How do I tell my boyfriend that I want him to make me reach orgasm more often? We have good sex, but I don't/can't come from sex alone. I want him to go down on me more, and I think I have a right to an orgasm every time he has one.

I agree about the orgasm for orgasm idea because that's just fair. Have you asked him to go down on you more?? I know that some guys have a hard time with it because compared to their base flavor, women have a very acidic flavor, many guys just can't handle that. If you want to change that, eat really sweet fruit a few hours before sex and your flavor will become sweeter. If he just doesn't like eating you out, then maybe a clitoral stimulator or a vibrator for foreplay. A studded condom will give you clitoral stimulation and I know my bf loves watching me writhe in pleasure as he plays the vibrator along my clit. There are ways to improve sex, as long as your partner is open to trying.

Sounds like you are clitoral. Explain the difference to him, many men just don't know.

And yes, it's a normal reaction for men to doze off after they've had their orgasm. So make sure you get yours first!

Speaking as a man, I wish more men would hold up thier end of the bargain. Women are people too, and if you don't go out on the field and score a touchdown, then what good are you.

Men need to see to thier ladies needs first. Score that touch down, then you can do a victory dance!

Some men are just plain lazy when it comes to pleasing a woman

Another (alarmingly ignorant) bunch seem to assume that women all achieve the same pleasure from intercourse that they do.

Some women can come from intercourse alone. Perhaps this is what he has experienced in the past?

Personally, I need oral or manual stimulation to come. The partners I've had who didn't bother doing anything else were both a bit concentrated on their own pleasure - and for some odd reason they were both convinced that I had orgasmed during intercourse, despite the fact that I gave no sign and defintely didn't fake.

You need to enlighten him, and tell him what you've told us :-)

Just be honest. Talk about your needs. If he is really into you he will do what it takes for you to be satisfied. I have never understood why men can be so selfish in bed. To me, I want my wife to cum first. Then I like for us to cum together. She gets two for one and I love it.

show him what you want in bed and ask for more oral if that's what you want.

Watch Porn for Women sites bsfore having sex if he can't supply foreplay!

let him do you first ,after a man goes first thats usually it and your left out to dry

I don't think it should be one for one.. if only cos women can haVe so many.. you have a right to expect him to pleasure you.. tell him or show him what to do

You are absolutly right about having the right to orgasm, However, don't go up to him rudely or insult his "Manhood" if you know what I mean, that'll just fuck things up.

I'll tell you the same other people have, because it's true mostly.

Women's juices are much more acidic, Fruit will make it better within a few hours.
Though I don't say 1 fruit I say 2 maybe 3. If he won't eat you out, get him to stimulate your clit with his middle or index finger in circular motions, and/or vertical ( up and down) motions.

Right now, telling me that you can't orgasm during sex means your lips are further from your clit than other women, All women are different, the closer the clit is to the lips, the more they can orgasm easier, faster, etc. It's easier for penentration that way.
As I said before, you got a bit of a distance. So, Vibrators, Oral Sex, Fingering, and Rubbing is the way to go.
Good Luck ~ Gemini Of Allure.

Perhaps you don't need to tell him outright. Could you just tell him about a fantasy of yours if you have one? Or suggest new ways to make your sex even better, such as the afore mentioned ribbed or studded condoms. If he has a problem with pleasuring you as much as you pleasure him, then is he really worth it?

does he go down on you at all?
play with him, don't give him what he wants, until you get what you want...
try kinky things like 69ers and such. show him the teasing you go through every time you do it.

When I grew up (mid 20th century) we were taught to always be proper ladies and gentlemen and a gentleman would never have an orgasm before his date or girlfriend had one so we would go down on them so they could have an orgasm then have intercourse and ejaculate into a condom or pull out first. But, though chivalrous, this was a very simplistic approach or formula. Mostly because it did not allow her to have additional orgasms during intercourse or oral sex because mostly we did not keep going long enough. We did not know, except some from experience, that they could have more than one orgasm and we thought that was enough. At other times we continued intercourse much too long until they were sore just because they had not had an orgasm and the reason was that we did not understand that some will not have one just from intercourse. For many men my age sex was a big responsibility and undertaking and we took it very very seriously and did not have fun with it or enjoy it much and our women sensed this and it was a turn-off to them.
So it is best to play with each other and keep it enjoyable and pleasurable. Ask him to go down on you so you can have a couple of orgasms then take him inside you but take it slowly and keep it fun and enjoyable. If it is always this way you might learn to have orgasms with him inside and playing with you at the same time. Let him take lots of time with you and if you don't have an orgasm have him go down again on you or bring you off with his fingers. I don't know what your age is but many women need to train their bodies to have orgasms and their boyfriends can help them but it takes time and sometimes patience. So it is better if you make fun and an adventure.

You do have a right to an orgasm every time he has one,and he should be willing to give you one, if hes not, why are you still with him, honestly..
Just simply get into a convo about sex and tell him your not happy with sex if you can't orgasm and you only orgasm or orgasm best from oral, and that he should give you oral before sex to get you wet and orgasm once then, and then have sex.
This is something many guys talked to me about that they do with their gfs cause it also helps if he cums fast, just give her an orgasm first or after.