Okay, I had to ask a lesbian if this was true, and she gave me the following answer: There are some lesbians, just as there are people of any sexual orientation, that believe strongly that a person's sexual preference is part of them; that they are born as gay or staight. Most lesbians who dislike bisexual women feel that these woman are really lesbians, but are trying to conform to society's standards and be with men, but then are following their own feelings which prefer women. Bisexuality is still a subject debated by both gay and straight people. While many believe that bisexuality is something that a person chooses, others agree that the tendency to want to be intimate with someone of both the same and the opposite sex must be a trait that a person is born with. I know that might have been more than you needed to answer your questions, but I hope the second and third paragraph did the trick. Happy Holidays...

Many lesbians are mistrustful of bisexual women, not because they believe bisexuality is a myth, but because they are afraid of investing any emotional energy in them. A lot of women who are primarily "straight" are just toying with bisexuality, and will wind up "playing" and "experimenting" with the lesbian, ultimately rejecting them for men. That can be especially painful---not only for obvious reasons---but because it reinforces the social message that a woman "can never be as good as a man." Being a lesbian is difficult enough without exposing oneself to feeling like a man's sloppy seconds. And, even if a woman is genuinely bisexual and sincere in her affections towards the lesbian, it's not very likely that she can withstand the social pressure to go back to men---she'd have to "come out" and risk losing status, family, children, job, home, benefits... whatever. Many lesbians don't "dislike" bisexuals, per se---it's just that they know better than to date one.

I don't deny the other reasons given here, since it is certainly possible for different leasbian women to have different and multiple reasons to dislike bisexual women. However, I have heard another, additional one that I would like to add here. For those lesbians that think of men as "gross," they may dislike having relationships with bisexual women if they know they have had sexual relations with men. While it kind of seems like a way of saying that the bisexual women got guy cooties, even I can understand. Afterall, I've used to think about my boyfriend's (now ex-boyfriend) ex-girflfriends and think, "Eeeew, gross."

Like many questions, this one has multiple answers. Most of them are covered here, but I'd like to add one more that I used to feel when first dating my bisexual girlfriend. Even if you're certain that your lover isn't simply toying with your heart, that she's already come out (no easier for bisexuals than it is for lesbians,) and that she loves being with you, there tends to be a feeling that she will always have a secret craving for men that you simply can't accomodate. The fear then is that she will always have an unsatisfied sex life, or that she'll simply leave. The key is communication. If your relationship is open and honest enough, you're able to talk through those issues and decide whether or not you're able to either trust them when they say they don't miss being with men or find some way to accomodate them when they say they do. Ideally, this sort of communication should take place BEFORE you start having sex and invest too much, but I know that's not always a reality. I love sex - which is why I wait until I know it's going to be good rather than ruin it with clumsy nights and bruised egos.

I think there's truth in all these answers- however, I have heard a lot of 100% gay women making derogatry remarks about bisexual women to the effect that most bisexual women are really straight, and just using the "bisexual" tag to try and turn their boyfriends on (as so many men get off on the idea of watching two girls together), thus somehow cheapening the idea of lesbian relationships somewhat. I'm not sure that all lesbians think this, but it's certainly an issue for a fair few.

not trying 2 sound funny, but do u lesians use a dildo? well if so its cos bi girls get regular cock!

Maybe I shouldn't comment, because I think almost all of the above comments were well thought out, but I can think of a couple reasons that they MIGHT feel that way. The first would be that the lesbians in question might consider bi-sexual women opportunists or players, and definitely not trustworthy. The second is that historically individuals or groups who have been the object of bigotry are more likely to be bigots themselves, even when they are trying not to be. Please note that that these are only two possibilities, and I mean no offense. Usually, if you ask 2 people why they dislike something, you'll get 3 different answers!

i am not a lesbian, i've been told that i'm bi, but don't know if this is really true..reason is, i can be sexual w a woman but i don't think i could ever be in a relationship with a woman...not 'cause of "society, family, etc" but because i like to be a bit submissive sexually and up to now haven't met a woman who's been able to bring that out of me...friends tell me, however that if i can cross that sexual-with-a-woman line, i'm officially bi, so hey, whatever...and yes, some lesbians have shy away from me when i told them i was "bi"...in my case, they were right to

I don't dislike bi women. I have been hurt by my own expectations in relationship to a couple of bisexual women. I also used to blame them and say they were taking a safe option until "Mr. Right" came along. It seems to have been what happened, because they are with men. As well as the "turning the guy on thing" they would often make men they had been involved with jealous. Also had that with exclusively lesbian,making their exes jealous, so it is just an experiential thing.

