What's the best way to deal with someone who acts nice when the boss isn't around, but when a boss is nearby, belittles you or undermines you while pretending to not be serious?
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This type of person has a perfect name.....back stabber and two-faced. i have experienced this type, in my occupation. you might tell this person that you do not appreciate being made little of, in front of the boss and your friends. that, it hurts your feelings. if this does not work, do as i did, ignore the person completely. using the silent-treatment worked for me. it took about two weeks, but this person came-around with an apology.
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Ignore this person if it's at all possible. He or she probably wants to get a rise out of you for some reason or other.
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Keep your friends close, your enemies closer. Kill them with kindness.
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I'd report them to HR! I'd steer as far as possible AWAY from them. And if they ask why I'm "avoiding" them, I'd be honest and tell them! Otherwise. . . .I just flat-out can't be bothered with people like THAT!
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I would make sure there was a correct moment when I would be heard and I would very slowly ask him this question loud enough for him and everyone around him to hear and demand over and over an answer until I got one that was the truth. That should stop him.
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this needs to be addressed..just you and the person, make it clear that you don't want this to continue. ...see what happens.
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Play your role as a small defeated person, then when you are alone, explode into a jokester and make them realize that your better as a looser than as an enemy. The boss is prolly the one against you, then they hire new boss because he can't find people that dislike you. Its all astrology.
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You could start by saying "I know you say you aren't serious, but I am, stop." And if that doesn't work wait until they start dishing sunshine to the boss and then say to them "Bob, that isn't what you said to me yesterday. Yesterday you said I was an idiot and undermined me on that project". One of those mortifying moments and they will give you a wide berth.
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