Abers who are cutters or have been... are you proud or embarassed of your scars? Why?
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rawr.760
ANSWERS: 54
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Neither, it happened a long time ago... Aloha
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I'm not proud of them, i feel ashamed to be honest thats why i tend to hide my scars all the time.
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My scars I did not make myself, or at least not on purpose. I am neither proud nor embarrassed about them. Once I burnt myself but it is not to be seen if you don't look acurately.
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Neither. They're just a part of my life history and what made me who I am...
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I am not a cutter, but a body punisher of a different type. A thorn got stuck in my leg while walking on grass. I have plucked it out, but a the small tip remained inside. I allowed the area to swell to enable the resistance mechanism to take its own action. I suffered for 3 weeks. They the tip of thorn came out along with puss.
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I have crisscrossing scars on my inner arms from wrist to elbow, mostly horizantal and diagonal. On my left wrist there is a vertical (the "right way") scar, larger than all the others, from an actual suicide attempt. I am not ashamed of my scars, but I do not flaunt them. They are shiny, white and flat now, as I haven't cut in over a year and a half. For a long time they were pink, and would turn purple in the cold. They were very noticable, and I had to put makeup over them at work. Not many people notice them now, and that's fine with me. The people who do notice them generally don't say anything, and only admit to noticing after I bring it up. I go weeks without thinking about them now, but every once in a while, I sit and stare at them and remember. And, yes, I have to admit, that in my own quiet time, personally, when no one else is looking, I do feel a certain pride about them. They prove that I hurt deeply, and I struggled greatly, and that I am here to tell about it.
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They are mine, not for another to view, comment or criticize. I do not hide them nor flaunt them. Proud? No, it is no a goal to achieve. Embarassed? No, it matters not to me how others may feel, truely what mattered most was what I felt. All this with one exception. At a time when I was undergoing therapy, I was unexpectedly asked by my therapist to see them. That was very awkward. However, he was a very good therapist. In this exception I did show them and I did feel embarassed.
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I'm embarrassed of my scars. I guess because people tend to be judgemental when they see them. I try to hide them as best as I can. I rarely show them but it has happened that my scars were accidentally seen by others. People have not been very kind or understanding. I have received some pretty nasty comments about my cutting which I believe contributes to my feeling embarrassed by my scars.
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I am not proud, because self-injury is not a thing to be proud of. I am not ashamed, because whether I like it or not, it's a part of my past that I can't erase. Being ashamed of it is a waste of time and energy. My scars are all in places that I do not expose to the public (legs, I do not wear shorts, long pants only) and only a few people very close to me are even aware I ever did it. They are there, and I've just sort of learned to accept it. I'm just glad I only ever did it in places that aren't difficult to hide, because I would not like the confrontation that would probably happen otherwise.
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I have been a cutter for about a year. I went through hell and back, but I am not doing it anymore. I made a promise to my boyfriend never to do it again and I haven't since. I am proud of my scars I view them as battle scars and that I got through it. It reminds me how strong I am and what can be over come. I still get that numb feeling that I usually get when I want to cut sometimes, but I found a way to answer to it in another way. People notice my scars, but never tell me openly about them unless I bring it up. It's not that prominent anymore, but I do feel proud about it and I am not shy to tell people the truth if they ask.
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i havnt cut myself in almost 4 months. altho something happened tonight that made me think about it. i am still thinking about it. I have not picked up that razor tho. not even once.
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I am not proud of my scars nor am I embarassed of them I am completely open about them, unless I can tell your going to judge me then I just pretend like u never seen them or tell u it was no big deal..
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i once helped a girl who cut her wrists... and i could not understand the despair she must have felt, how she could cut herself... how ANYONE could. till i remembered something i did when i was younger, i used to have a needle every night (medical) and once i just used this needle to scratch down my leg, which i did several times. but i still don't remember feeling sad or angry... rather completly indifferent and uncaring.
