If you were raped or sexually abused as a child and have been disgusted by sex as an adult, please share the techniques and methods to get past the hurt to have satisfying sex in a loving relationship?
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well i'm only 17 years old and i LOVE sex!!! sometimes people are either scared to have sex or they love it MORE!! that's how i am ... but idk some people are just different.
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Well, first of all it helps if you have some sort of a safe word to signal that you want your partner to stop. Figure out what exactly about it triggers you-- for an example, if you are triggered because it seems impersonal, do something with your partner that would make you feel more loved and like it's not just something happening to your body -- kissing, eye contact, whatever. Or if it's a particular position, change it, that sort of thing. Take it slowly-- you could progress a little farther each time until you feel safe with it. Also, you could set some rules with your partner of what to do if you trigger out to make you feel safer -- whether he should hug you, or not touch you at all, or talk to you, etc. Hope that helps.
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