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by Patti jo on February 1st, 2008
Anytime he needs to , it makes us all stronger to release pain
by Derek DuCote on February 9th, 2008
In short, I think it's normal for anybody to cry, including males. Crying is a natural reaction (yet still unexplained) to extreme emotion, such as sadness or joy. Just because men seem to want to give themselves this image that they're tough cookies that don't cry, don't be fooled, they do, even if it's hard to imagine.
From experience, men usually cry over deaths, injuries, severe fall outs, and break ups, though mostly in private. They'd cry about finding their wife is pregant too, but I can't relate :).
Asking when it is acceptable for a man to cry is like asking when is it acceptable for any normal human to cry.
by Kate Lomax on January 24th, 2008
Crying is not a gender issue.
It is perfectly acceptable for men and women to cry as and when they see fit.
by I love my baby on October 13th, 2007
It is acceptable when he has the need.....
by Galeanda on October 13th, 2007
As his emotions make him feel. For happiness, when sad, for showing empathy, as his heart moves him.
by DreAnna on January 19th, 2009
Any time he feels the need to.
by JuJubee is wearing a COAT of chocolate on December 23rd, 2008
When ever they feel like it, but please don't do it near me, cuz if I see it, I'm gonna cry too.
by steven on June 3rd, 2008
yes because if any man or woman suppresses their emotions is a sign of biterness or whatever rage ?
by shammers still slogging along on February 1st, 2008
I hope and believe men are liberated enough in this society to cry any time they want!
by Emma is sick of ignorant bullies on October 14th, 2007
When I'm holding his testicles in my fist!
by Sharkeye Jones on October 13th, 2007
When he goes to make a sandwich and realizes there is no bread.
by Indigo- in the library with the revolver on October 13th, 2007
Whenever he feels like it.
by Little big mouth on October 13th, 2007
Whenever he's hurting
by DannysUlto on June 29th, 2009
Whenever he wants/feels the need to.
by Anonymous on April 25th, 2009
Whenever the hell he wants =]
by Jimmy66 on February 10th, 2009
Death of a child is one. The death of my child broke me in two, and I will always feel a longing her for her; however, I can't allow my sorrow to prevent me from taking care of the rest of the family that she loved so much. That's what she would want and expect me to do. So, have your cry but then get on with the business of life.
by charlal on January 21st, 2009
when you have erectile disfunction
by tomsims on January 19th, 2009
Absolutely - happy or sad.
by gman77 on January 19th, 2009
yes its acceptable for a man to cry
by Jonn1234 on December 22nd, 2008
When there is loss and pain, but it is just plain wrong for a forty-two year old man to cry about pudding or he didn't get what he wanted for Christmas or Hannuak.
by koldkanuck on July 24th, 2008
When he is confronted by a bevy of beautiful naked women all wanting his attention and johnny is sleeping
by Luv2Write on July 20th, 2008
Anytime. It should never be an issue rather or not he can cry.
by Cong on July 13th, 2008
No, but in many social situations it would not be seen as an appropriate action for a man to take. Be it tradition or prejudice -- in most settings a crying man is inappropriate for many people.
by diana on June 12th, 2008
when he feels like it.
by MadShangi on June 7th, 2008
Whenever he feels like it.
by Rach72 on May 30th, 2008
Anytime they feel the need to cry is acceptable.
by Freaky Yo on May 25th, 2008
after a golf shoe to th nuts
by punkymoo on May 18th, 2008
Its is allways exceptable for a man to cry, whenever he needs... Forget genders.. we are people with emotions. Exceptions to this, is crying over bamby, once reached the age of manhood!)
by UneFille on April 26th, 2008
Whenever!!
by m4dm4nsgirl on March 22nd, 2008
Anytime he feels the need to...what makes a man to me is a man that is not afraid to cry!
by SilentSyren on February 28th, 2008
When I hit him. :D
Seriously, it's ok to cry whenever the mood strikes. In line at McDonald's will raise some eyebrows, but it's your tears, your feelings.
by NEESH on February 10th, 2008
what is wrong about a man expressing his self? personally i do not have a problem with it once it is not at everything, nobody likes a cry baby.
by Anonymous on February 9th, 2008
When someone important in his life is hurt badly or dies
by ninja man on January 30th, 2008
Anytime I think. Men should be strong, but I think that an aspect of strength that's been lost in our culture is that of vulnerability.
by Anonymous on December 26th, 2007
I don't understand acceptable... A man can cry anytime he wants. What difference does it make. They are human beings...LOL...just like women. They have the same hurts, loss and sad times as women do.
by Dyin2TheBlood on December 26th, 2007
Acceptable and accepted are different things. I believe that a man can cry, but it will change the "general population"'s opinion.
