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by .....----- on August 25th, 2007
Yes to spend on my trip to California.
by Little big mouth on August 25th, 2007
Yes, I want to buy my daughter a car for her sweet 16 birthday
by Browndog on April 27th, 2008
Another month in my apartment!
by Brand X on April 27th, 2008
I don't really have any money to save. When I do, I'm getting another (invisible) dental brace. My teeth have pretty much moved back since the first one, it bothers me a lot.
by Gabstar on April 24th, 2008
an overseas trip :D
by Zack on April 24th, 2008
I plan to buy a trip oversees.
by Seafaring Pirate on August 25th, 2007
New apartment with no roomates...*Crossing fingers*
by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on August 25th, 2007
the rest of my life...LOL...I'm retired
by Doggie S on July 21st, 2008
Yes, for another foreign trip, perhaps to China and Mongolia next year.
by amy on May 2nd, 2008
a boob job.
by mjp on May 2nd, 2008
I'm planning to buy myself a LIFESTLYE when I'm 65!
It's gonna be nice except that most all of my friends will be living in poverty because they have to have the Lexus, the flat screens, laptops, cell phones and all that other material JUNK right now, just to impress people that they don't even like!!
by corrupted filer on April 27th, 2008
Building a business
by Froggy on April 27th, 2008
Buy a retirement fund so i don't have to work till i'm old.
by APACHEmeansENEMY on April 27th, 2008
Right now I'm saving up to pay off a huge vet bill. Next will be for a house for myself and my family.
by Dmitri on April 27th, 2008
A decent phone, a car, and maybe an apartment, though that is lightyears away!
by CaptainHarley adores his life penguin on April 27th, 2008
New mufflers for my Harley, a new truck and travel trailer, and to help put my grandchildren through college.
by Kitt-tastrophy on April 27th, 2008
A much needed vacation for me and hubby!
by Kdmichaels on April 27th, 2008
Checking account is to pay the bills -- the lot rent, the utilities, insurance, etc. One account is for a down payment on my next vehicle (hopefully in a couple of years, after I've saved a little more. Other account is my "vacation fund/Christmas fund". And, I'm planning to open an account I'll call the "farm fund" for my dream of one day owning a little farm in the country.
by ImNotAnonymous-COAT of Maestro-ness on April 27th, 2008
Money to invest in stocks and real estate. And tons of musical equipment.
by Auntie Em on April 27th, 2008
Two college educations.
by hottkoko on April 24th, 2008
We are planning a destination wedding for 10/09.
by creamywhip on April 24th, 2008
im saving because its the wise thing to do,18 monthes after I seriously started to save I nearly have a 5 figure sum in the bank,I plan to buy an apple mac pro and also logik pro so I can produce my own music and next month may,I will buy it and have a couple of holidays too I work far too hard and need to get away from the english weather
by khammer on April 24th, 2008
House.
by EmmieLou on April 24th, 2008
Saving my money for a crash course in driving!
by Squirrel Face on April 24th, 2008
A Panasonic DXV 100B. It's a video camera that I'm going to use to shoot short films. I've rented one before, but it's time for me to pull the trigger and buy one for myself. =)
by Borderlinux on April 24th, 2008
Peace of mind to weather inevitable economic storms.
by Wide Awake @ has closing date woo hoo on April 24th, 2008
Drinks on the cruise to Spain and Portugal. :o)
by Jenniferocious on April 24th, 2008
I have money automatically taken out of my paycheck for retirement savings.
I also have my own savings accounts... money in there is for my honeymoon (this October), and then eventually, hopefully, a house.
by Simply99 -- Not a fan favorite. on April 24th, 2008
Saving my money for retirement, and plan to buy a worry free retirement. Have good investments now, and well on my way for a well secured retirement, whenever that will be, that is.
by Maximum Displacement on January 14th, 2008
My Volkswagen, always my Volkswagen. Paint (Gulf Blue), rims (BRM wide 5-lug), and a new engine (2276cc, with somewhere between 12 and 13:1 compression). It will be like a new car!
by Anonymous on January 14th, 2008
my future and in case of an emergency I can depend on me
by Firebrand on September 28th, 2007
I just like to save money so that I can do what I want when I wish to do it.
by Perfect Dark on September 28th, 2007
Possibly having to move. If not that, a new computer.
by Shelby on September 28th, 2007
I'm saving up to move. As soon as possible. I don't know where yet, but I'm sure you guys will be the first to know. lol.
by Gina on August 25th, 2007
I'm saving for a tummy tuck and a boob job.
by Ocean is gone... on August 25th, 2007
I'm saving money to get the **** out of here... lol
by Sahil on August 25th, 2007
Drum kit!
by Henderson on October 2nd, 2009
to buy a company.
