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by Yahoo101 on August 17th, 2007

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My husband is in jail. He was found guilty of drunk driving. I have a son who is 6 years old. Should I tell him the truth or Should I make some exucse? Dad is always on business? I need a help.

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  • by candycakes loves j. bell on August 17th, 2007

    candycakes loves j. bell

    I think you should tell your son how long his father will be gone for, and that he is gone for making a serious mistake. I wouldn't tell him specifically that it was for drunk driving because he might not completely understand that. I would wait a few years before explaining to him the dangers of drinking and driving.

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  • by Michie on October 2nd, 2007

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    Small children are often more intelligent than we give them credit for. Honesty is always best, pared down in a way a child can understand. I'm sure there's a way to explain to a child about how there are important rules to follow, even for grownups (laws), and that breaking the rules can get you punished, just like it does at home.

    {I don't think I'd word it *exactly* that way, but you get the idea.)

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  • by Babycakes on August 17th, 2007

    Babycakes

    Little kids have big ears and if he overheard something he might be scared. You should tell him and explain it to his level of understanding. Kids deserve the truth but in a tactful way. The truth is less scary then what he is imagining. Good Luck:)

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  • by Cynstriss on August 17th, 2007

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    I would be honest. It will only hurt him of he should somehow find out later. I suggest you will tell him how this was a mistake his father made, and that when we make a mistake, we can learn great lessons from them. Your son is at a great age to begin teaching him about responsibility.

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  • by Shopping Sheryl - home from the hospital on August 17th, 2007

    Shopping Sheryl - home from the hospital

    I think you have to tell him, because I think you need to take him there to see his father on visiting days.

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  • by anonymous on August 17th, 2007

    anonymous

    Tell him the truth, he will understand.

    It will help teach him that there are always consequences to certain choices we make in life.

    With an obviously loving caring mother such as yourself I think he will probably grow up into a fine young man. :)

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  • by Saltlick on October 2nd, 2007

    Saltlick

    I would tell him. It's better than having him learn half the truth, or an inaccurate version.
    If dad was the family income your son is going to notice you two being on lean times. He also might want to visit his father, even if in jail, especially if he will be there for a long time.
    Dad did something very bad and is being punished for it, that's one of Life's lessons and your son might as well understand it.

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  • by wookieblu on October 2nd, 2007

    wookieblu

    tell him. he can learn from it. but make sure he still loves his dad. tell him on his level

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  • by -O-uknow on October 2nd, 2007

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    A six year old is not ready for adult "Truth". Tell him only what he can bear.

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  • by mur48 on October 25th, 2010

    mur48

    i would say tell him and let it be. Then have your husband explain his behaviour
    when he gets home. That way he learns to questions things and not fear his father.

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  • by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on October 2nd, 2007

    P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines

    You need to tell him the truth. If not he'll be so confussed and upset when he does find out the truth that he won't trust you anymore. Especially if he hears it from somebody else.

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  • by R U Sirius on October 2nd, 2007

    R U Sirius

    Children don't need to know everything about mom and dad. This is one of them. I would tackle this issue when your son is much older especially if alcoholism is a factor and it wasn't just a one time mistake.

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  • by Retired From The Internet on October 25th, 2010

    Retired From The Internet

    Tell him the truth when you're explaining to him why you got a divorce.

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