Crying is accepted as an expression of emotion. At the same time, it is looked at strangely if it does not fit into a man's normal persona.
I don't know if that was very useful.
by Sandra havent been here since forever on November 5th, 2007
when his mom dies
by loveschimps on November 5th, 2007
whenever they hear any sad news that cuts to their heart.
by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on November 5th, 2007
after talking to an AB member last night.. he cried when he sent his five year old daughter off to her first day of school... this is a legitimate time to show emotion....
by Crazy is looking 4 Imperfections. on November 5th, 2007
When he gets kicked in the sack.
by peterpam on November 5th, 2007
When is it not acceptable?
by Crisoba on November 5th, 2007
Whenever a long time girlfriend is lost, parents or siblings die, supa best buddy dies, or when you lose a halo match to a pre pubescent child.
by gone on October 29th, 2007
Whenever he feels the need.
by rawr.760 on October 14th, 2007
death of a friend or family member
by McQueen82 on October 14th, 2007
A bereavement/birth of a loved one, when totally drunk & sentimental or after seeing his favourite team win a league/trophy/world class event other than that it's just not cool:) lol
by munchkin_kids_downunder on October 14th, 2007
we were made with tear ducts, so they were made to be used! so yes whenever they feel like sheeding a tear about anything they want!
by AntigoneRising on October 14th, 2007
Whenever he feels like it.
by iwnit on October 14th, 2007
1) Here the traditional view:
"Oli, it's weakness because no one really cares how anyone else feels generally. The only people who really care, your mother, maybe your best friend, but the majority of the people on planet earth don't care about you or how you feel. The world is cold and ruthless, and only a select group of people care about strangers, the majority either does not care, or hates you. The goal for you, is to find/meet the select few who care about you.
It's a jungle, if you show weakness you get attacked. Look at prison, the rules of prison mirror the rules of the outside world. In prison if you cry, you get labeled a "bitch" and you lose respect points. Crying is consider a show of weakness, and weakness is hated by the majority. Look at everyone on earth that is treated like crap, and then notice they all have some sorta weakness to attract that treatment.
If you want to know the laws of manhood, ask a man. If you don't have a man to ask, observe the rules of the street and the rules of prison.
1. Don't be a snitch
2. Keep your word
3. Don't cry or show weakness
4. Maintain a good yet strong image.
These are just 4, there are hundreds of rules for all sorts of possible situations, such as how to go through a divorce, how to be a good father, how to be responsible, how to deal with women, the rules of dating, all that stuff that your father told you, and his father told him."
Source:
"Is it ever okay for men to cry in public?"
http://www.sciforums.com/showthread.php?t=56929
(Thread contains many other views about this)
"It is very much in style today to urge men to feel. However this urging is partially reminiscent of taunting a crippled man to run. It is unlikely that a mere act of will on his part can unlock the hurricane of repressed feelings within him. Today's man is the product of massive, defensive operations against feelings. These defenses are geared to protect him for survival's sake by transforming the host of powerful, socially taboo impulses, needs and feelings into acceptable male behavior."
"There are some unique circumstances under which American men are actually expected to cry, but few of these apply to the college man's culture."
Source:
http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=1540760
"Top 39 Times When It Is Acceptable For A Man To Cry"
(not to be taken seriously...)
http://www.keepersoflists.org/index.php?ldate=2006-07-28;dir=prev
2) The Times They Are A-Changin...
"Paradoxically, while men have been released from tearlessness, it is increasingly expected of women. ''While male figures of authority have been given more latitude, in recent years,'' Mr. Lutz said, ''women in authority are under stricter sanctions not to cry and to show the kind of stoicism we used to expect from men as a sign of their leadership abilities.''"
Source and further information:
http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9803E6D61E31F93BA15753C1A9679C8B63
"Long gone is the "No Tears -- We're British" era when emotion was considered distinctly bad form."
http://soundingcircle.com/newslog2.php/__show_article/_a000195-000627.htm
"Men are not too macho to cry"
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/3860845.stm
4) I think it is very important for men - as women - to really experience their emotions.
Unfortunately, there still are some situations where it could not be a good idea to do it in public, for several reasons.
If you can, chose the way where you will harm yourself less.
by Anonymous on October 13th, 2007
Whenever he feels the need, really.
by Da Azian Boi on October 13th, 2007
Whenever there is a need to cry, he should.
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When Patti Jo turns him down for a date.
by Koz - Passion Perseverance Patience on May 25th, 2008
I agree with anytime... except in those times where it might get you killed: battlefield, gang wars, mountain climbing, stuck in the desert (conserve those tears!)
sendschie
by Don Quixote el Manchego on July 29th, 2009