Because often times "bisexual" girls are in reality mostly heterosexual girls who like to get drunk and make out with girls in front of boys to get attention. Granted this is COMPLETELY a generalization, it does happen rather frequently. This practice makes it difficult for us lesbians to determine if a girl is truly bisexual and worth perusing, or if she is "bisexual" and only likes girls to get boys to like her.

they may think they're just in it for the sex

because a hell of a lot are so far up them selves its a joke....and they look down there noses at most thing ....so very precious ....how do I know because I have seen it time and time again over the 40 years of being a sexually active bisexual ...and I have a number of bisexual and lesbian lady friends who will say the same thing ...even my soul mate who is bisexual her self agree's

im a lesbian and i think bi sexual stage is the testing stage to see which way you wanna go.alot of people stay bisexuals for a while and in my my i think thy confussed about what the want! but thats just my thoughts!

i can only tell you my personal experience: the lesbians i got involved with hated that they couldn't give me EVERYTHING a man could give me, and i guess in a way felt they weren't good enough? like they weren't 'sacrificing' guys for? albeit, i may have been involved with some very insecure people, who knows..not trying to judge....i never understood why they didnt focus on what THEY could give me that a man couldn't . . . . in the end, they just seemed resentful that i "got the best of both worlds" (yes, thats a quote) . . . . if that is true, they knew i was bi/knew what they were getting involved in from the moment they met me, so...whatevs

It's because some people have their insecurities and can't deal with them. The gay community comes up with as many myths and mistruths about bisexuals as anyone else, which is hilarious given how much they resent it when others do this to them. They want to accuse bisexuals of being disloyal, of cheating on them or leaving them, when in reality there are as many cheaters in the gay and straight community as the bi world. You are either a cheater, or you aren't. Being attracted to both sexes doesn't change that. I'm monogamous, bi, and yes, I exist. And I'm certainly not alone. Fortunately for me, I don't dislike groups of people just because they are different than I am.

Lesbians always think that bi women will leave them for men. They also think bi women are greedy. On a personal note, I am bi and would not leave a woman for a man.

I like a lot of the thoughtful responses to this question. There is much truth here. I am bi. The skepticism of some lesbians can be hurtful, but I also see the practical and rational thinking that often underlies it. I have loved both men and women, and have mostly had very wonderful relationships, beginning with my first love, my 7th grade girlfriend. I think that my style and personality are different from many lesbians I know. I don't know if bi women in genearl tend to be like me. The women I attract and am most attracted to resemble classically feminine heterosexual women by personality, social/cultural affect, appearance and style. Yes, lipstick lesbian is the description that tends to stick, usually meant rather unkindly. No wonder my lesbian side appears to be unconvincing to many lesbian women. My feelings about women run deep, and my deepest, longest-lived relationships have been with lesbians. Yet these women all appeared in style, interest, and affect much like me. There is nothing unreal about my attraction to women, but my lesbian partners have also not fit in so easily with lesbian culture. I like lesbians and have many lesbian friends, but I can also accept and empathize with the skepticism directed toward me. The part that hurts is the implication that my feelings are not "real," or that I am denying my "real" self. I reject those unspoken acusations because of my history, and because I believe that I am unrepressed and true to myself.

I am a lesbian and I don't dislike bisexual women. I think the reason why some lesbians do not want relationships with bisexual women is because they are afraid that she will be influenced by society to just stick with men.

maybe because they think bisexuals are greedy

in my opinion i think it is becuz they don't want to be someones science expermient they probly think there's a better chance of them getting hurt