I think this is a very personal situation between husband and wife and should not be discussed on Answerbag.

Well, from the deployment rule book, you need to look at it this way. When deployed alot ALOT of people say that their marriage doesn't count so have sex with whom ever you want. By, your husband still showing the drive and need for you....or your scent, that shows that he still wants you and you should at least be happy for that. As for what you should do, I can't tell you that.

Worn? No worries. Dirty? Ok, I'm worried. Ewwwwwwwww!

if he wanted to wear them it should be a cause for concern, if its a manly 'perv' thing fine.

Ahh...yes...the "special" care package marked "For Your Eyes Only". Well, it would bother me, because my husband isn't in to that, so I would wonder what had changed. Clean panties wouldn't bother me at all (in fact, it is quite common). That said, there are some guys that really get off on that and it is likely their ladies know that already. I think it is yucky, but have no issue with it for other people. Now, a note to all you military wives and girlfriends: Yes, lots of you will send panties or a little something to remind him of you. Make sure what you send is appropriate. Don't send it to him if he is in the field or if you know that his unit is on the move or in a convoy because space is very limited. Wouldn't you rather he have more room for ammunition or a kevlar jacket than your panties? It is, actually, a bad idea to send dirty lingerie (I mean unwashed) because (and this is gross, so brace yourself), it can attract bugs etc and, filth causes decay, so those panties will actually start smelling not so nice and get kind of funky. That is not so pleasant for him. Lingerie is something that is usually better sent at the half way point or closer to when he comes home. It is playful glimpse of what he has to come home to! Mark the package "EYES ONLY" or something cute like "Caution: Wild Thing inside!" etc so that he doesn't get a package at mail call and rip it open in front of 100 other guys who will all tease him about it.

I never had a guy ask for "worn". I dated an AF test pilot who kept a pair of my unmentionables in one of his flightsuit pockets for "luck" though.

That would bother me alot, and its definately not a turn on for me! I used to have a neighbour who stole my knickers of the washing line, so i dont reallyh like men carrying my underwear around even if it is my partner

O.K. Ladies, Do none of your men really enjoy your taste or scent. Now I know in most situations your partners are not gone like we are but, if he were, how would you see him assuaging that desire that you would be happy with? You can't masturbate this away like other sexual desires.