a sad horrible hurtful thing to hear that nobody should ever have to hear, but they should never believe. i have little respect for those people as a parent, but i hope that they learn that what they say is wrong and that their children someday forgive them - especially when it becomes time to consider the care for the elderly. sorry you had to hear such a horrible thing in your childhood, but if you have children, the joy they bring will greatly outdo the pain or stress they cause in the end. raise them right and they'll make you proud.

I'm so sorry this happened to you, and when you have children it can stop with you. My mother had this uncontrollable temper as her father before her. Neither were ever violent, but my mother told me whe wished I'd never been boon, hoped I'd burn in hell, etc. Luckily, I only really lived with her when I was in high school, but geez, I hated hearing that, you know? My stepfather told me to just ignore her, that she didn't mean it, etc. My mother and I became estranged when I was in my mid 20's over other irrational behavior. I have never said those things to my children although I lashed out in anger when stressed. I didn't say the wrong things, I just yelled what I should have said in a normal voice. Gradually, in my family, the temper thing is getting weaker and weaker with each generation. I still stress easily however. It's as though my mother is standing there yelling at me when I don't get something.

My EX Wife said the same thing to are kids my kids don't talk to her that much Because the way she is , She told me that i took 10 years of her life away so my kids took 10 yrs from her to the kids lived with me when she was gone then i took her back because the kids needed there mom , she will never change ,

1) Maybe you were a handful as a teenager and your mom had poor coping skills and she verbalized this as frustration. 2) Perhaps she doesn't want you to have offspring because she thinks they might be as challenging as you were and she doesn't want to babysit for little hellions? 3) If she was really wicked, she could have told you that she hopes you do have children and they are worse than you were to her. Could be a variety of reasons, I wouldn't lose sleep over it. You sound like you are going to do whatever you decide to do anyway.

That's harsh. It's wrong IMO and whether or not you should have kids is up to you.

Your mother has some deep, deep issues she needs to work on. The best thing you can do for you and any children you might have is to stop taking that kind of terrible treatment from her. Your children will learn about self-esteem from you. If you allow anyone to speak to you in that demeaning and purposefully hurtful manner then your kids will see that as acceptable behavior and I can absolutely assure you it that it isn't. Tell your mother you will not allow her in your life if she ever utters words to that effect again and above all MEAN it. Even if she claims it is the truth. She will stop if she really loves you and wants you around and if she doesn't then think about the blow you are striking for your own dignity by not allowing it to continue. It's an awful thing to say to anyone. Both sentiments.

While I am not going to judge your mother, I am going to say that I find that attitude incredibly rude and thoughtless. I am going to say that a lot of parents might lash out on their children like this because they feel as though they have been inadequate as parents and want to find a way to blame their children instead of themselves. If my parents just told me this out of anger, I would probably forgive them. If my mom said it to me when she appeared calm and rational, I would be so hurt and crushed. I mean.... she went through so many childbirths. Luckily, my mom says "The pain was worth it" for all of us. If my dad ever said that to us, I would be stricken with surprise and shock because it would be so out of character for him. Actually, it would be out of character for both of them. Yeah.. I don't think a parent should say something like that to their children. That's just harsh and could be considered verbal/emotional abuse. If this happened to you, just remember that you are not a mistake and you were meant to be born. I can't imagine a mother forgetting her baby that she carried for nine months. She will remember you. It would also be good to consider her tone of voice (Is she kidding? Is she serious?). While I would say that it is not a cool thing to joke about, it is a possibility that she was just kidding if ... let's say.. you didn't do your chores or something. I'm not coming up with excuses for her, just coming up with possible explanations. Yeah. Remember: YOU ARE NOT A MISTAKE and YOU ARE HERE FOR A REASON. :)

I believe that has to be the most hurtful, cruel and thoughtless comment a mother could ever say to a child. Saying words like this to your child is just as harmful as physical abuse. Maybe even worse. Emotional abuse stays with them for life. Every child that is born deserves to be loved and cared for. They didn't ask to be brought into this world. I dearly loved all 4 of my children. I made sure they all felt loved.

My mom used to be like that. I just used to look at her with a serene smile and tell her that every moment of each day I spend hoping she would die. It didn´t solve anything but it gave me a way to ventilate my stress, none the less.