I wouldn't say it's necessary that you try to label these new found feelings. In my opinion, if this is the first you've ever felt this way, then you're probably not lesbian or bi-sexual. I personally believe that sexual orientation is more reflective of how you emotionally connect to someone of a certain gender rather than just finding someone attractive. For example, I think it's possible for a lesbian to still find a man attractive, but the line of defining your sexual orientation would be whether or not she could see herself in a committed relationship with that man. So in your situation I would wonder, do you think about this woman in a sexual way or a romantic way? I would also think it's possible to really just be attracted to someone because they are just truly a great person and it may seem sexual, but it may just be that you're totally impressed and just really respect her. I would especially say this is a possibility if you've never had lesbian or bi feelings before. Anyway, just some thoughts for you, but I would suggest trying to just be with the situation and your feelings without adding the pressure of trying to label yourself. You can figure that all out later if needed.

Thank you for the response. This attraction I have is not a physical one though believe me I have thought of the physical part and what is would be like. I am not sure i am explaining myself correctly. I probably would not have given this person a second glance looks or body shape wise. Really that is the least if it. Is the person she is that I found myself so attracted to - wanting to be with - the package really had nothing to do with it though I grew into longing for that too. Do wish she wanted to pursue something. Now lost and wondering what it all means.

Sexual orientation often has shades of grey. Myself, I identify as a lesbian, but it has happened once that I was really attracted to a guy. Both looks and personality played into it for me, but I still feel that I am a gay woman, not bisexual or straight. It is completely normal and nothing to worry about, and provided this other woman is interested, there is no reason that you could not have a relationship.

I think once you quit worrying about what it means or might look like and communicate in the best ways you can what is going on in your mind with this woman you'll find a solution to your situation. I would think you have found a conection with her and if it does not become rommantic you obviously have a friend of all friends in this woman and that in alot of ways is better and talking to her about it shouldn't affend her if she doesn't feel that way if you are as close as I suspect for you to feel this way but who knows, this could be the love you have been seeking just maybe not in the package you suspected but either way lucky you.

If i were u I would just talk to her about it... that way u could know what is up... I am a bisexual female and the best way to know is to just ask before it becomes a big ordeal. And if the person wants to look at u differently afterwards then that is their problem.. They are obviously not very open minded.. and if you are close to her she would understand where u are coming from and may be able to console with you on many levels... bottom line just talk to her about your feelings! Good LUCK

You could just be horny...or desperate?

it maybe just this one person that has you infatuated with them, so I wouldn't be so fast in trying to label your self just yet. Just enjoy their company and see what happens as time goes on