If you don't know the person very well, is it possible to say words of comfort that are meaningful to someone who has lost a loved one?
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Koz_Dracon - Nelson Remembered
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Yes, it is. If you really mean what you say, it will come through. I visited a woman in Bali, whose daughter had been shockingly burnt in a cooking oil accident. The child didn't die, but was in dire need of operations to get her back to some sort of normalcy. I can speak Indonesian, and I brought a toy for the little girl. Even though I was a stranger, I know my presence, my words and the promise that I would find help for her were appreciated. you only need to care.
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For someone you don't know well, it's true that sometimes actions speak louder than words. That's why it's traditional in the South (and maybe other parts of the US) to cook a casserole or something for a bereaved family. Often Southern families get inundated with food after they've lost someone, but it is appreciated so that they can concentrate on other things. In their grief, they wouldn't then have to worry about something so basic as cooking their meals.
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When my father passed, it was actually the comfort of strangers or lesser known friends that helpedthe most. There did no seem to be the same pressure as with good friends whom 'mean well'. Just dont say 'I know how you feel', unless you really do! Being there for someone, and letting them know it, now thats special.
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Just taking time out of your life to stand beside someone in their time of sadness and grief. There are no words needed when you give of yourself.
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