Why tell someone you love them when you KNOW you don't?
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ANSWERS: 13
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It is not a thing I have ever done or would do.
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It ends conversations faster. I've said it to relatives quite often.
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Maybe it will help you love them, kind of like smiling when you want to frown? Being dishonest with others is a horrible thing. Being dishonest with yourself is as bad or worse. However, if this is a relationship where you USED TO love each other, there is hope. It will take good communication, honesty, and willingness to change (on both your parts) and forgive.
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Haven't done it yet. Maybe because they just want to love and be loved back. So they force it.
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Because as my ex told me before he left "I can love you without being in love with you and I'm not in love anymore so I'm leaving, but I still love you." And if you can figure that out can you please explain it to me, I'm still trying to figure it out 10 years down the track. :)
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to cause no trouble (of course in the long run it will)
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girls wouldnt sleep with a guy that didnt love them. well, maybe they would. but it is nice to hear even if it isnt true.
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I personally do not do this, but I can rationalize anything... It doesn't make it right, but sometimes its just easier to tell someone what they want to hear instead of the truth.
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Because you fear the other will be hurt,And you so don't want to hurt her/him,you take it on yourself, you endure an unhappy life making her life beautiful and filled with love.Its a big sacrifice.But then again you must love the person in a way to do that.
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my ex did this to me...over and over and over...all the while he created elaborate lies to cover up the fact that he was on a hook up website every night...no telling how many guys he slept with while we were together..the lies ranged from a dead aunt (funeral) to his grandfather getting parkinson's and him having to go sit with him in the evenings...my dad has parkinsons so i felt bad for him and i loved him...deeply...so he wouldnt have to see me at all...and could do who or whatever he wanted. I truly thought he loved me...but he was just a cruel,evil manipulative person. I broke up with him last week though...in a very appropriate way...he told me that he would call me after work..well i was like hmm..im gonna see whats taking him so long...and wouldnt ya know..he was on manhunt...so i sent him an IM on there and was like.."well sweetie...no call..not at grandpa's either...go figure...bye" I figured that if he valued being on there more than talkin to the person who loved him..and who he would willingly say i love you back to...well it was perfectly ok to end it there.
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Pressure... If they keep telling you that they love you, it puts you in a strange position if you just keep saying "thank you"
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Cause you want them to give you love.... the problem is with the self, so solve it and move on, or keep telling him, and move on when you feel its right for you....This is reality in life many many people do it, only because they want to feel loved for the moment
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Coz it may lead to what most men are after at the end of a night out. The "Love " word is overused these days. Once it meant that you loved someone. Now it seems to mean, now that I have said I love you, get your pants off. A pity, the love word used to mean so much more than this and the wait for the goodies was worth every minute.
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