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by Mystery.woman78 on January 4th, 2008

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My boyfriend introduced "choking" into our sex. He puts his hands on my throat (if I'm on top) or wrapping his forearm around (if he's behind). He doesn't really apply any pressure. But I'd like him to. How do I get him to and how do I introduce bondage?

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  • by karlsbadsd on June 27th, 2009

    karlsbadsd

    me and my girl friend=5 yrs.have also started to experiment this way. its exciting and on the edge "respect " for eachother is estabished well. i started soft but she wants it hard, so i simply showed her the tap out. if she taps my hand it means lighter, grabbing my hand means harder.when she is on bottom it works well. incorporate some light slaps and its on.
    when im behind her i also chock hold her if in the mood, but again tap out is in effect. some times though she wants to feel totally out of control and helpless but i try not to make her pass out. keep smelling salt handy.! "kidding"

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  • by cack7723 on November 3rd, 2009

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    My ex-wife and I enjoyed this type of erotic choking during sex. You need to just tell him and ask him to do it harder. She would grab my hand and put it right where she wanted it and how much pressure and we were very vocal during sex telling each other what we like.

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  • by That Guy on October 5th, 2009

    That Guy

    I choke my wife during sex. Chances are, if you man started it, he is just making sure you are ok with it. If you want it harder, just tell him and I am sure he will be fine with it. My wife and I have good communication and just like what the other person said, have a signal that means STOP.

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  • by bigarter on July 8th, 2009

    bigarter

    I like it with collar around my neck that he can pull tight when we do it doggy. I get the most intense orgasms.

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  • by Anonymous on January 17th, 2009

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    i was dating this guy who began choking me during sex and at first i liked it, but then one day i felt he was going to smother me. I was face down in pillow and he was on top of me wrapped his forearm around from behind and began squeezing hard. It was very scary. I felt light headed and unable to breathe. This behavior normal?

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  • by naughtycowgirl on March 27th, 2008

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    It's crazy but my boyfriend tried the choking thing one night and I had an AWESOME orgasm. Now I really like this choking thing and I am worried I am a freak, when we are having "rough" sex I find myself wanting him to choke harder and harder, he worries about hurting me and I worry I am "chasing" that first intense orgasm.

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  • by altgirl84 on January 4th, 2008

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    I do this too with my guy, but you have to be very careful with something like choking. We don't even do full choking, basically just him wrapping his hands around my neck and holding tight but not squeezing. If you want more pressure I think it would be good to say, squeeze some but then have him release the pressure for a few seconds then do it again. If he squeezes too tight for too long it could get very dangerous. As for bondage, maybe you can suggest handcuffs first, tying up (I don't know if you want to be tied up or want to tie him up, or both).

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  • by likethetoast on December 15th, 2010

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    When he has his hands on your neck... YOU push towards it.... and moan loader, ride him harder.

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  • by adrianmcccxxxiv on March 13th, 2009

    adrianmcccxxxiv

    i am a man who enjoys choking and bondage. most likely, if your man has introduced light choking, he is trying to gauge your interest in the work of bondage and adventurous sex. i think he will be quite receptive to your interst in taking it to a higher level. just make sure that your idea of "bondage" is at the same level as his. no "punk furry cuffs"...don't his, or your, time. just a note to from someone who has been there: near fatal asphyxia is the biggest turn on i have ever experienced!!!! have fun ;)...malice

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  • by anonymous121 on June 5th, 2011

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    say to him I wonder what it would be like you decided to actually choke me. it might make him try it out

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  • by Queen_B on July 26th, 2009

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    I've tried and done almost everything sexual, and I LOVE rough sex, and I have multiple sex partners at the same time as well--am game for almost anything, but choking is something I'm not into, nor will I let my sex partners do this to me either. Me and my husband tried this once together, but my husband is very big (ex-jock--6'4, 230lbs, and I'm 5'5 130), and has big hands and he's very strong, and I ended up with some bad brusing on my neck (I almost missed a day of work from teaching--I had to use some heavy-duty conceler on my neck--the brusing was THAT bad), so we won't be trying this again.

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  • by Anonymous on January 17th, 2009

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    Can anyone answer if there are any links to "choking" during sex and "abuse" ? If my man likes to choke during sex was he likely to have been abused as a child? Is he abusive? WHAT'S BEHING THE "CHOKING"? Because it ruined our relationship!!

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  • by slaveandbeg on May 30th, 2010

    slaveandbeg

    My mistress introduced "choking" on our first encounter. I was helplessly tied and, well, to make a long story short, she was the one to "pop my cherry". While she was deep inside me she put her arm across my throat and with her free hand she put my erection in a vicegrip like hold. Just as I was about to blackout she pulled out of me and released me. I've never experienced such an orgasm. Once in a great while she will reward me and repeat that night.

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