HOW DO YOU DEAL WHEN YOUR LAST CHILD LEAVES THE NEST AND IT FEELS SO EMPTY?
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start babysitting your grandchildren and please,i beg you,let the pipe go.do us all a favor,we have kids on this site as young as 13 years.
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It is absolutely normal to feel sad and lonely when the last child leaves. It may take a few weeks to get over these feelings. Some things to do: Take up a hobby, do things you wouldn't normally do when you feel down....like take a stroll, go shopping, watch a funny movie. Call your children once a week...any more than that may make them feel crowded. As a gift, buy them some cell phone minutes to be used on calls to you. Schedule times for one on one with them if possible....maybe once a month, or every few months. Keep your chin up.....it will get better. "Grandchildren help....I hear!"
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woo hoo time to party, go out at night stay out as late as you want,dance, ski, by a bike with or without a motor,take a cruse, run, tennis, swim, surf come on live
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Volunteer at your local community center for kids. Worked for my aunt.
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Being on the other side and the last child home. I would love to be able to leave but my mother can't live along and my sister and brother would never do anything to help her!
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My son moved out 2 weeks ago so i know what your going through,mind you hes only up the road from me so that isnt too bad.
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You ask yourself this question...would you rather have a child that lives with you forever, clinging to you and depending on you for everything? If the answer to that question is no, then you realize you've done the job you were supposed to do and you can be proud that your child has grown into a responsible adult and can fend for him/herself.
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Party, party, naked party! Redecorate, decorate, decorate, and then, naked party! I love my empty nest.
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get, busy, busy, busy
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If you were a woman I would suggest you call me to help fill the gaping hole in your life ;)
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I'll deal with it by instituting adult NAKED TIME!!!!!
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What you are feeling is normal. Allow yourself to grieve, but get help if it gets overwhelming. My advice is to get out and do something. There are so many kids that don't have loving parents and grandparents. You can be that for them. Or you can do what I do. Find an overseas orphanage that needs help and get over there to look round. Then come home and dedicate yourself to making their lives better.
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delve into the interests, work, hobbies that you had before your children
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Find purpose and meaning of your remaining life and do what you intended to do all your life! Have fun, go out and live to the fullest!
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Do what my Sis-n-law did.........brush her own chicks aside and adopt some from China.........so that she can compete with us because we had a girl..........
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get involved in helping other people to take your mind off it
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Have another one.
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Start pushing for grandkids. You should be glad they left-you did a good job!
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I thought it felt great..It was so peaceful and "all mine",, then, one came back for awhile, it's a revolving door, so don't worry, they usually return for awhile, 2 of mine did. Then, it's even nicer the next time they leave:D
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get busy
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spend the time to travel while you are still young, go camping, hiking, cross country or just travel around the world.
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I can't wait for my kids to go off and find themselves so that I finally can too... I plan on traveling to other countries and do everything I couldn while they were young. You have a severe case of mommy syndrom.
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I jumped up and down and went screaming throughout the house free at last free at last thank God almighty I am free at last. Actually I have developed interests and haveventured into areas that when raising children I could not afford or have the time. But the peace and quiet is a wonderful thing! mr Bill
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My daughter left our home, she hated our rules and did not want to be in same home with us. She graduated from high school, brushed off college and left. She now lives in a home with her best friend, his mom,dad two sisters. She stays up all night on the internet or hanging out with friends, rarely visits and only calls if something is wrong. My heart is broken. Our rules were be at home at a decent hour at night, and no you cannot stay up all night on the internet on FuBAR. She works a job as a CNA working with a wheelchair bound man. Where did I go wrong?
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My daughter is 22 and left because she and her boyfriend did not like my rules. Now it time to do all the things that you said you would do when the nest is empthy. Time to meet the husband at the door in nothing as a surprise and spice up the old sex life again. time to live again as a couple. Instead of crying, put a new spin on the marriage and have some fun again.
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