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I have scars all over my forarms and I have nothing to be embarasses about!!!!!!!!
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it's a love hate relationship. i mean, it represents pain. so, i'm not so proud of them. when people see scars they judge you. i hate being judged. i hate being limited in what i can and cannot wear because i can't show my scars. i hate being asked 'aren't you hot?' during the summertime. but, they also represent something i couldn't communicate. so, in a weird way they represent words and i feel some kind of satisfaction from that. even though i couldn't verbalize what i wanted to, i was able to express my pain. so, it's out there. it's not built up inside me. if that makes any sense.
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I'm not embarrassed about my cut scars but the burn scars look like cigarette burns on my arms and are much paler than the rest of the skin and don't look too good. I hope never again to feel the despair I did when I burnt myself four years ago.
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I'm embarrassed, because people judge me for some reason ALL the time. Then they spread it around. I try to hide them as much as possble
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Im not proud of them but im not embarrased. It helps seeing the scars sometimes because by seeing them now I know i am strong enough to get through things that are bothering me now.Because at the time I did them things were alot rougher than now.
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I'm neither. They are a part of me, and that's all.
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I used to be a biter on occasion. I would bite myself. No I'm not joking. Ah...but no scars.
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i feel like all my scars tell a story, and i like them, but sometime when i do look at them it makes me remember what i used to do and i rerget it just a bit cause my scard of what my kids will say that is when i get married and have kids, but for now im not embarassed by them i think they look pretty and my boyfriend really likes the
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I'm not pround of those or my carving scars as well.All they do is serve as a reminder.
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i'm neither proud or ashamed i'm not proud because it's not something to flaunt or go around showing people but i'm not ashamed either because the scars that are there say that i've been through something, the feelings i felt all most cinsummed me...but they didn't i survived..and still striving...it's nothing to be ashamed of but nothign to be proud of either
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both. i'm proud that i struggled, but i'm surviving and i have these scars to prove it. but most people don't see it like that, so i'm embarrassed around other people.
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Both for myself my husband and my children especially I am ashamed of my scars. Which is like a catch-22 because it makes me more ashamed of me which puts me into that mode to cut again. Sadly it's a constant daily battle not to cut, for them more than anything I try to focus on something anything else but how I feel.
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im neither proud or embarressed of them..they are a part of me that i can ever take away or change. so i just live w them an if people ask i tell but if nobody ask then i dont mention
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neither. you can't see most of them because they'remostly on my shoulders, hips, upper arms, or legs - which are usually covered. only a few are on my forearms and wrists. those are more irritating because everytime somebody sees them i have to explain myself. i'm not proud that i cut, but i'm proud that i'm trying to stop. i'm not ashamed because it's part of me and says a lot about my struggles, and if it hasn't killed me yet, that's seriously saying something
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proud? like, do i show them off? :p i'm not going to hide them...but i do have mixed feelings about my scars. on the one hand, they remind me of all the horrible times when i was so depressed that cutting was the only thing that kept me from killing myself. on the other hand, i'm still here, surviving for the hell of it, and i've got the proof all over my body.
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Ashamed. I hide my scars and cuts.
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I am terribly embarrassed by my scars, and anything but proud. That's why cutters like me hide scars. It's not about attention, contrary to what most people think. It's about releasing overwhelming and excruciating emotional pain. When I cut, the emotional 'stuff' is blocked. Unfortunately, it is a temporary fix. Then I am forced to look at the mess I just made, and quickly feel ashamed. It's really one hell of a vicious cycle, and people like me need SUPPORT and UNDERSTANDING... NOT... DISGUST or people calling us "ATTENTION SEEKERS." People who say that are really quite ignorant. All I can say to them... is count your lucky stars that you don't understand it.
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neither. im kinda happy noone knows but when i see them and i havent done it in 4 years i feel like i went though that and i done it im not dead im alive and its a good feeling and if all you do is feel regret then you will never have the chance to live.