by Anonymous on November 14th, 2008
I suppose it has changed a lot in that amount of time. it is a very busy place now ant the traffic is very heavy. lol
by Anonymous on November 13th, 2008
Yep! Saving my money to go to Branson, Mo. JUST to see the Liverpool Legends.
by fgreen on October 21st, 2008
my husband pays the rent and groceries, and i pay the phone, cable, and internet, gas for car, the rest is saved into my savings to move next year.
by haggis on September 9th, 2008
i don't save money, i just spend it.
by Anonymous on August 14th, 2008
A Kymco People 250 scooter!
by Anonymous on July 9th, 2008
gas.
by Mystybunny on June 15th, 2008
a college education (hopefully grad school).
by aishwarya on June 3rd, 2008
For leading a luxurious life after my retirement.
by eric on May 23rd, 2008
Your Mom
by Tempter on April 27th, 2008
First step minions then... THE WORLD!!!!HAHAHAHA. knee before Tempter!
by needtoknow on April 27th, 2008
Im saving for a trip to Hawaii. I've been before and to me its the most beautiful place I've seen so far. Ive traveled often,but nothing has even come close.
by Butterfly69870 on April 27th, 2008
So I can move back to Florida soon.
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Coolness! Have a good time.
by Yeahwell... on August 25th, 2007
thanks just 13 days left to save some more. are you saving for something?
by .....----- on August 25th, 2007
Not really, I wouldn't know what to save for.
by Yeahwell... on August 25th, 2007
save for a trip and make it happen.
by .....----- on August 25th, 2007
Yes, I was thinking about taking my kids on a cruise next spring or summer.
by Yeahwell... on August 25th, 2007
Awesome!!! i hope you guys have a lot of fun.
by .....----- on August 25th, 2007
The problem is that my mother will be angry if I don't take her, but she would absolutely RUIN the whole thing.
by Yeahwell... on August 25th, 2007
Then talk to her and make her know that you need to do this alone with your family and that you love her but is just something you need to do and don't feel guilty about it she has to understand, she may get mad for a while but when she understands, everything will be ok. hope this helps.
by .....----- on August 25th, 2007
It would help if she wasn't so petty and controlling. There's really no good way to get around it, which is the reason I probably wont do it on second thought.
by Yeahwell... on August 25th, 2007
sorry to hear that.
by .....----- on August 25th, 2007
o well. no biggie :)
by Yeahwell... on August 25th, 2007
I had a controlling mother. I know exactly how you feel. There comes a time when you have to break the cycle for your own mental sanity. The fact that she would make it miserable for you means that she considers her needs and desires more important than yours, and obviously that of her own grandchildren. Taking the step of going on vacation without her could be a first step at setting boundaries. And if she gets upset or excited and tries to make a big stink, refuse to talk with her until she calms down.
by - retroglide - on August 25th, 2007
That's probably a pretty good idea. It's just so hard not to feel guilty. I can't even go to the movie or out to eat with my kids w/o feeling bad b/c "She's tired of being in that house." "She never goes anywhere" (which by the way is not true)
by Yeahwell... on August 25th, 2007
Of course it's not true. And the goal is to make you feel guilty and she is succeeding. And as long as her tactics allow her to get her way, why would she try anything else? By forcing change on her in a firm and neutral way, she will have to search for another way to express herself that is respectful to you and your children. Don't be rude. Don't indulge her statements. Use a calm matter of fact tone that you would use with a child. Otherwise, you will deal with this until the day she dies. Think about that.
by - retroglide - on August 25th, 2007
I've never thought about it that way. That's a really good perspective. I'd better get a handle on it soon. The genetics for the women in our family weigh on the side of her being around until she's in her 90's. She's so headstrong and demanding, she'll probably outlive everyone.
by Yeahwell... on August 25th, 2007
Sorry, I had to pick up my daughter. I didn't mean to leave you hanging. How old are you and your children? And did you father die, or are they divorced?
by - retroglide - on August 25th, 2007
LOL! I had to pick up my daughter too and just got back. I'm 47. I have a 21 year old daughter and a 16 year old daughter. My father passed away in May.
by Yeahwell... on August 25th, 2007
So..... since the passing of your father, I'm sure things are going to escalate. They did for me. And because of the death of my father, whom my mother also put guilt trips on, I was sympathetic for a few years. That's when I realized the overall picture. And it was causing nothing but anguish. And I found myself wishing she was dead. Talk about feeling guilty. That will do it. You have to set boundaries in motion. Not only will it relieve you, it will also help her. I know that sounds odd, but people who try to control situations do this because they've never had anyone stand up to them. Learning a new set of people skills can be fulfilling to them, as well as a HUGE relief for you.
