First of all, do not allow this person to visit. Never allow anyone to come to your home that you met online. Second, he may be gay or bisexual, this is not bad. Be accepting and let him figure it out on his own, when I was starting the sexual portion of puberty I originally thought I was full blown gay, then I realized quickly enough (thanks to playboy) that I was either bisexual or something in between. Let him find out on his own, but do not allow that visit.

Thanks for your input. I thought perhaps if he was able to meet this boyfriend, he might realize he is not gay afterall. I hate that he is not even trying to explore the girl side of things until he is at an age where bisexual and gay relationships are easier for him to have, if this is what he prefers.

My suggestion would be to meet him in a very public and open place but never at your home. As for your son, by trying to prove to him that he is not gay or bisexual is going to only make him start to resent you for not allowing him to be himself. because as he gets older he will eventually make his own decision. I suggest that you love him and let him know that you are going to be there for him regardless.

DO NOT let him meet the boy that he thinks he is in love with. Please do not. I'm only 16 and I know all too well the dangers of allowing something like that. The boy may be real, and he may be kind to your son, but that is not enough to go on. Be accepting of him, but encourage him to find partners in real life. If he told you, then he has either 1) been thinking about it for a very long time, and has finally decided to come out. or 2) absolutely infactuated with this idea of the boy he is in love with. If this is the case, his homosexual desires will probably pass.

It depends if he is wanting this boy to stay in your home. If he does, explain to him that you do not let strangers stay for visits, whether they be a potential boyfriend or a potential girlfriend. If this boy will be staying in your area, say that you would be glad to let them meet personally in a public place. If he is within a 2 hour drive, say that you could drive to a midpoint place for them to meet in person. Make sure you let him know that this is not because it is a boy instead of a girl he wants to meet, but because he met them online and, unfortunately, sometimes people online do not always tell the truth.

Isn't 14 too young to know anything about all this? Still, 14 is too young to date for any type of relationship. Straight, gay, whatever, it all ends in one place -- unnecessary heartbreak.

If you son asked for a potential gf to visit would you allow it? The answer should be the same.

well besides the fact that it's another boy...he's 14. So a 14 year old shouldn't be having a love interest come to stay with him from out of state...and what does the other boys Mother think of him going to stay with strangers? If she doesn't mind then i would be concerned. It's not a good idea for him to be meeting people online while he's only 14

no no no no no no no no no no no no no no don't meet someone in person who've you've met online

Firstly, I am glad to see that your son felt comfortable enough to come to you and tell you that he thinks he's gay. You must be doing something right - that must be a difficult thing to come out and say! 1) he's only 14, maybe too young to get serious about someone. 2) the kid doesn't live nearby - adult long distance relationships are hard enough to maintain with salaries and cars, never mind a couple of young teenagers. 3) you never know who you're talking to online. If he meets this guy make sure it's in a public place with you nearby incase the kid's not who he claims to be. Or get him to visit your house, with you there. But not to stay over - he's a stranger. Lots of people meet others on the web these days, for friendships and romance. I haven't really accepted it and don't see it as 'right'. I feel people should meet one another in the 'real world'. Perhaps your son fears his friends' and school mates' reactions upon hearing he's maybe gay, and for that reason he decided to explore it online.

Love him anyway but, put your foot down...He need not meet poeple over the internet and so call himself falling in love...Next, no the boy cannot come down if he plans to stay in your home..Explain to him what true love is and how it works...

The Summer is a fair way away. Online relationships move at about treble the speed of face to face ones and this particular love interest may have faded by the summer. The answers are somewhat more simple than most peole seem to be saying. 1) Ask to meet the lad on the phone. While this is not a cast iron guarantee of his being who he says he is, it's a decent step. 2) Paedophiles do not hide under every bush, but talking the risks up sells newspapers. The kid is probably who and what he says he is. Even so, what kid travels without parental consent. Get to know the parents, but do not out the lad by accident. 3) Remind your son that courtship starts the day you meet in person, and that he and the other lad have an absolute right to call any meeting (if you agree to one) off at any time. 4) Recognise that at 14 it is perfectly reasonable to know you are gay. http://pflag.org may be helpful for you both here. Think about it. You knew you were heterosexual when you were 14, right? So he has a pretty good idea that he is not classically heterosexual. 5) The initial meeting should be in a decent, safe, public place. The lobby of a good hotel is as good as anywhere. If you agree to a meeting be content to wait with your son to meet the other lad. Since he shoudl ideally be with his folks anyway, you have time to get to know each other before deciding "do we all head for our place" or "do we run for the hills" Your son's pretty brave. You have to be worthy of his trust and give him responsibility while keeping him as safe as one can keep a 14 year old. And, as for sex, you'd rather he were doing it somewhere hygienic than somewhere nasty, right? Well, you'd rather he weren't going to do it at all, but he is.

I would talk with my son first about his sexuality and his feelings (maybe do some research about how to deal with such a delicate situation - parent to child). Then I would call the other boy's parents and discuss the situation with them before I'd agree to anything else.