Have you been disappointed by a fellow AB user?
by 
misshell on fire
ANSWERS: 24
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Not really.
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in a sense
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More than one, but I won't name them.
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Oh yeah. Even in my short time on AB, I have seen some people that I think must be good decent folk, by the questions and answer they have posted. Then they go off and flame someone in comments because they have differing views.
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Once or twice. I'm only ever really disappointed by the actions or inactions of people I care about or cared about at some stage. Anyone outside of that description doesn't bother me at all.
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I am not going to name names but yesterday, there was some personal attacks being launched against certain members and I feel that it was childish and un-called for. Thankfully, the question and entire threads were rejected and need not come up to the surface again.
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I've been amused by them in a laugh at them kinda way - I wouldn't consider that disappointment.
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There are a few that I care not to name who have not lived up to the high standards that they profess to uphold.
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No, but if it was because they did something I wouldn't expect them too, it's a disappointment on my assumption of that person, not the person. The only case where I'd actually be disappointed in an AB member I've never met is if they decide to let everyone know they are a racist, kiddie porn user/distributer, and other things of that nature.
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A couple of times..but I think sometimes when you are disappointed it is your own fault for expecting more from the person than he/she is willing or able to give in terms of friendship. You can't get angry at a cat for killing a bird..it's the cat's nature to do so. So I think if we are more careful about our expectations of others, we are far less likely to be disappointed. :)
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Not really - I don't expect a great deal from people so whatever i see that's good and right is a bonus :)
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Yes, on one occasion, (I think I had made it to the leaderboard too quickly) a group of Highly ranked and respected ABers decided to follow me about questioning everything I had written and in general trying to bully me. At the time I was in a very low emotional state and their behaviour upset me so much I was off AB completely for 5 weeks. I then thought what the hell? they do not know me and they have no bearing on my life, and I returned. Two of them were decent enough to apologise for what had happened. A couple of the others are not here anymore.
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I don't know most of these people. I have been disappointed by an answer before. Or...more so the ignorance of people. We, as human beings and as people, have a lot to learn.
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When they resort to name calling and belittling I am disappointed in how they handle the situation.
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Nah, not really.
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Yes I can say I have unfortunately.
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yeah i have a bit, the answers you get sometimes can be a little patronising or make you feel like your wasting their time, or they just make you feel like you about 2ins tall. i think some answers are a little pointless too really on the other hand i have recieved some really helpful advice on here, and there are some really charming people who are lovely to talk with,ask some excellent thought provoking questions, and give honest and factual answers in a not-so-patronising way. i think these people make up for the disappionting ones
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actually not really. I have had a couple plesantly suprise me though when they turned out not to be what I initially thought they were.
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Yes a few times. But I guess I should know by now that it always happens as it's happened in the past. You get friendly with people, even feel that they are on the same wavelength or thoughts as you, and they disappoint you or hurt you in some way. Then you remember that not everyone is possibly as they seem, and it was just your own fault for letting those feelings get ahead of you and feel they meant something else. People are here, or anywhere on the internet for different reasons, their OWN reasons and those reasons are probably very different from your. They may have their own agendas and goals that conflict with yours. I am just here to learn, and share and have friends, be apart of the community, help people. But others may be here just to use others and take, not just give. So I step back from them and try to give them room to be themselves without hurting me too much. When you're quiet and introspective, it's hard for people to tell when you've been hurt. Or maybe they don't care. I guess I need to patch up some of my thick Web skin, things are starting to creep in:-(
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Why should you be disappointed? It's not your fault what they do. Just because you think highly of someone does not mean that they are not capable of doing something you perceive as low. It's a good idea to learn to expect the lowest of the people you think the highest of. I don't know who said this, but I saw it on an icon somewhere before: "Learn to expect the lowest from the people you thought the highest of." If anyone cares to tell me who said that in a comment here, I'll thank you. :)
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A few times...nothing to serious.
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No. They just people baby.
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Yes, several, myself included.
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