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by Shelby on July 27th, 2007

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If someone starts an apology by saying "I'm sorry you..." is it really an apology?

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  • by Norman_Outside the lines on July 27th, 2007

    Norman_Outside the lines

    No it putting the blame on you.
    example
    1) I am sorry you misunderstood (your fault)
    2 ) I am sorry I did not make myself clear. (my fault)

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  • by katydid15 on July 27th, 2007

    katydid15

    No it is not. It's a cop out. "I'm sorry you got hurt" takes no responsibility for causing the hurt.

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  • by Znicest on July 27th, 2007

    Znicest

    I hate when people say that...Now-a-days sorry is just an excuse...if the was truly sorry they would of never did what they did.....My little nephew thinks "i'm sorry" is a way for him to do something bad, like its ok because he said I'm sorry. Its the same with adults!

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  • by Carmella on July 27th, 2007

    Carmella

    I think you'd have to listen to the rest to know.
    The person could genuinely be sorry that you feel a certain way about something, but isn't sorry for their own actions say...which I think is fair enough.
    Or, they could be taking the responsibility for a situation and putting it all on you, rather than taking some themselves.

    Context is important, in my opinion.

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  • by inconsequential on July 27th, 2007

    inconsequential

    No, it's condescension.

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  • by Tamilze on March 24th, 2008

    Tamilze

    That can just as easily be the start and finish of an apology as anything else.

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  • by m4dm4nsgirl on March 14th, 2008

    m4dm4nsgirl

    NO way.....not even close..my parents have always done this to me and it is just placing the blame on you!!

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  • by Freddy Says remove all moderation points on March 14th, 2008

    Freddy Says remove all moderation points

    If the next word is 'bastard', then no

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  • by A on March 14th, 2008

    A

    I need to know the rest of the "apology" before I decide. ;)

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  • by Penny The Wise on July 27th, 2007

    Penny The Wise

    No. "I'm sorry YOU felt bad about..." That just makes me angry. Why try to apologise if you don't mean it? Grrrr.

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  • by BenThere HR on July 27th, 2007

    BenThere HR

    It depends, "I'm sorry you didn't come to my party" or "I'm sorry you're so dumb you forgot about my party". It could be replaced with "It's too bad".

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  • by Galeanda on July 27th, 2007

    Galeanda

    It depends on the circumstances. Maybe they aren't to blame. Maybe they are just commiserating with you, they are sorry you're hurt, they have fellow feeling for your pains or that something so bad happened to you. They could say "I'm sorry you misunderstood me. This is what I meant_________" I never take it that it's my fault. My friends don't treat or talk to me that way so I never hear it in that light.

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  • by Littlemisswallflower on July 27th, 2007

    Littlemisswallflower

    Depending.

    For example

    If you say
    "I'm sorry you idiot!"

    Perhaps you really are appologizing for something you did, however you're also creating another thing you have to appologize for.

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  • by miRi hates social norms and regulations on March 24th, 2008

    miRi hates social norms and regulations

    well if it's "i'm sorry you got hurt in the process, i didn't mean to" then yea it's really an apology
    but if it's along the lines of "i'm sorry you don't get it," or "i'm sorry you didn't do..."
    then no - but it might lead to one. depends on the topic probably

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