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by Sugar-licious a bellydancing rum maiden on October 8th, 2007
If you have reached the level of maturity or experience where you can distinguish between infatuation and enduring love then be open to declaring it to yourself and your love. There is no honor in denying love.
by one more and then Im going home on October 8th, 2007
this answer is from experience with my current partner who i have been with for 2 years now, initially i didnt want to tell him i thought i was falling for him and i think he was the same, he told me one night when he was drunk he loved me then the next day denied it saying it was a mistake, and that HURT.
but we continued to talk and so on and go on dates and then one night i told him how i felt, and he said he felt the same.
im glad that i didnt keep it to myself.
rejection is a nasty thing at it can make you feel terrible, but id much rather live with being rejected than not telling someone how i felt about them and then finding out years later (say when they are with someone else) that they were waiting for you to make the 'first move'
if you feel that way about someone you should definately say so, there is nothing wrong with being open and honest about how you feel
by Anonymous on October 8th, 2007
When I was young , I may have held back and kept my feeling to myself. Life is really short and at this stage in my life I pretty much say what I feel.
by Quackers on October 8th, 2007
I'd be too afraid of scaring him off. I guess I figure if he loves me than he'll tell me. I'm a little rejection sensitive.
by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on October 8th, 2007
this would probably depend on the nature and duration of the relationship. let's just say i had a co-worker and we were really tight and we had a lot of common interests and such and i started to develop a deep affection for him, however, i am married to someone else and am very happy in that situation. i would probably keep the feelings to myself because spilling my feelings to them would cause all sorts of misery and tension and probably kill the friendship.
on the other hand, if i was unattached, the other person was unattached and the feelings are more than a passing fancy.. then of course i would tell the person. you would want to know if they have any of the same feelings or not. life is short and you don't want to spend too much time if the situation is going nowhere....
so it really varies greatly depending on the variables of the circumstances..... sorry, no cut and dried answer on this one.... just a long confusing ramble.
by c.m.b.g.4.e on November 21st, 2007
Never Ever Hold Back Your Feelings EVER!! It Hurt's Way To Bad In The Future To Kno That You Could Have Told Someone How You Felt About Them Trust Me I Didn't Tell My First True Love That I Love Him And After 3 And A Half Yrs It Still Hurts Just Like It Did At The First.... So Please Tell Them How You Feel.
by Gina on October 8th, 2007
I'd probably hold back at first. Sometimes people can be hard to read. I'd probably tell them eventually, if I felt the relationship could really be great. In reality, if I were to do that, it would hurt innocent people.
by saladeater on October 8th, 2007
If i'd known them for a while i'd tell them....but if i just met them i'd wait a while until i felt like maybe they had the same feelings then i'd fess up...no point in holdin back feelings, otherwise you'll never know what coulda happened
by kedar on October 12th, 2007
I would probably hold back. Been there before.
by Ziggydoom on November 22nd, 2007
i wouldnt tell them. not for fear of rejection but if they are right for me then they will already know i have fallen for them without me saying it.
by Anonymous on October 8th, 2007
Most likely I would hold back, not because of the fear of rejection, but because of fear of admitting to myself that I actually care for someone.
by Thought Jonez on December 6th, 2007
I'm beyond falling, I think I've fallen...lol. I am guilty of harboring feelings for fear of the unknown. I know as a woman, one of our greatest fears is to be the aggressor instead of being the prey. I was always taught that a man knows who he is attracted to and he doesn't need help in acknowledging his feelings if he is attracted and indeed is falling in love. Life's experiences have helped me to realize that keeping certain emotions suppressed only makes you frustrated and ultimately angry and upset with the person. No one is a mind reader, and in hind sight it is always better to let the truth free than to hold it in and suffer. Who knows maybe one of these days I will get the courage to take my own advice. Good luck. :)
by geekfreak on November 28th, 2007
ITS DIFFICULT....I USED TO SAY DAT U'VE GO OUT AND PROPOSE N BLAH BLAH BLAH BUT WHEN I CAME IN DAT ITUATIONS..IT WAS DIFFERENT...U REALLY WONT 'VE DA COURAGE TO TELL DEM...
