I have a child with disabilities(brain damage). He has reached puberty and everytime he see a girl he starts to ask questions and over and over again. He grabs and touches females the wrong way. He is rude ...Help
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Big_Sexy23
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Wow. I know how you feel... but I have absolutely no idea how to deal with it. My brother, when he was 19, wrecked his motorcycle and had brain damage. He had to learn everything all over, and he went through a pubescent stage, but he progressed through it rather quickly. Maybe you'll just have to be watching and wary (and warning!) for females as they come into contact with him. I'm sure you could explain to the girl what he's going through and warn her not to be offended at his words or to get close enough for him to touch... Perhaps it will pass just like it did with my brother? I'm sure it will take longer, but surely it will pass... you think?
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I am sure that your child is under the care of a physician for his physical issues. Ask this medical care professional for a referral to a social worker or other counsellor to find ways to help him (and you) cope with this new stage of his development. This is a challenging time for all teenagers and especially so for one with less understanding and self-control than others have.
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Perhaps if you're with him, and in the company of females also, you could hold his arm, and 'reel it in', saying, 'No - don't do that', for example, when that happens. Perhaps it's up to the other females to gently 'restrain' him, if he tries to 'reach out' to them inappropriately, when he's alone with them. I have a disability myself, and have met other men, and young males that do that kind of thing also. I think 'gentle restraint' would be the best way to tackle the issue. I hope that's helpful for you.
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I think that this is actually quite common. At least I have seen it a lot. I would teach any girls that are around him a lot not to allow any behavior that is sexually inappropriate. Telling him no in a firm tone and walking away is one way to handle it. If he is persistent then gently holding his hands is good too. I would ask his teacher at school if s/he has any suggestions. They deal with this quite a bit. You might also want to teach him appropriate ways of interacting such as handshakes ect.
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