. I mean after all you are betraying the person who loves you most in the most personal way imaginable
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The Bible calls it Adultery.
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if they are both married or one is married and the "enabler" KNOWS this fact...I would say the terms "player" and "skank" apply....it is one thing to get involved unknowingly with a married man/woman and after feelings r there find out they are otherwise committed but to KNOWINGLY enter into such a thing, some even know the betrayed spouse as well as the kids...well that's just the lowest thing one person can do to another. It shows lack of respect both for self and for others, it shows absolutely no class Do unto others as they say.....this sort of thing ALWAYS comes back to haunt you. Karma is a bitch and usually it comes at you in the form of a betrayed spouse!! I have never in my life nor would I ever betray another- this sort of thing is a selfish immature and downright cruel thing to do to someone's family! Where is the shame?
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No. Saying someone is cheating implies that their relationship is not "open" and they're doing something they shouldn't. If a couple has an "open" marriage (swingers, for example), and they're both cool with that, I would never say they're cheating.
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whore or jigallo or slut or man whore
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Nothing less "pejorative", as you put it. And it's descriptive of the situation, isn't it?
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Why would we want to do that?
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Think of what you're asking and what kind of response you're seeking. Sexual, not friendly relationships, outside of marriage is cheating, adultery period. If you mean the latter of course it's okay. If you're a recent adulterer seeking comfort or approval for crossing the line, the majority of unconditional love conformist married types are going to blast you for it. If you made a mistake, and desire to spend the rest of your life making it up then you are a better person but it will not be easy and your spouse has got to let you back into his heart. If you're into a "swingtown" type marriage then you don't need advice as you have your answer already. What are you asking here?????
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This is the stupidest AB question...EVER!
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Spermswapping
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i think "cheater" is less pejorative enough.
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Clinton?
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if you were to be branded a cheater it is obvious that the other party does not know about it, therefore it is fitting. you have cheated your partner out of their self respect, their love and their happiness so why should we soften the blow for someone who has downright set out to hurt another. if you really want a softer way of saying cheater then i suggest you go look for it somewhere else like a sex addicts group or some other form of back patting.
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liar
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"people with infidelities"
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Philanderer perhaps?
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tramposo..trompeur...mowehhnk
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how about adulterer?? Since when are ADULTERERS sensitive? Were they sensitive to their spouses when they were committing ADULTERY??? Me and my husband surely were'nt when we cheated on eachother and we were equally wrong in commiting AUDLTRY!!!
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explorers
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why would you want to put perfume on a pig?
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Okay! Wanderlust. Is that better?
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I reserve worse words for them than that. They are getting off easy if they are just refered to as cheaters.
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no..a cheater is a cheater...no way to sugar coat what they did
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that's what adulterer is for...
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Infidel, for infidels practice infidelity. Loser would work, and so would skank and a few other less than vulgar words.
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Would such a dirtbag need a better name anyway?
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Why would we want to? If marriage is the union of one man and one woman (and I suppose I need to include same-sex marriages in this defintion now), then to have a relationship outside of that marriage is cheating / being unfaithful / breaking your marriage vows. This is the same thinking, to my mind, that results in car theft being called "joyriding" (in England, at least), and all it does is attempt to lessen the crime. We need to call things what they are, and not get too worked up about whether we're being PC or not - people are responsible for their own actions, and if they do something they shouldn't, they should bear the consequences.
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bonus fucker
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Dnt think of it as cheating. More like sharing duh!!
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