by BlueEyes0706 on November 18th, 2007
I'm definitely falling for a certain guy and I'm pretty sure he feels the same. The problem is he has a girlfriend (that he always seems to be having problems with) at the moment so I am definitely holding my feelings back.
by HMM on November 16th, 2007
I have held back my own feelings many times in the past. It doesn't work. All it did was drive me into a fit of depression. I've long since learned to admit my feelings openly. I've never once received a negative response for this. An example is how I told a girl I knew that I was falling in love with her, despite the fact that she was involved in a relationship already. I didn't ask her to leave her relationship, I didn't ask her to love me back, but I felt she deserved to know that I had feelings for her. It didn't change things at all... we were still the best of friends and it was simply like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders. So even when you know the answer is going to be no, admitting your feelings heals the pain before it ever truly begins. Hiding it away will simply eat at you. So to answer the question: I used to, but I do not any longer.
by Galeanda on November 10th, 2007
I think I would be more afraid of losing them. I'd have to tell them somehow.
by Anonymous on October 30th, 2007
A great quote:
you never lose by loving, you always lose by holding back
love is about taking chances, life is about taking chances
you never want to wonder what if, and you never want to regret not saying something
i would guess that most often people regret the things they didn't do or never said
by Ed the Jetpacking Headbanger on October 10th, 2007
Depends on the person and what the current relationship is. If we were already friends, I would let her know. I'm kind of accustomed to rejection, but I wouldn't want to ruin a friendship by letting love get in the way.
by asweetguy4u2know saya R.I.P Nelson on October 8th, 2007
I would hold back for fear of rejection because it seems I have a very poor track record when it comes to falling for women who care more about personality than looks. Seeing how I am not the majority of the female populations idea of good looking it makes it hard when you do admit to those feelings and repeatedly get rejected because you aren't good enough for them.
by MIA on March 15th, 2008
I normally hold back as long as I can but I am just so upfront and in your face most of the time I usually cannot contain myself and end up blurting it out!!
by Jeztyr - whispering in the ears of kings on January 9th, 2008
I'd say you need to readjust your opinion of yourself or of them. "Way out of one's league" smacks of either low self esteem on your part, or an inflated ego on their's.
There's an old saying: Love is blind. I'd say go for it and have a crack, tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. You've got the rest of your life to get over it.
by clai2x on December 6th, 2007
i held back mine and i have obsolutely no regrets in doing so because i knew too well that his heart is set to someone else. loving him in secret is whats keeping our friendship going on for years now, have i reveal what i felt about him, things would have been different and bad...but looking back if things would have been different bet. us say were both unattached and i don't happen to be one of his closest friends to know how deep his feeling towards his girl...maybe i would have the guts to tell him my feelings!!! ^_^ so maybe what i'm trying to say is that it is still case to case bases..:P
by Shorty on December 6th, 2007
I would let them know becuase you never know weather that person likes you too.
by Anonymous on December 4th, 2007
I'd definatley tell them, if u tell them and they love you back it will be perfect.
If u hold back u'll never kno and they could go off, get in relationships and break ur heart without even realising it, at least if u tell them and they dont feel the same they'll be more sensitive about the situation. hope it helps x
by patmann on November 19th, 2007
If you have true deep feelings for this person, and you absolutely know it, then yes you should tell them.
Share your feelings and you never know what will happen. I mean what would you lose by trying?... People only gain by taking risks in their lives. If by taking a risk to find true love then.. Well.. Id would roll the die and see what comes up :)
Good luck hope it helped, at least a bit :P
by LANGIE on November 13th, 2007
sadly that`s what iam doing i love this girl but am too scared to say so whats wrong with me?
by wALKing on waT3r on November 13th, 2007
I haven't fallen for any of the girls I've liked. But I've held my feelings more than telling them for fear of them saying "your a great friend, but I just don't see you that way."
by beautiful disaster on November 11th, 2007
If you really know that you're falling in love with someone, tell them. It's better to find out now when you're "falling" than when you're already in it and risk your heart getting broken.
by vonnie on November 7th, 2007
me personally i would wait until i know for sure that my partner loves me too
by Goldberry on November 6th, 2007
I`ll show my fellings the man I love. Love can`t insult
by whroobushy on November 4th, 2007
Tell em.
