How can I talk to this guy I like more fluently? I'm completely self-confident about my image and actually think I'm fairly attractive, however, I really lack confidence in the verbal communication department....Any suggestions?
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Sure you can, though you might try not using so complicated words, as those words are meant to be used converationally, and if you are not comfortable with them or are nervous, they can make things a lot harder. Just take things really slow, and just smile and laugh or giggle, making sure that he knows that you are into him. Yes, you might seem or appear simple, but it is only until you are comfortable, and he will notice that. In these situations, the shorter and the more simple you make the conversation the smoother things will go, and you should get more comfortable with him and should be able to open up, but whatever you do, don't force complicated words, as they always backfire if used awkwardly. I use big words too, but I don't think about using them, I just do, and until you are used to using certain words, don't use them until they feel right and until you feel right using them. Also, some words should never be used in conversations, for they are just too nerdy, and too hard to say (though you didn't use any of those)!
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keeping it simple is probably a good start. on a grander scale, have you considered debate club (if you're in hight-school/college), speech/rhetoic classes in school, public speaking classes/toastmasters if your out of school?
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Slow down. Too often we get in such a hurry that we undermine ourselves by having to fall back on ummm or like or some other verbal time waster to give ourselves time to think. Speak in a relaxed way not like you are on a job interview. Is he a gifted speaker? Is that why you feel this pressure? If it's that he is gifted. Make that the topic of conversation. Tell him that you think he is gifted. Admit your own struggles with that skill. It will offer up advance warning if you should sputter to a stop, compliment him and give you something to talk about that mutually interests you. If just makes you nervous because you like him so much that you lose your composure around him...follow the steps above AND enjoy that lovely feeling. :)
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