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Proud? No... Embarrassed? Yes...very...I'm very shamed for what I'm doing...but...*shrugs* I like it..
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neither... they are a part of me.
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I'm not proud of them, cutting isn't something to aspire too! I always keep them covered & not because I'm embarassed, but because cutting has such a negative stigma attached to it & I don't want all those ignorant people who would if they could, hang the stigma over my head for the rest of my life.
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i used to be proud of them, but now im really ashamed because im over that and im better. theyre there now, and they always remind me of what i did.
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I have a hard time believing anyone can truly be proud of their scars. For me, it takes a lot of work to not be ashamed of them. When you can't wear short sleeves because complete strangers in Jewel confront you in disgust, it's difficult to keep a neutral position.
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im ashamed of them they make me feel like i have failed
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Neither. But I don't want people to know about it (besides my current bf, who I told before he was bf and just a friend, he accepts me and is supporting me wanting to quit)because people will put an automatic stereotype on me, I don't want that. But I have many scars on my legs (including dozens of fresh wounds from about 6 days ago), the scars ad cuts are at the top of my leg (I didn;t wear shorts anyways), some are from weeks ago. And then there are some on my soldiers (most have faded but there are four deeper ones that are still scars. Then on my wrist I just have 11 really small cuts (that are fairly fresh)that I think will fade easily, they are on my left arm. Then on my right arm there is one long scar near the inside part of my elbow (the opposite side of my elbow, but it's fairly un-noitceable. I've been trying to stop for acouple of weeks and then I snapped on impulse 6 days ago, my technique of staring at my implement and thinking "would I cut the ones I love?" failed because that didn't even have a chance to cross my mind.
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No comment
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I'm only ever scared that my parents will find out and it'll get them upset and disappointed in me. I've only never seeked help because I don't want to hurt them, though I can't say honestly I'mm even trying to stop. I am embarrassed when people think that I'm crazy. I at least don't starve myself or get plastic surgery. I'm just sad.
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Embarassed, because the desperation of my thirteen year old self will always be on me, even though I'm no longer that girl, even though my life has changed in every possible way, when people see scars they think that is who you are. And unless they've felt what you've felt, they don't understand.
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I'm not proud of my scars, but I refuse to embarrassed or feel the need to apologize for them.
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I used to cut. And I was ashamed of them. I cryed everytime someone notised.
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not proud thats 4 sure but im not embarassed , i dont go out of my way 2 hide them i dont show them off tho
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neither, if someone wants to jugde me i don't care. its part of me.
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Neither. The scars I have, you can barely see now and even if you could, no one else would be able to. I only have one that is noticeable. Err, make that two, but still only one that is noticeable.
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You can't see the scars now but it still embarrasses me to think I did that - I was immature and stupid haha
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I'm embarassed of my scars. Occasionally people will say that I should be proud of them, because it shows that I have come through so much, but I cant help feeling that theyre a sign of weakness. I hate them being there, because everyone stares, but I think my arms would look very strange if the scars werent there....weird, i know.
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not proud. i would use content. it's a love hate relationship. i like having them in a weird way because they express something that i couldn't and then i hate them because they represent such ugly feelings. i want to cut now and i hate what i'm thinking. i'm not going to but it sucks.
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I love my scars, I have MANY and I don't lie about any of them. I was young, but it was my way of coping. It's how I handled things, it wasn't for attention, popularity, nothing like that, it was for me. I don't flaunt them of course but if somebody happens to ask I don't deny it.
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I let someone cut Thomas the Tank's face on my cheek when I was 20 as part of a drunken dare and you can still kind of see it, its embarrassing when people ask me about it.
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embarassed.... why else would I hide them?
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neither. i'm more ashamed than anything.
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im not proud, im very embarassed, but most of all im ashamed because i know that i was stupid enough to do that in the first place, i stupid enough to take a shiney little razor blade and cover it with blood until i felt numb inside, i was stupid enough to make myself bleed so that i could feel like i was alive
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