by - retroglide - on August 25th, 2007
Sounds like great advice. Here's an example, however, I thought I'd give myself a "day-off" and not talk with her today. So I turned off the ringer in my house phone and left my cell phone in the car. She called 8 TIMES. When she couldn't get me, she tried to call my 16 yr old, she couldn't get her b/c she was at work. In a TOTAL panic she called my 21 year old 4 times, who was out to eat with her friends and trying to have a good time and who had to drop everything and come by to "see if I was ok". That's just a small portion of the kind of stuff that drives me insane.
by Yeahwell... on August 25th, 2007
Yes. Control..... And what has been the relationship with your children and their grandma?
by - retroglide - on August 25th, 2007
They haven't spent a lot of time with her (guess why...). She and my dad lived in another state until he passed away. I felt sorry for her being by herself so I helped her move here, but of course she still complains.
by Yeahwell... on August 25th, 2007
OK, so we are not talking about a grandma that helped raise them?
by - retroglide - on August 25th, 2007
Oh no. She's always been too self-centered to do anything like that, which is fine, b/c she's not someone that is in a state to raise kids anyway.
by Yeahwell... on August 25th, 2007
Your children do NOT have an attachment to her that is rooted in childhood memories of grandma and all the good stuff that grandma's can mean. Here's something you need to take into consideration, she's been uprooted from her home. That's traumatic. While it doesn't excuse her behavior, it can't be overlooked. Recognizing this may be a good tool in future negotiations with her. It's always good to use the feel, felt, found strategy. And by this I am saying, try to apply this in conversation if you can. You could say something along the lines of, "I understand how you feel, I've felt similar feelings myself, and this is what I have found out." And of course you need to fill in the blanks as to what applies. It's equally important that you tell your children that there are boundaries that are going to be set, and that you all come together in agreement. If one of you stray, she will focus on the one who is weak.
by - retroglide - on August 25th, 2007
She's more vulnerable now than she's ever been. I would suspect that she also put those guilt trips on your father. That's what my mother did. And so it was the story of their life. But it can't be that way now, or else you will end up hating her, if you don't already have some thoughts along those lines.
by - retroglide - on August 25th, 2007
Those are some very good suggestions. She drove my dad crazy, part of the reason he died was because of her demands, whining, constant neediness. She made is life miserable, but he always took up for her and refused to do anything about it.
Even though I try to tell myself that I love her and I just hate the way she behaves..etc...I really and truly do hate her (I know that sounds terrible). She has NEVER been around for me. She lost it, when I was about 16 and needed her most. I really feel like my mother died then and never came back, I don't know if I will ever recover. Maybe I just need a therapist. :)
by Yeahwell... on August 25th, 2007
I understand exactly how you feel. I don't think your father died because of this. Although I watched my own father wither away in his late years with no outside stimulation because of my mother's controlling behavior. They eventually went nowhere and did nothing, and had no friends. And I did blame her in some ways for the miserable ending he had. I hated my mother also for this and the past. But now you have to deal with her, and you CANNOT let this continue. If you feel you're not strong enough to handle it, then by all means seek counseling. On the other hand, you MUST realize you are the adult in charge now. She is NOT in charge. She is dependent on you for her happiness. That's your "ace in the hole". It comes down to your ability to set boundaries that are healthy and reasonable. She's NOT in charge anymore. And with a gentle but firm hand, you can enforce your power.
by - retroglide - on August 26th, 2007
For what's its worth, when my mother died, I was relieved. But as time goes by, thoughts of wishing for her death crept in on me like a Hell I've never known. It's this future unexpected Hell I'm trying to help you with. I don't want you to go through it later, much less now.
by - retroglide - on August 26th, 2007
That sounds exactly like my parents. I am very much afraid of following in their footsteps.
It's not so much I wish for her death as I just want her to leave me alone and I don't feel that I would shed a tear if she were to pass away.
by Yeahwell... on August 26th, 2007
I've decided to follow your excellent advice and treat her in an unemotional, matter of fact matter (just like I would with a coworker). I'm sure I will get a lot of angry phone calls about "what's wrong, you act funny!". But I'll just continue to be polite and unemotional.
Last night when my daughter got in the car, instead of continuing to talk with her and putting my daughter off as usual, I told my mom that she was there and I would talk to her later. That felt really good.
by Yeahwell... on August 26th, 2007
Sorry cuttergirl, that we used your answer to blab on and on. :)
by Yeahwell... on August 26th, 2007
Yes, me too cuttergirl.
@yeahwell.... Good for you! And if you need support, you may email me at anytime. And thanks for allowing me to interrupt where I wasn't really invited.
by - retroglide - on August 26th, 2007
No problem. I need all the help I can get. I really appreciate it. Thank you very much.
by Yeahwell... on August 26th, 2007