If they reget it get someone else who does love you.
by Bride2B on November 4th, 2007
Id hold back a bit, atleast for a while. Id try to find out how he/she feels about me, but I know its not easy. Sometimes you have to take a chance to get the one you love. If you have a good relationship with the person and you are sure that he/she wont make a joke of you when you tell him/her how you feel, go for it! Its more mature to tell someone how you feel than holding back!
by Jess on November 2nd, 2007
It depends on the situation, but I would tell them sooner rather than later.
by ttasha on November 1st, 2007
if i only felt like i was i wouldnt say anything till i was sure that i was inlove with that persone. and it all deppens on how long weve been together b4 i say anything.until im sure me and him feel the same and i wouldnt feel scared for rejection im a confident gurl. no need to worrie.
by ...... on October 30th, 2007
I would tell them right away.
by Anonymous on October 26th, 2007
I feel that i would tell them because you never know what the outcome may be and never hurts to try.
by mssheba on October 24th, 2007
Always tell them, sometimes they're shy and don't want to say it first but you saying it opens up a lot of things! :D Honesty is the best policy
by Cowboy-Matter of Fact on October 21st, 2007
I think I would tell them. Actually I did, about 13 years ago.
by Punny on October 12th, 2007
Probably would not tell him...
by Patti jo on October 12th, 2007
I would hold back for some time , until I really knew them - Life's lesson for me
+ 5 for you
by I love my baby on October 8th, 2007
It depends what stage of life I was in. At this point... hold back all the way because of fear of pain, not so much with rejection. A part of falling in love is the other person will make you feel good about yourself and enjoy being around you. I wouldn't fear rejection because If I was falling in love, I belive the other person would have close to the same feelings.
by Anonymous on July 2nd, 2008
i have feelings for someone and told them. now that person is alittle unsure of what to do. because they are married. If he loved his wife why are we having and keeping the affair going. he says my feelings dont scare him. Maybe someday he will wake up and see whats right in front of him.
by TheOriginalTaterTotB4Tjobaxter on May 4th, 2008
I am ususally the first one to say I love you. I like to think of myself as an honest person.
by Ruta on January 16th, 2008
If you believe that rejection is hard to live with, try to live with the fact that mabie that particular person felt the same about you.
by Anonymous on January 15th, 2008
I would put your feelings out there because you never know what tomorrow will bring! Then you would regret it!
by AnonymousGirl on January 10th, 2008
I've been in this situation more than once and usually I tell the other person how I feel so that it doesn't eat me up inside for not doing anything about it. Sometimes I didn't and it doesn't really bother me, but those were the crushes that didn't matter that much.. I guess. If you think about it, even if they reject you, it's still good for them. For instance, some guys have told me that they liked me that I didn't like back. However, when I'm feeling really down, I can go back and say ..... "Well, these people liked me back then, so I can't be all that bad.." It would also be good for you because you tried. :)
by cherokee0415 on December 9th, 2007
I wouldn't tell the person right then because you don't know how the other person feels about you. Never rush into telling the person because you don't want to get rejected. Everyone gets rejected so, if the person doesn't feel the same way you do just stay as friends and always have someone else in mind!
by Dedao Capoeira-seed on November 18th, 2007
If you're a woman, go ahead and say it.
If you're a guy, if you say it first, the relationship is pretty much over.
by shanshan on October 31st, 2007
I WOULD ASK THE MAN ABOUT HIS FEELING TOWARDS ME AND IF IT IS WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR THEN I WILL POOR OUT MY HEART TO HIM A LET HIM NO WHAT IS WHAT
by Zack on October 30th, 2007
I just don't give a f**k anymore. So, I would tell her.
