Yes,I was married in 1991, In my house I have full say on the bigger issues like,what should be the policy of Bush to middle east Asia,aid to other nations,state policy on terrorism, budget,taxation etc & she do not dare interfere. She decides small,petty things like when to have child,who should be our family friends,selection of school for children,color of paint on the walls of our(read her)house,what to eat,vacations etc-list is long.I do not take interest in such petty things.

Don't give up too easily, and don't get married too young.

communication...and when i say communication i mean with just about everything...

It's important to go out on "dates" with each other and it's important to take time out for for yourself, without your partner, as well.

nobody really knows because what works for one couple may not work for you. everybody differs.

Trust and the ability to let go of the past. You have to be able to know who you are and what you want and to see that in your partner. You both have love each other unconditionally and know that is where you are supposed to be. The sad thing is I don't know if that exists anymore...

To also like who you love!

Be each other's best friend. Also, according to surveys, the more a husband agrees with his wife, the happier they both will be. :)

I think the secrets to a long and happy marriage or relationship are as follows. Trust: You must be able to totally and completely trust each other. If one or both partners have little or no trust in the other then the relationship is doomed. You can't get jealous over every single person that your partner talks to or is friends with. If you find that you are concerned about every single person your partner talks to or is friends with or vice versa then maybe it's time the person having the issues with trust get themelves some professional help. Jealousy is a very ugly thing and doesn't prove love for yopur partner it proves that you do not trust them. Time: Time is a big factor in any relationship. Too often these days people are meeting falling inlove getting engaged and getting married or moving in together in very short periods of time. It is totally and completely impossible to know you love someone enough to want to make a lifelong comittment to them in just 2 or 3 short months. Give yourself at least 18 months of steady consistent dating before even considering getting engaged or moving in together. Unconditional love: Unconditional love means that you love your partner and they love you not only during the good times but the bad ones as well. All too often these days especially peoples love for their partner is conditional even though they will never admit to that. It's like I will love you til someone better or or sexier comes along or I'll love you til you get sick and can't satisfy my needs any longer or I'll love you til you put 100 lbs on and don't look as hot as you did when we first met or I'll love you til I feel like I am being somthered by being relationship with you. That's not love and is why so many relationships fail these days. There's probably alot more I can add but I won't continue to bore anyone with what is my own personal opinions on what makes for a happy and long lasting relationship.

Tomorrow we will celebrate 37 years of marriage. I must say the years have gone by fast. First I must admit that I do believe in love at first sight. I also feel that unlike wine, love does not get better with age. It fits from day one or it does not fit at all.. The very basic components of love work right off the bat. Love is like talent,(the other person's) either you have or you don't. We were engaged for nine months before we wed. There are no secrets. If there was a secret, I would have it bottled and my hubby would would drink it 3 times a day.

We think it's wonderful..I guess in the end that is all that matters. This is where I want to be and who I want to be spending my life with. I guess our 'secrets' are absolute honesty and giving 150%. We have been together 20+ years.

The key to our marriage has been this. The God who joined us together, is the God who keeps us together. Always growing together no matter what comes our way.We know we will have disagreements, but our love is far stronger than our weakest link.

Compatability, consideration, trust, love. There are some people out there who simply shouldn't be married - ever. Avoid them.

Honesty is a verry good start.yes.

Honesty, trust and a real friendship- not a superficial one where youre friends because your married...

PECEFUL, FAITHFUL, CONSIDERATE, AFFECTIONATE COUPLE RESULTS IN A HAPPY MARRIAGE

Humor is prolly at the top of my list, my grandparents have been married almost 65 years, got 13 kids and 27 grandkids and yet my gpa can still make my gma laugh lol

Friendship is first and foremost. Then respect, then trust, faithfulness, and COMMUNICATION.

compromise

Keep giving all you have, if you think you've given enough you're wrong. Love hard and laugh often. Don't sweat the petty things, pet the sweaty things. Lastly, keep living like it's your honeymoon. Never let go of that feeling.

Honesty Trust Communication

Never give up. Let things go and talk often..

Patience. Respect. Work together. Be honest.

not being married

Never get married in the first place. My parents never did and they've been together for over 30 years. My Dad had been married 3 times before.

Even after marriage, stay friends, keep humor in your lives, when times are bad, remember you have each other.

Make sure she thinks she is the boss :) Seriously, talk often.Talk about everything even if you are not really interested in a particular subject that your mate is, try to share the excitement/passion that your partner/lover has.Listen to each others differences, that is what makes for lasting,fun and fresh long term marriage.

Don't gripe about everything, but don't hold things back. Let each other know when you are upset about something.

I have bben married 11 years ! It has not been easy but it has been very blessed! See, if you allow God, Jesus chist, and the holy spirit to come into your marriage, it will give you the strengh to take on each problem with patience and acceptance! Also, it has helped me to be a fair listener to the Dr. Laura Schlessinger show and read all of her books!

My ex and I had what we thought was a good marriage until I losst my high-paying job with Exxon because I wouldn't relocate to Houston, Texas. Long story short, she withdrew affection, I sought it elsewhere, she filed for separation and later divorce after 36 years of marriage. I married my best online friend last November. We're so much alike it's almost frightening sometimes, yet we're sufficiently different to keep things interesting. She's bright, creative, witty and very affectionate, and not at ALL materialistic. We jointly set goals and work toward them, and we spend as much time together as possible, yet always have time to ourselves. So far, we're doing great! : ))

I would say the best advice is that communication is the key. Try not to get upset at your spouse until you understand what they were thinking. This requires you to talk to them. This is what has helped keep my husband and I happy for four years and three kids later.

I have been married for 12 years. It has been rocky and horrible at times to say the least. I believe once we both got over being right all the time, accepting blame where it is due and just trying to make each other happy our marriage began to work. I was always trying to find something wrong with my wife, now I just want to find a way to make her smile, to make her happy and to make her love for me grow stronger. Give all you have to your spouse and you will have a wonderful marriage.