It's a terrible place to be in - I was there 32 years ago. It took a lot of time, but as my husband saw that he could trust me, we overcame the problem. I don't know that there's anything you can do other than give it time and let him see that you are trustworthy and not like his ex.

Leave and don't look back. I speak from personal experience. I had an ex g/f who was exactly like your husband. She was in a bad marriage with a husband that cheated on her all the time. She was ok in the beginning but a few weeks in she began acussing me of looking at every woman that passed by. I could not even say hi to another female without being accused of cheating and it got so bad she got me fired from 2 jobs because she thought at one that I was messing with my boss and at the other a co worker who drove me home. Nothing happened with either but she would not believe it. After getting me fired the second time for harassing the poor girl I decided enough was enough and I left. Unless this man gets some serious psychological help he will only get worse. You are better leaving now than waiting for him to make your life hell on earth.

You can't do anything. This is something he needs to work out on his own. I would also say that I think he needs therapy to help him to over come this. I am sorry to say, but I don't see this relationship working out since trust is one of the four pillars of a relationship and he doesn't have the abilty to trust any more.

I have a similar situation. My husband came from a broken home with his parents both cheating on each other numerous times, getting remarried, and then cheating on the step-parents too. So he has trust issues (and other issues too) from that bad experience. But I think it will just take time for him to see that I'm not like that!

I don't think there's much you can do but give him time. Clearly he was very traumatized.

paranoia is a serious condition. i know, i have it....theres really nothing you can do except dont do anything to make him suspicious, and do everything you can to build up trust for you in him.

Have him go to therpy and learn to the leave the past alone in order to get on with his future. That is not in your reach you can send a life time trying to get him to see things as they are and if he is not willing nothing will change

There is nothing you can do except allow him to work it out. You can try to be supportive and understanding. Try to get him to talk about his issues with you.

I can only think of a few things. Unfortunately I am young and inexperienced, but I believe in talking things out. But you have to know how to manipulate your words and sentences well. You have to come to him with 100% trust and loyalty, accepting him for who he is. Telling him why it doesn't suit you maybe sliding on thin ice, so I would try to make him see the beauty of trusting each other, when you could almost feel each other in the distance, when you are a TEAM and not one against the other. That SHOULD work if you MAKE HIM FEEL THAT THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT...A TEAM. Perhaps so far you may have been on your defensive while he needed to feel your acceptance. That is why it will work only if you are mentally prepared to handle the argument and the judgments. As well as after you may bring up a good point such as it would be nice if you could ask his best friend to help you chose to pick a surprise because he may know him from a side that you don't. Or lets say if you are getting a ride home, say you would be able to take a metro but the reason you are taking this ride is to be home earlier and to see him sooner. As long as you make it about him, it should work. Hopefully it helped, however make sure to use your knowledge about him to your advantage, since what I wrote was not based on what kind of person he is.