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by Blank Savage on October 8th, 2007
I do agree but have one question Does fear of being rejected make someone immature? Especially if that person keeps falling for woman who unfortunately put more of an emphasis on physical appearance then what is on the inside.
by asweetguy4u2know saya R.I.P Nelson on October 8th, 2007
Sweetguy, fear of rejection just makes you afraid, not immature. Choosing a shallow woman over and over, I'm afraid, does indicate immaturity or shallowness. I understand that biologically, physical attraction can be important, however we both know there are many physically attractive people who are not shallow. When you are ready, I'm sure you will look for qualities that are truly important to you in a committed relationship.
by Sugar-licious a bellydancing rum maiden on October 8th, 2007
Sugar it is almost always nothing to do with looks. Most of them have not been females that the majority of shallow guys would even give a second look to.Quite a few were what many would consider fat I think what the main problem was in many of those cases was they were overly self confident in their looks and ability to get a good looking man. I have never been a self confident person and I think a big part of it stems from my dad always telling me I was worthless and would never amount to anything. I learned at 14 that looks don't matter it is the personality that counts.
by asweetguy4u2know saya R.I.P Nelson on October 8th, 2007
unfortunately alot of them had great personalities but were way too self confident.
by asweetguy4u2know saya R.I.P Nelson on October 8th, 2007
I think it is a good sign that you are attracted to women who are self-confident and have great personalities. Most people are attracted to confident people with good personalities. I want you to know that I would never say anything to intentionally hurt you. You must work on liking yourself. I think this is more about than it is about them. It's a really hard thing to do when you have rec'd messages from your role model that are intensely negative. Also, it doesn't happen overnight. My email is on my profile. I am definitely not a professional, just a friend who's been there.
by Sugar-licious a bellydancing rum maiden on October 8th, 2007
thanks Sugar I might take you up on that I appriciate it.
by asweetguy4u2know saya R.I.P Nelson on October 8th, 2007
Good, it'll be great for my ego!
by Sugar-licious a bellydancing rum maiden on October 8th, 2007
lol ok and btw you didn't say anything hurtful I just wanted to be sure that you knew I was not a shallow person myself that focuses on physical qualities.
by asweetguy4u2know saya R.I.P Nelson on October 8th, 2007
I can tell that you are not a shallow person.
by Sugar-licious a bellydancing rum maiden on October 8th, 2007
Blank Savage: I just found out that this "thanks" at the beginning of this thread was your last word on AB. What a nice last word!
I thank you for your participation on here.
by iwnit on October 12th, 2007
loves all about taking chances! do it!
by bbunny on December 17th, 2007
when someone else actually likes me, i will let you know if i ever said anything.....i haven't opened my mouth yet...........lol
by what is my nickname on January 15th, 2008
hey what if the one you love is a somebody and youre a noobody.although he is still young,still theres a bizarre age gap between you and him,and he's a real professional and youre still stuck in school...based on your instincts and obviously it is clear and really obvious that he's interested in you too...would you still tell him you love him,?
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by Loy on August 3rd, 2008
It cant hurt to say how you feel, if they say no then back off and give them some time.
by mattdahack on August 29th, 2008
yah you have a point there...thanks:)
by Loy on September 16th, 2008
If you are under the legal age of consent and he is over the age of consent I would recommend you not go there. It could cause tremendous problem.
by Sugar-licious a bellydancing rum maiden on September 16th, 2008
Oh how i miss thee Blank ~ {{{{Yadalanh my friend}}}} ♥
by Anonymous on October 10th, 2008
aaaw hugs sweet charm! seems like forever since blank was around!xx
by Nurse_Lizziebee dreaming ninja on January 15th, 2009
Thanks Lizzie ~ it's so nice to see you again :)
by Anonymous on January 18th, 2009
thanks! I dont come on here so much any more, but always good to come see some of the golden oldies on here :)
by Nurse_Lizziebee dreaming ninja on January 18th, 2009