This is hard, I'm from NH, and I want to go to college out of state, specifically, TX. My parents wont let me leave, and I really want to. I don't need help financially. How can I get my parents to accept what I want, and not what they want for me?
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First of all, what the hell kinda parents do you have??? (rethorical question) First of all, they should be thrilled and honored that you are the one who wants to go to college, I congradulate you on that. Secondly, I advise you to prove how independent you can be and how little you need them around you, this will help ease their concerns about you wanting to come home halfway through your first semester out there at Texas, and if they don't want you to apply to the school, apply anyway, online is usually free, but if you want to send in a paper app. and your parents won't give you a check, ask a friends parents or another family mmber to write a check, it's your life, go to texas. Good luck with that one.
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They are just really worried about you being so far away. Try to be understanding of their fears and maybe try to compromise. But, you are of age and you said money doesn't matter, so it's really your decision. I made the mistake of going against my oldest daughter when she wanted to move out at 18. Needless to say, she moved out anyway. It turned out okay, and I'm sure you will be fine also.
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Presumably you will be 18 by the time you start college? If so, your parents have no legal ability to stop you. You may never get them to accept what you want, but you should think very carefully about their reasons for disagreeing with you. Are you going so far for a specific reason? Are you aiming for a specific major that isn't offered at most colleges? Is there another option that will cause less conflict? Perhaps you could take your first year courses closer to home, then transfer as a sophmore.... In the end though, it is your choice. Take some time to figure out the emotional reasons - as well as the logistical ones - that are leading you to Texas. Then you need to figure out your priorities with those reasons.
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Get the info on the school you want to go to, and compare where they want you to go. Show them how this school and its culture is what you need. What state are you from?
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I don't have this problem with my parents but my mom did. Her Dad made her go to a school in-state and then picked all of her classes for her. She ended up leaving on her own at 17 and working to pay for college. My advice is to continue talking to your parents, but if they keep saying no, you should just leave. As scary as it may seem, if you're over 18, you can legally do so. Eventually your parents will understand that they have to accept it. You can also talk with the college about it. Basically you can chicken out and stay where you are, or you can miss the oppritunity of a lifetime and may end up regretting it for the rest of your life.
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I have the same prob lol, my parents are ultra-controlling and I am a huge chicken. Im 18 and currantly attending college. I have tried to gently pull away but it didnt work. They have since cut my school funding and my cell phone. But thats ok. I know what I want and Im going for it. As my bf loves to tell me "If you dont take the chance, you will never learn to live" Good Luck!!
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